Would you shame your partner for having dark under eye circles?

[Anonymous]

Took this before bedtime, without make up and filter. I didn't groom my eyebrows lol

Since its hereditary, I've always had this. Plus my deep set eyes makes it looks even more obvios which gives me an appearance of being tired. So, he was like "in your old photos you didn't have that ( I wore make up) "it could be a deficiency in your body and its telling you" he has told me that quite a number of times which made me feel very self conscious. I do get enough sleep, I eat healthy and exercise daily. Plus my BMI is within the normal range.

It's just makes me feel bad that I'm not really accepted in my usual self with him. He isn't perfect either his BMI is below 18 but I don't judge him :(.

[Little_Bumblebee]

No, I wouldn't shame a partner, that's not right.

Though it doesn't sound like your partner is shaming you. Rather it sounds like he's worried about you and trying to point it out so if there was something wrong with a deficiency in your body, you would be able to adjust it and get healtier.
Just talk with him about what you just wrote here and that you know it's hereditary and when he points it out it makes you feel this way.

[Asker]

Well had this conversation previously, and I have told him its hereditary. However, he brings it up again and it's been often, it makes me feel "ugly".

[JustMeh1234]

He is an idiot for making you feel bad about it. But the question here is why are you with someone like that? He should make you feel beautiful just like I guess you also make him feel handsome.

[Asker]

Do you think my eyes looks bad?

[Nick473]

Its not that much darker mine are like that too no big deal

[JustMeh1234]

No, I barely see the dark under your eyes. Is not that bad.

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

No, because I have them as well.
In my opinion it's really disrespectful to pressure someone or comment on something they can't change. My wife has a lazy eye and I would never dream to make fun of her or pressure her for it.
Sometimes we tease each other about it or my short height like when we were in school, but it's something of a remembrance, not done to make each other feel bad at all.

[Mofunfour20]

If its unattractive we wouldn't be in a relationship. This is one of the reasons I would never date a woman i met online, you cheat yourself out of a genuine first impression

[Bee-Hatch]

No I wouldn't do something so cuntish as to shame someone for something they can't do anything about.

[pleasestopthis]

No, I would not. I don't like to make such comments to make my partner feel insecure. No partner currently, but with my ex I never said things about his body or face.

[PeacefulRainDrop]

Hell no if someone does that they dont deserve you!

[SaintsSinners]

Obviously not, I wouldn't shame my partner for anything, but suggest a beauty day or a relaxing weekend.

[Sue_Free]

I would just ask you if you're tired, and if you showed the slightest sign of fatigue, you'd be off to bed

[soe11]

No never, why should I?
Whoever does he is not a human.

[Massageman]

No. Get a concealer a couple shades lighter to help. I don't see any huge harm in that - - - - -

[Juxtapose]

I have that same hereditary trait and nobody has bitched.

[dragoblack]

I have them as well, wearing some skin-tone makeup helps

[Anonymous]

Nah, I also kind of actually like the look (don't get mad, it's just my opinion).

[bulletbob555]

Hereditary do you or your family also have an abundance of moles?

[Anonymous]

No, I think it looks kind of cute tbh haha

[FilmGuy93]

I would not shame my partner for that, no.

[0112358]

I've got them too.

[Iron_Man]

No but I would warn her that’s all

[Subarugirl]

Absolutely not

[JesseJayNeak]

Doesn't that mean that someone's tired?

[Sketti2021]

Course not