How much effort should I really put into my appearance?

[Subarugirl]

These days it seems that I am damned if I do and damned if I don’t.

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Okay people that is a stock photo not me

[Soremain]

Choose what's right for you. I know very well that I could dress differently to be seen universally more attractive, but I choose not to because I don't want to seem attractive to the average person, because I'm not the average person myself.

Appear the way YOU want to appear and you'll attract the right type of people.

[Subarugirl]

I’m not trying to attract anyone..

[Soremain]

Then you wouldn't care about your appearance. I don't mean only sexual attraction. But the way you dress communicates what kind of person you are and that has an effect what kind of people want to talk to you.

[PikNik77]

There’s real peace to be had when you can figure out how to be comfortable in your own skin. (sans makeup, special clothing, specific looks) Figure out how to be just you and let the confidence build. I think in the long run, high self-esteem and confidence are far more attractive and lasting qualities. That being said, if wearing makeup everyday, and spending a lot of time on your appearance gives you high self-esteem and confidence, roll with it. But remember, nature will take its course, and no amount of makeup and clothing will compensate for that in the end. Better to learn to love your natural self now. 💚

[midnightmoon05]

I aspens 10-15 m. to get ready in the morning.
can’t bother with makes and stuff… then at night takes more time to clear off…
I like being natural and had good outlook in life so looks younger. I feel good for my average look.

[JustinTimberlegs]

Whatever effort feels enough for you, zero effort is fine as long as you're ok with that. It's perfectly fine not to care about your appearance, everyone values different things. It's fine to be wealthy and dress like a homeless person if you want to, doesn't make you any less of a person ☺️

[NathanDavis]

freckles are GORGEOUS!!

as for your question... you should put way more effort on NOT caring about your appearance this much, it sounds like is becoming unhealthy for your mindset...

that's no bueno

[Subarugirl]

That is not me.. it’s a stock photo

[NathanDavis]

I know, I read the update...

that's why I said freckles are gorgeous, as in anybody's

and the rest on my point still stands

if you feel damned at whatever decision you make on your appearance, and this is probably coming from others comments or attitudes towards you well... that is just not healthy if it's bothering you this much

something has to change, if it does affect you..

[Archerer]

Well. It’s a stock photo. I don’t know you, it’s different for everyone, not only for everyone doing it but everyone looking at it. For the picture. The girl on the left just needs to let her hair down and she’s just as hot as the girl on the right, If not hotter.

[doopayo]

Put as much effort as you want, tbh is the men’s fault for thinking we have flawlessly shaped eyebrows and purple eye shadow naturally 🤷🏽‍♀️

[Oigit]

Honestly I wish more women went without a fuck load of makeup. Every human is imperfect and we all have jaded edges. Own them and stop more or less painting your face to look "better." Also stop with the crazy plastic surgery.

[IAMNathanael]

As much as you want. Whatever you do there will be someone that likes it. I know it's not you but I like the girl without makeup. I like her freckles.

[TommyMountainFigure]

As much as you wanna. Believe me, you're not damned if you put the effort in.

[Subarugirl]

Right I just get accused of attention seeking and being shallow.

[TommyMountainFigure]

By idiots... They don't count..

[TommyMountainFigure]

The problem is you ask.. when you should just do what you want.. your friends will like it and those who don't? well they aren't your friends!

[Bricealan]

Either way, you get my vote, "Suba". Nice features, nice full lips and great eyes.

[Subarugirl]

How do you know what I look like?

[Bricealan]

Sorry, I miss read your qualifying remark.

[Ghostlock]

Only on date night... otherwise, I say a female should wear make-up only when they want to, for sure not a requirement. But then again, I find a woman to be insanely hot with or without make-up.

[Cnlngler]

I think that if you are going to date someone you should be straight with them because at the end of the day, the makeup has to come off...

[Subarugirl]

I’m married

[Cnlngler]

Then its your husband who should answer this question. Have you asked him? Would be better OK with receiving productive criticism.
But if he is smart, He would ask you to ask other people other than himself.

[Subarugirl]

He really doesn’t care

[Cnlngler]

Then it should be up to you and no one else.. Isn't he the one you should pretty up for... Who else are you trying to impress? Society?

[Cnlngler]

If he loves you the way you are you should wear your face proudly. Why satisfy everyone else.

[scuff1986]

Put in as much effort as you want, when you want. Don't worry about others accusations

[Andres77]

You don't owe anything to anyone.
Just be comfortable.
You're gorgeous anyway, you don't have to do anything.

[KrakenAttackin]

Well, what is the "effort spectrum"? Meaning is a little effort 10 minutes a day vs a lot of effort 2 hours per day?

[Subarugirl]

10 minutes is brushing your teeth and getting dressed in the morning.

[KrakenAttackin]

@Subarugirl. Does being married mean you no longer have to put in effort? Why not gain 100 lbs while your at it.

[Subarugirl]

Health and appearance are two different things

[KrakenAttackin]

@Subarugirl. No they are not. 100 lbs will effect both health and appearance.

A big part of your husband's attraction to you is your physical appearance, don't kid yourself.

[Subarugirl]

The two are aren’t mutually exclusive. Don’t kid yourself.

[TacosRAwesome]

The effort it requires to be clean and at a healthy weight and not look slobby.

[Anonymous]

Maby less than in the picture on the right. You look good but the freckles are part of you so I wouldn't cover them up so much.

[Subarugirl]

That’s a stick photo not me

[Opinion Owner]

Ohh okay

[Opinion Owner]

Generaly i like something in the middle. Maby something on the eyes and lips but id stay light in other places

[In_Trance]

whatever you're comfortable with. Your energy will shine through regardless.

[Tstrbrainer]

You don't really need to put much effort. So just do what you feel comfortable

[ChuckD6381]

Left or only a little more for day to day. left for date nights.

[Bklynbadboy12]

You don't have to do much your gorgeous

[humanearth]

We all go though a funk stage

[Hangry06]

I mean that's personal preference

[Recurrence]

I think both of these pictures look nice

[Ironic_Method]

It depends on what you're trying to get out of it.

[EaterPeter]

So you are on the left?

[Subarugirl]

It’s a stock photo…

[EaterPeter]

So neither is you.

[EaterPeter]

Some effort is better than no effort and that's it.

[b5fan]

I dig the one without makeup.

[Randalama]

Makeup is the devil's work.

[Nahid1707]

It does depends on person to person

[TallAnon]

There's always a balance.

[varan69]

You are beautiful inside and out

[krin_m]

I don't think you need to do anything TBH!

[Kvnhanma]

Um maximum effort😂

[Subarugirl]

Why?

[Kvnhanma]

Because women don’t just want sex

[Subarugirl]

Lol uhh first of all yes they do and that is totally irrelevant.. maybe women just don’t want to have sex with you.

[Kvnhanma]

What?

[Kvnhanma]

So you only want sex

[Subarugirl]

I love good sex

[Kvnhanma]

You didn’t answer the question : Do you only want sex?

[Subarugirl]

No I don’t want only sex

[Kvnhanma]

Well then maximum effort

[Subarugirl]

I don’t need to, I already get all the sex I want

[Kvnhanma]

Then stop asking stupid questions

[Subarugirl]

Says the guy answering “stupid” questions.. let’s make a deal. If I want your opinion I’ll ask you for it. Problem solved.

[Kvnhanma]

So you admit it was a stupid question 😂

[Subarugirl]

No I don’t.. are you okay? Like do you have a mental deficit or are you just a moron?

[Kvnhanma]

“Says the guy answering STUPID QUESTIONS “ 🤣🤣🤣 are you serious you just said that this is hysterical your a real life retard

[Subarugirl]

Those were your words not mine.. hence the quotation marks.. I mean it makes sense since you don’t know basic grammar.

*you’re

[Kvnhanma]

Look at your 6th reply genius 😂

[Subarugirl]

Honey you’re 22 and probable still live with your parents. You don’t know or don’t care enough to utilize the difference between your and you’re and you really think that trying to insult my intelligence will hurt me? Lol 😂

[Kvnhanma]

Yes I can because I’m clearly smarter than you and by the way I’m a home owner

[Subarugirl]

So am I sweety. Maybe invest more in yourself and a little less into real estate, I’m sure that would help with your issues.

[Kvnhanma]

I’m younger and more successful than you it’s natural to be jealous but don’t take your frustrations out on me because you got embarrassed 💯😂

[Subarugirl]

Oh you have nothing that I am jealous of I promise you that, but hey it’s great you think so highly of yourself that’s a good first step