How To (Not) Approach Women For Absolute Morons

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I have been meaning to put my thoughts on paper (figuratively speaking) for quite some time. The reason for that is GaG is full to bursting with "good guys" being "friendzoned". No this is not yet another myTake for those who are looking for a quick fix to a fucked up situation or those of you who are just trying to get laid. These are my views and experiences when it comes to interacting with women and the DOs and DON'Ts when trying to win a lady. I'm far from the idea that I'm some irresistible lady-killer. I'm not. But in difference to all the crappy advice you can read on the net I'll give you honest and simple rules to talk to women in a way they will at least give you a fighting chance for their hearts. If you're just looking for quick sex, might as well stop reading. It will be a waste of your time. If you're one of those MGTOW/PUA guys looking for a weak spot - get your sorry ass out of here. Seriously, OUT! If you're just a normal guy who gets lightheaded every time he sees the girl of his dreams and has no idea how to approach her or is afraid of screwing things up – this is for you, buddy.



DISCLAIMER: I am well aware that not all women across the globe are the same. Different cultures, different opinions, different people. I GET IT, ladies. Unbunch your panties. I will be talking about basic interactions between people who are roughly the same everywhere.


OK, here goes! Lord help me...


GETTING NOTICED


HOW TO (NOT) APPROACH WOMEN FOR ABSOLUTE MORONS



In general women don't feel like they should be the ones chasing us. Sure in some rare cases they are the hunters but most will agree if you want them you might as well grow a pair and come after them. Seriously, if you think you can act all cool, tease the girl's interest and then ignore her, I can assure you - you're going to be waiting a lot.



OK, then! What CAN you do? Well, for starters you can introduce yourself. You know, so that she's aware of your existence. Nothing spectacular, just use the fact that you're in the same place or doing something similar and point it out. Ask her questions. Why is she there? What is she doing? The only way you can gain a woman’s interest in you is by showing your interest toward her. I’m not going to tell you to act relaxed and cool. I know you’ll be shaking inside terrified. AT LEAST try to look calm. All women love calm men who can form entire sentences. True story.



DON’T try to act as someone you’re not. She WILL see through you and your BS immediately. Besides, lying to her is hardly the way to start things off. Show just a little of yourself. Dear God, I said JUST A LITTLE! Erase the dick pic. She needs to know you exist and there is some similarity between the two of you. That’s it. Keep you mouth shut and try to find out things about her. DO NOT bombard her with information about yourself. Women like to talk. So shut up and listen to her without looking at her boobs no matter how awesome they are. You still with me? Good. Moving along.


FORMING A CONNECTION


How To (Not) Approach Women For Absolute Morons



No matter how attractive you are if a woman doesn’t feel there’s something between the two of you there won’t be. Now that you two have met and no longer strangers she needs to know you’re interested in her. This is where most guys fail miserably. It’s not that you’re not good enough or not hot enough. It just guys rush this part. Women don’t like to be bludgeoned on the head and when you come flying through the door and admit your eternal love and admiration toward her… well… it has the same effect. Admit NOTHING!



Women want to be chased. To “dance” with you. To play with you like you’re both fighting in an arena. She wants you to go after her. To feel like she’s being hunted and desired. The moment you admit your feelings the dance is over, the chase has ended and she’s facing a choice. If she is not impressed with you hunting skills, if she doesn’t feel like you captured her she WILL shoot you down. That is why you must postpone pouring out your heart until you’re absolutely certain she really REALLY likes you and your company.



The best way to do this is to spend time with her. Now this is hard since you might not have much experience talking with women but once you start you will learn quite fast - to keep your mouth shut and listen to HER. I cannot stress this enough. Women love to talk. She can talk until blood is pouring though your ears. The happiest you can make her is to provoke her to talk about something she loves and TO LISTEN CAREFULLY! The deeper the conversation, the more accurate the questions you ask her the happier she will be because she can see you’re paying attention to HER.



Now, you can’t expect her to do ALL the talking. You have to show her that you are also interesting. No, you don’t have to be an astronaut/firefighter to peak her interest. Show her you’re passionate and ambitious about achieving stuff. ANYTHING! Best case you share her passion about something. Doesn’t matter. Women want driven hunters with bright future. This is where if you really listened to her carefully you can truly shine and impress her.


GOING FOR THE KILL


How To (Not) Approach Women For Absolute Morons



In is extremely important to not be friendly toward her. Yes, you read that correctly. She already has friends (hopefully). You want to stand out. Don’t be sweet, don’t be cute and cuddly you spineless little shit. Provoke her naughty side. Now that she has noticed you flirt with her. Give her a compliment about something that will show her you see her as a woman, not as a buddy. You bump into her somewhere? Say "Hey!", look at her top to bottom and tell her she looks irresistible (both knowing well she's wearing that boring t-shirt and you're full of shit). Tease her and when she turns around to tell you to F yourself look her in the eyes and blow her a kiss (Done that one and works like magic). The whole point is to show her you like her and want her a lot more than just as a friend without actually saying it. There is a fine line between being naughty and creepy. Be careful. Pay attention to her reactions and don’t rush things.



Observe how she reacts to you. She flirts back? Awesome! She feels weird around you? Tone it down.


The whole point is for her to see someone who’s interesting, provoking and aiming at her. I guarantee you no matter if you win her or fail you will never be in the “friendzone”. Why? Cause you were not a wimp and at least you’ll have her respect. Who knows? Maybe later she'll change her mind. Or maybe it's for the best. Not to mention few battle scars and experience helps a lot for the next girl that finds her way into your dreams. No, not those dreams you sick bastard!



P.S. I know that to some of you those things are the very basics but the more I read and listen the more convinced I am the vast majority of young men are completely clueless as to how to act around a woman. I don't know whose fault is it but hopefully this will at least give them some start.

How To (Not) Approach Women For Absolute Morons
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