Why don't guys like girls with colored hair and piercings?

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I noticed that a lot of guys prefer girls without  colored hair and piercings. Just wanted to say that we are just as silly and friendly as girls without them 😊 right ladies?

NicoletteXO · Accepted Answer

Not sure if you just asked this question for validation.

However, it's patently clear that many men love girls with colored hair and piercings - check out any fetish site and it's all the rage. Fetish sites aside though, usually any guy who has tatts / piercings himself will prefer someone who is also that way inclined.

That said, if you want to know why a lot of men AREN'T into those things... it's because they denote certain qualities and attributes which don't resonate with those particular men.

Class and economic status is a big factor. While there may be certain Instagram stars or rock stars with tatts and colored hair who have money, I have never in my life met a well-educated person who comes from old money, who is emotionally well adjusted, who dresses this way. I'm not saying people who are educated and come from old money are any better than any other class of person necessarily, however a man who comes from those echelons will likely "read" a chick with blue hair and many piercings as lacking class (at least, the class that matters to him).

Another factor, as I alluded to, is related to the status of a person's emotions and character. Many women who go out of their way to dress differently do so because they have a point to prove. "Look at me, I'm so different, I'm so unique, I'm so renegade, I'm so wild". Of course this is not always the case, and I know some artists for whom this way of dressing is a genuine expression and emanation of their being. But for the most part, it's reactionary. It's a phase. It's people who often don't feel "right" emotionally (usually this is subconscious, so they will be very offended by this suggestion, but in 30 years time will agree with me). And they are donning a loud "character" through the piercings etc to indicate their specialness, and sometimes for a sense of belonging to an alternative 'tribe' (often they never felt a sense of belonging with their families). All of this is to say, if a man is emotionally stable and well regulated himself, he is unlikely to resonate with a woman who displays grooming which indicates she has a likelihood of being emotionally dysregulated. The more extreme the hair and piercings, the more likely he is to get this impression.

tupacs_only_wife · Accepted Answer

Its is true, people find me intimidating and judge me very fast due to my bull ring and i also love getting red extensions, and im also black so a lot of people find me intimidating yet im the most spineless human they would ever meet. Like bruv im shy and innocent af. The perks of looking intimidating is that people find it hard to interact with you, well if you're antisocial ofc

ObscuredBeyond · Accepted Answer

Piercings outside of earrings lead to disease risk, and are often a sign of mental illness more often than not. I've seen plenty of examples, even among one of my own sisters, of a strong correlation between navel piercing and mental instability.

Also, clown hair potentially identifies you as a part of Clown World. I've had too many negative experiences with Clown World NPCs to find one automatically attractive. Some women and unnatural hair can pull it off, without looking like total affronts to Nature and Nature's God. But they're very much the minority. Most parrot-haired freaks try to "pretty up" their hair - in a futile attempt to cover up how ugly their hearts are. But I seem to give off iconoclast energy or something. Because my mere presence causes these gals to betray their true nature - often before I even say anything!

And when that happens, something unnatural is hiding beneath their eyes. Something that hates without need for rhyme or reason. Possession in real life may not involve nuclear blue vomit or 360 head turns, like in the movies. But don't underestimate how ugly it can be.

zeitgeist057 · Accepted Answer

I think colored hair is attractive, at least the first couple weeks before it gets washed out. As for piercings, I don't really have anything against how they look and can be kind of cool looking. But the problem is I'm a very tactile and erotic person and metal is not a fun feeling for me.

I remember getting a bj from a girl with a tongue bar/post thing and she was rubbing it on my cock and I didn't like it at all. I also had a lover with a belly piercing that she really liked and that was fine, but when kissing her belly it was a detraction, rather than an enhancement. Same thing with kissing lips with metal in them. To give a comparison, imagine eating a delicious meal, then imagine eating that same delicious meal with some inedible foreign objects in it like sand or a pair of earrings. I even like to take earrings off my lovers when making love, because they get in the way of nibbling her ear lobes.

But hair color, yea that's hot. I'm actually a big anime fan and someone said "they are just trying to be anime girls", but I think that's fire.

Anonymous · Answer

One woman I'm interested in probably changes her color twice a year, at least. Not a lot of piercings, but that's just her... You'd never look at the "profile" and think "hair dyed in funky colors." We tend to agree on a lot of things, see things a similar way, and I'm a smidge intimidated and shy around her. But she's really cool.

I'm not really into a lot of piercings myself, but I'm cool with blue/pink/green hair personally - and small piercings, like a nose or belly button, won't freak me out. Having huge dangly loops in the ears because they're stretched, or massive face tats wouldn't be my thing generally. I tend to like the slightly punk-ish looking women, but a lot of them (around here, anyway) are way different religiously and politically speaking... and hardcore conservative or hardcore liberal, either way... just wouldn't be my thing as far as the type of women I'd want to date.

All that being said, I will do my best to get to know a woman before deciding if I think there could be something there. Having "robins egg blue" hair would not deter me.

worldscolide · Answer

Because, maybe not in your case, but 9 times out of 10, crazy colored hair, and multiple piercings usually means crazy psycho bitch and feminist, both of which I will not associate with..

Again not every one, you're possibly not like that, but just about every single one I have met is like that.

BCA6010 · Answer

Crazy hair colors have long been associated with immature attention-whores (as well as sometimes literal whores), so that's been a niche market for a long time. It also almost never looks good because it requires too much work to maintain. Most professional work places that don't directly deal with hair and beauty products will also make employees cover it or switch to a natural tone, so the automatic assumption by men is that a woman with a weird color in her hair is that she's not particularly ambitious, either. In more recent years, pink and purple hair especially has gained affiliation with the most radical (and often sexually deviant) members of the feminist movement, so most guys won't even bother approaching.

TruthBringer · Answer

Simple: Because those who often have these things are often the very ones who have issues (self-harm, depression, mental instability, feminism etc.). Any man with a good head on his shoulders would not want anything to do with this. And the only ones who have issues with this happen to be the very women who feel spoken to and fit the categories I've previously mentioned. They go on about shaming these men and call them "misogynists" or what not, while the reality is, they themselves are projecting their own misandry onto these men for simply speaking their minds.

hahahmm · Answer

It's a symptom of women who believe life revolves around them and who have no respect for men's preferences. That same woman expects men to jump through 100 hoops to please her. Feminist is another name for this egotistical type. Men with a backbone don't go for that. We also don't go for women who are fat/out of shape and claiming (for example) that it's somebody else's fault or that a magic fat virus was given to her when she was an olympic athlete so now she needs men to accept & praise her "beauty" with no questions asked.

Jake99999 · Answer

Guys have their own preferences. Each guy is unique. Some will love it, some won’t. Why does a guy like any type of woman? Because that is what he likes.

All that said, some people view lots of tattoos or piercings or radical hair colors to be a bit extreme and they like more of a conservative / average / mainstream look. Other guys think it’s super hot and they like the edginess of it.

Just be your authentic self, rock it, enjoy the guys that do like it, and don’t worry about the ones that don’t.

ChrisMaster69 · Answer

I have it on record here I love piercings and tattoos and coloured hair lol. Especially redheads lol. for me, I prefer individuality and not being one of the sheep.

GoldenAxer · Answer

Just in terms of aesthetics, I think they distract me from the natural features of the girl. I have the same allergy to personalities into the kinky and role-playing. There's like a barrier to me to understand how the girl genuinely is.

That said, I'm cool with a middle ground. I think streaks look cool, for example. I can see the girl's natural hair and also her aesthetic sensibility at the same time.

riksem · Answer

As a non binary bio boy who is attracted to style heavily being in the beauty industry this is completely not true for me.

It shows to me someone has some depth and fun and is confident to be different and not basic.

I find it highly attractive in the way some people may like muscles or an eye color. Its really attractive and eye catching you prolly intimidate them if anything, they may assume the stereotype that u are like that cuz ur a rebel who can't be tamed or come from a broken home.

Keep rocking it!

hellacray · Answer

The colored hair makes you look like a feminist.

The piercings makes you look like a punk.

The tats probably have no meaning and makes you look like a billboard.

Bottomline is all these things make you look desperate for attention and gives off a fake vibe that you're interesting with a unique personality.

Nightroads · Answer

I'm personally fond of both, tats are awesome too. Nothing has really bothered me like that in the past, i never got to see my ex wife's real hair color. Two of my past girlfriends had facial piercings. Another had 00 gauges.

D4nielv · Answer

Don't waste your energy trying to get validation from that crowd, your looks are actually a great way to filter out bigots and the like. So keep getting rejected and scuffed at, those are people you'd never want in your life anyway.
Just don't fall into the trap of trying to please everyone, you've found your identity, don't go water it down and ruin it for the sake of other people's intolerance.

Smashingdoozy · Answer

I find people on here don't like it because most guys on here are misogynistic assholes. And the women have ingrained internal misogy. Can't handle women who are stronger and can handle more pain than them 😂

SammieUnicorn369 · Answer

tbh I have totally opposite experiences. I don't die my whole head because I have dark hair and would have bleach multiple times to get a light base shade. I don't want to go bald lol

but I have at least 10 steaks of bright red and I get wayyyy more attention from men and women. I think working colors with your natural complexion is an important trick. I also don't choose rings/studs/diamonds that are to huge for my face lol

consult a professional 😁 they always help

electromagnetic · Answer

Don't let that deter you. Not all men are for things creative and imaginative. I have a lot of piercings and my hair has seen many colours over the years. But there are particular guys who don't mind it. Others tend to associate it with certain stereotypes. Either way, live your best life. Continue to rock that colour.

Anonymous · Answer

Some guys have different preferences. So it is ok when guys have physical preferences but it is not ok to bodyshame you. Do not mind gag incels who get banned on reddit/youtube. So they are here since they are not banned yet. It is so ridiculous and stupid how some people bodyshame you but the same people whine when they get bodyshamed for their height. If you dont want to be bodyshamed for being a short guy, do not bodyshame women like her. It is ok if you as a guy do not prefere women with colored hair etc but just dont bodyshame because only immature people do that

cth96190 · Answer

Because piercings are repulsive self mutilations, which, combined with weird hair, scream mental illness and are signs that the female has had the full university Feminist/Marxist mind fuck.
Why would any sane man want a female who has mutilated her face and is flying the flag of both Feminism and mental illness?
No quality man would want any part of that.

justmystance · Answer

15 years ago. I would’ve probably described this as my “type”. I grew up listening to Green Day, foo fighters, jimmy eat world etc. on Kerrang. But these days it’s harder to tell, because the ‘coloured hair and piercings’ look has been hijacked and is now associated heavily with a radical left political stance. Obviously, I can’t speak for anyone else, but dating someone like that sounds like hard work, and I don’t want the hassle. I’m just a regular guy who wants to eat a steak in peace, and I’m not interested in being dragged out to some woke march.

SunnyFlorida · Answer

Viewing your photos, I think you are a pretty woman with a pretty smile. Would I think you were prettier without the pink hair and piercings, YES. As a man, if a woman has her hair dyed pink, purple, blue, a non-traditional hair color, I presume the woman is going through some drama in her life, which I don't want to deal with in the long term.

TheUniqueOne96 · Answer

I think it can look good, but I prefer a more natural look and other guys probably do too, although everyone is different.

A standard ear piercing is totally natural, I think, a normal nose (not septum) can be fine, but other facial ones are hit or miss.

HerFollower · Answer

Me? Because it distracts from her natural beauty. Light brown dyed to a honey colored, no I don't mind that.

Though unnatural color or excessive piercings, and I start to question what is she trying to cover up? Why does she not feel comfortable with her natural appearance.

mortonc57 · Answer

I think it's a confidence level, as when you are together with somebody else, you become a 'couple' and are judged as such. So anything she/he may be judged upon, reflects upon you and vice versa. Same goes for tattoos or clothing or anything else that is judgeable

YesICan · Answer

I automatically assume that she has a lot of mental issues so I don't want to deal with all that plus it looks childish, I don't avoid them cause I feel superior or something like that I'm just trying to protect my sanity.

Is it wrong for me to judge people based on looks alone? Sure, but the way people look most of the time is a good indicator of who they are as a person.

K-I-S-S · Answer

I don't think it's your hair color or piercings. Just a general vibe that could be off putting.

In a casual vibe you come off more calmly and feminine.

In that style you maybe appear too in your face or even a bit manly.

Maybe explore how to be more feminine with that specific style and what feedback that will get you.

Григорий · Answer

In my opinion colored hair and facial piercings is typically associated with mentally unstable people. That being said, I love some nice ear piercings and belly button piercing that’s great.

It’s a great rule of thumb not to stick your dick in crazy.

Ghostlock · Answer

Honestly? When I see a girl who dies her hair a strange color, I simply won't go anywhere near her. It is a symbol of man haters, SJW's, extreme feminists, believe men are below them and they think men are nothing more than animals. I know not all of them are like this, but I simply just don't even want to take a chance. I stay as far away from them as possible because as far as I am concerned, they are trouble.

Anonymous · Answer

No offences, its about stereotyping.. What life with you will be. like.. Party Girls in music. vids, rough crowd street girl, wildone, maybe sleeps around, not. virgin, STD, jaded, independent feminism, down on manhood, wild crazy, girls in San Francisco dress like this in parades, google photos of them, they look like your style, rephrase your questions. don't put your photos in question. People dont. want to hurt you... Naturally, you be a hottie, But... Are you maridge material looking like. this? Maybe, to some your putting of a bar girl vib? Its really about what past girls like this remind men you probably are.. Not personal, Whether it true, has no. meaning, hell no, takes one second..

FilmGuy93 · Answer

Because we tend to prefer natural feminine beauty. When we find women attractive, it's because of who and what she is as a human; not some image she creates about herself. All that dye and and metal just detracts from what nature gave you.

VDrago14 · Answer

It's simply a personal preference. Some guys find may find it off putting, but then again there are guys who are all for it.

I don't mind it, it can look good, and it depends on the individual as well. Personality can of course also go a long ways as well. Ultimately like anything else it comes down to ones personal preference, and depending on area you might not find a lot of men who are into that.

SomeGuyCalledTom · Answer

1) Your hair is cute.
2) You're pretty.
3) I like your bio. 😊

Now that's out the way, My only concern about girls dying their hair is that it could damage or weaken in the long run. But same can be said for girls who heavily or habitually use synthetic hair products in general. But the aesthetic of ot can look cute if done right for the girl's overall 'look'.

MysticDevice · Answer

I am a fan of colored hair. Piercings not so much. I'm open to them but in moderation. There is a point to were the get to be too much.

Kaneki05 · Answer

I mean your hot. And pretty much coloured hair and piercings would be my type. So I don't know why a lot of guys don't want that there loss.

Kabluie · Answer

I do, hot pink hair and septum piercings are awesome.

klark231 · Answer

your hot lols. if im just not in a relationship and you're nearby id already be asking your number and stuff. would be more hot if you have piercing in your nipples and clit. and i remember you having tried anal so that is also a plus

Blueeyes81 · Answer

Rightly or wrongly I associate them with mental health issues. Just an observation from my own personal experience. That's not a bad thing per say but something that makes me weary. That's just been my experience any way, not necessarily an indication of all pierced and colorful women of the world.

Bobme · Answer

Colored hair can be okay if it isn't too a extreme. Piercings can be okay as well as long as there are more fingers than piercings. Ears are okay. Belly button, okay. A few more I won't mention.
I'm surprised tattoos weren't on this list. Again, no more than a few.
Excessive amounts of these things usually screams SLUT to me. Or easy girl.
That's just my opinion. None of these are absolute by any means. But more of first impression guide lines. Just remember , it's permanent. 🧁

SnakeBoop · Answer

plenty do.
But the thing is there's the stereotype of not being approachable.
you kind of look like that to me, and while my opinion may not matter to you, its probably shared by others, including men you're wanting to attract.

aquamarine321 · Answer

Well to women it might look cute, but in men eyes it doesn’t look cute or attractive it’s the opposite it look negative , it look as if your sad, ghetto , whore, poor , immature, side chick, prostitute, not someone to take serious or marry, men prefer women who are natural , we prefer women who doesn’t look like a rainbow, if you you women can’t live without make up, at least don’t go overboard, simply ask a guy

Kenzy009 · Answer

Its beacue of our natural instics develop by evolution to look for healthy mating partners. If there is something wrong with a girls hair its a sign of poor health.
Im not saying im thinking this. Im just explaining why guys have this feeling and its due to evolution

Phoenix98 · Answer

I don't like facial piercing's or body piercing's not my thing and I find it unattractive. And I dislike most kinds of dyed haired when it comes to crazy colours and I'm just more of a fan of natural hair colour.

Stevefiveo · Answer

I prefer the natural look for a long term girlfriend. But if I see piercings, I know that girl is wild in bed. The colored hair makes me think she is bi and open to a threesome. Those girls are so good in bed but crazy. Hopefully not too crazy where you can have a relationship with her.

mstretch · Answer

F what other people think, change your looks how you choose and live the life you choose... If they have a problem, it's their problem, not yours 😉

As for me, as long as its not overboard with the piercings (like a nose piercing that's chained to your ear lol) I think it's cool as f

InferiorElegy · Answer

The feminazis, man hating type women are ruining the look for us. We now are associating that look with negative people.

ADFSDF1996 · Answer

Colored hair used to be considered sexy back between 2004-2011 but nowadays it has been ruined by the radical left wing.

BeenThereLovedIt · Answer

Same reason I don't like girls who post pics of themselves asking for compliments. These types are casting a wide net to reel in attention. Attention seeking is a sign of bigger problems to come in my opinion.

Espresso-Grande · Answer

I don' know why. But it looks good  Maybe some people assume it's because anyone with coloured hair and piercings has a rebellious streak , but I'd call individuality

ZackBan · Answer

Last girl I was with has hair that is half blue half purple and I found that super hot.
But just like anything, it's not for everybody. Some girls look good others look horrible, the idea is to find what works for you

Anonymous · Answer

Used to be interest 5+ years ago. But it became too common particularly among the sjw crowd. The blue-haired freak became a legitimate stereotype. A shame, because that was my favorite colour to see, but it’s a cultural signifier that they’re toxic cancer and should be avoided. Now I want someone who can stress normality. A beacon of normality to ground me against the freaks.

Dinklex3 · Answer

They do. It's just the GAG men that fuss and complain about it.

CasaNorba · Answer

because they make me assume they're a feminists

Slim57 · Answer

Because everything natural is better, I don't know where men thinking unnatural looks better than natural came from because most of the ones I know dont like anything not natural, theyre usually almost the type of girls I want to date usually because we mostly like the same things, the only thing is 9 times of 10 theyre crazy and have conflicting viewpoints from my experience, not saying all of them

Better_off_here · Answer

i like them and always have but many guys i think have a cut-off age from when a woman should maybe dress that way. i think that some men think that the girl is hiding her true beauty. we want to see the real girl beyond all the hair color and rings in their face.

Rangers · Answer

It gives off feminist vibes, and most guys are repelled strongly by the possible support of a movement that minimizes issues men face and are unaware or ungrateful for the good things men do.

NathanDavis · Answer

I very much like them... after all, I do have piercings myself

Anonymous · Answer

Exotic piercings and tattoos have wild girl feminism written all over them and also removes femininity. Unnatural colored hair too has feminism written on it. Another thing about hair color. If the color of hair don't match the skin the tones it don't look right. Go messing with your natural looks that might suit you, but don't assume it will automatically suit everyone else.

front2back · Answer

Because from dating a girl before who loved to change her hair color every other week I can tell you that like a wasp they bright colors there are to serve as a warning to stay away.

Flower7 · Answer

They look unconventional. Anything unconventional is going to be liked by a smaller percentage of people.

Celtero · Answer

Because it looks gross and how I'd imagine a grown woman if she still had the mind of a child but the rights and autonomy of an adult.

karaspara · Answer

Lot's of guys do perhaps you have just accidentally found a way of separating the wheat from the chaff lol

FatherJack · Answer

The bright hair colors tend to be associated with the feminists , a group that utterly hates male humans , a bit like aposematic warning colors , to warn of a toxic / venomous nature.

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