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Put Yourself in the Shoes of an Unattractive Man (Page 2)
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man i just gonna tell you one thing: attracting and making out with girls is sometimes really overrated when i was in high school girls used to flirt and ask me out quite a few times, and believe me it wasn't nearly as pleasant as you make it out to be (having a girl smelling like nail polish and glitter wrapping herself around you isn't heaven) i know i'm just preaching to the choir but just work on yourself and try to be the best you can be, unless you life goal is to be a player you're not missing much...
I met my first boyfriend online. Tbh I thought he was cute in the single pic he used, but just ok in the latter pics that he showed me, but in person he was rather unattractive and made me regret that I agreed to go on a date with him. But you know what, after the first ten or so minutes I got over it and had the best date ever. I think that's what people mean when they say you should give an unattractive woman a chance.
That isn't entirely what I meant. What I meant was that unattractive people have to date other unattractive people (and see each other as attractive) in order to be in a relationship or else you'll be alone forever. I'm not attracted to unattractive people, just like attractive people aren't attracted to attractive people.
It's silly to assume unattractive people find each other super hot and the standard beauties just meh, but as I'm saying an unattractive girl could become physically more attractive once you get to know her and start seeing her through rose colored glasses.
This is pathetic. I'm far from being the best looking guy, and I'm 5'4". I've still managed to date quite a few women and settle down with an attractive one. It really is about your personality and mindset. You have a loser mindset.
You mean very
@Florancerose404
I mean beautiful
I dont think you as ugly as you're saying you are
You admit ugly men don’t want ugly women, but say women don’t understand?
So you think your desire for hot chicks somehow makes you special? Buck up, boyo! We ALL crave attention and sex with hot people. Very few get them. It’s just life.
No I’m saying it’s much worse for unattractive men. We get ridiculed for it and end up dying alone.
Life is hard. It just is. Instead of feeling rage and isolation, realize that so many in the world struggle with feelings of inadequacy and depression. I sincerely suggest seeing a therapist. Nothing but your own mind can control your suffering. I say this sympathetically, as someone who has battled intense self hatred for years. Your mind is yours to own.
I literally have cut my arms with razor blades from feeling unworthy of love... so don’t follow up by negating that I just don’t get it. I do. It’s your mind causing the suffering.
But have you dated someone before? Have you ever had a person of the opposite sex say that you’re attractive? I’ve never had that and that is my issue here.
You could have those things and still feel worthless. Marilyn Monroe was considered one of those most attractive humans in history and she committed suicide.
It’s very difficult to feel worthless when you have a girlfriend who is attracted to you and you find attractive as well
That’s just not true. Tons of suicides, overdoses, etc show otherwise. Depression just hooks on to whatever you feel insecure about.
I said that it’s difficult, not impossible
678 are probably true be confident I'm skinny to the bone and the least photogenic person you know and I'm part of the 'nerds' but m8 I'm doing fine it's not automa But just improve yourself and the women will notice but you are at a disadvantage admiably
Well you can't blame a woman if she finds you unattractive too, just like you won't date a girl you consider unattractive. .
just remember the example you gave about the unattractive girl, it will make you understand things better!
You know people can be attractive even if they are not particularly pretty. TBH, most of the guys I find myself attracted to are pretty strange and out there. They just have great personalities, and as a human being, I value the fact that I can look past someone's outer appearance. Personality first, looks are just a plus.
Unfortunately, there are not a lot of people like me out there. Which is probably why I will be alone forever (I'm not very pretty lol).
Dude, after reading your take, I was like: I feel you bro, I'm no George Clooney either (massive undertatement).
But after reading your reaction on some of the girls opinions here I'd have to agree with them. Stop being so goddamn negative!
At least there are multiple paths to get girls, even in you're ugly.
You can have confidence or a wicked personality or be rich and get girls. Pick one and go do it!
Just make money. That's all that matters if you want a girl. Look at Tom Leykis. He is a 1 and his girls are 9-10.
You're genes aren't meant to move on to future generations if you're ugly. You can make a positive in this world by doing noble things or buy love through money power or fame
This is very shallow. But you know what could make you more attractive? stop whining about it.
It won’t make me more physically attractive. Physical attractiveness is everything
Luckily you're not attractive then. Less girls will be willing to be with a dick like you.
Why are you so hostile? I don’t understand. You obviously had it made in life by being attractive.
Only thing I take issue with is that you said it's easy for attractive dudes to get girls-- no, it's really not. It's easy for girls to get guys; it's not easy for guys to get girls. Not unless they're famous and rich.
I've heard those arguments so many times I can't even count it.
It seems that people don't understand, even when you explain it. In the end, no matter how much you try, they'll just consider you're a whiny little bitch and leave.
Well the sentence where you said that the guys who get girls easily will never understand how it's like to struggle to get a woman. Well that touched my heart
Wish you luck Bruh!
Hope you get someone soon😊❤️
I've heard of some attractive guys saying that girls ignore em and don't hit on them too so being unattractive doesn't make you anymore prone to not getting a girl
It does definitely. If those attractive guys even did half of the approaches I've done then they would be far more successful.
@TheUglyMan nah, if they're awkward it didn't work out
Attractive guys has natural confidence
@TheUglyMan lol no they don't
lol they do. Women love them which gives them the confidence
i win
Being unattractive is one of the biggest disadvantages you can have in life, yet so many people try to undersell it's importance.
Imagine this then. Being good looking (I think I am) but not attractive (in the sense that still no one is interested in you romantically and never has) :'(
These are the hypocritical statements people who have never experienced loneliness.
I mean we're all ugly to some people lol
And tbh you sound insecure, which yeah I understand but you make it seem like it's impossible to find somebody and that having a girl should be the main priority of your life
Yes, but I am ugly to society, which is different. Yeah I'm insecure because I've been told I was ugly by multiple women throughout life. You pointed out point eight of my take, which I will respond by saying, it is important to us unattractive people and the people who say that don't have to worry about girls (or guys) liking them.
But don't we all think like that about ourselves? just because a couple of girls I old you that doesn't mean you're ugly, they say that shit to make you believe that you're ugly and you're now convinced that you are ugly
you need to learn how to take compliments from other people, when they say it stop thinking "oh they're just saying that" I've been through that before, but when people compliment most Of the time they mean it and if they didn't like your feature they wouldn't say it in the first place, not egerybody lies
Definitely not everyone thinks like that. Many attractive people know that they are attractive because throughout their whole lives, they've been told that they are attractive. More than a couple girls have called me ugly. I'm talking about 80-100 girls.
That's pretty inaccurate, people who are actually attractive don't see it until people point it out but still have self doubts, you can still be good looking but still hate yourself at the same time lol
I need to learn how to take compliments? I don't get compliments so i don't get what you're saying. That is something attractive people deal with, not ugly people. I was complimented on my personality and I don't think that they were necessarily lying. However, if they were to say that I wasn't ugly, then why aren't they dating me then? I must not be that attractive if you don't want a relationship with me.
Ok but 80-100 girls don't mean the whole world
And notice how they also didn't straight up say that I was attractive, they just said I wasn't ugly.
wasn't ugly literally means that you're not ugly, which means that you are good looking, it's literally just another word
you literally just told me that they say that you're not ugly... so it's a compliment
And no offense but just because people compliment you doesn't mean they have to date you, if I think a guy is good looking or a girl is pretty it doesn't mean that I want to get in their pants lol
Yes, and people have pointed them out, hence they don't believe that they are ugly. I've met very very few attractive girls who didn't believe that they were attractive. You can't hate yourself over not being good looking if you are good looking. 80-100 isn't the whole world, but I can predict that it's most of the world that thinks that way.
They just like what they see and move on from their lives
Yes they can? it's annoying how you think good looking people are having a perfect life and have this mindset where they think they're good looking so they should LOVD themselves lol. Have you heard of depression? Anxiety? people who are good looking can have that and think negatively of themselves and even if they don't have that they still do because ITS THEM who don't see what other people see
"wasn't ugly" doesn't really mean you aren't good looking. It could also mean you're decent, or just slightly below average. It does not equate to being attractive. Also, some girls (girls who are my friends) say that I'm not ugly to boost my already damaged self-esteem. They don't have to date me, but If I were to be attractive to them, then they would date me. So they are lying about me being attractive. That's why most girls will say "you're not ugly", because it doesn't mean that I'm attractive.
ANYBODY can have a crappy life, good looking or not
Good looking people can live bad lives. I never said that. I said that they can't understand what it's like to be unattractive because they aren't unattractive. Their depression has to stem from something else. Not being able to attract the opposite sex is not one of them. It is us ugly guys who are suffering the depression of not having the opposite sex be attracted to us.
Never said that attractive people don't live crappy lives...
ok yeah you're the ugliest person in the whole wide world. There happy? if you can't take "you're not ugly" and other shit thennnn
Look I can understand that you have a very low self esteem, we all do and I certainly do too. But this is literally everybody's pet peeve, you sound like you're blabbering about how ugly you are and when someone tells you something else you don't take it and obviously people won't like that, I'm being honest here and I hope this doesn't offend you
You're making it seem like that, you think people who are good looking shouldn't struggle with self esteem issues which is a bit stupid in my opinion
Depression can be from anything that saddens them, and the people who you think are attractive other people think they're unnattractive. Like I said we're all ugly to some people, because everybody has their own preference and we all don't fit in everybody's preference
I like your mytake, but I just had a few disagreements but other than that it's fine really, I hope you don't take the things I say to heart and get offended but as always I like to be honest to other people
Yes, I am happy, because you're telling the truth (well i guess not really since you haven't seen my face), but that isn't a compliment. Girls don't mean that when they tell me that. They say it to make me not feel as bad about myself. They don't actually mean it. Good looking people should struggle with self esteem issues based upon their looks, because they are good looking and don't know how lucky they have it. Attractive people are usually also attractive to society. Societal attractiveness is pretty standard and thus they fit into a lot of people's preferences. Ugly people like me hear the statement of "Everyone has preferences" all the time, like we will fit into someone's preferences who we find attractive.
I'm not offended. I don't get offended over stuff. I'm just trying to have you see my point. I'm just telling what life is like for an ugly guy.
yeah because it's a statement not a compliment LOL
And yeah everybody does have a preference it's true, you don't fit into everybody's standards lol and that goes to everybody, just take it or leave it
Just because we find somebody attractive doesn't mean they're our type, we just think they're good looking and move on from our days
But whatever I tell you, you just keep blabbering about how ugly you are and how difficult an ugly person's life can be as if other people don't go through that as well, but ok you do you
But people who are attractive by society fit into most people’s standards. I am ugly by society so I barely fit into anyone’a standards. There is no such thing as “type” if you find someone attractive and you like their personality then that would mean you would want to date them.
There are types, and we have standards
And us ugly people do not fit into those standards