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Put Yourself in the Shoes of an Unattractive Man (Page 3)
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I mean we're all ugly to some people lol
And tbh you sound insecure, which yeah I understand but you make it seem like it's impossible to find somebody and that having a girl should be the main priority of your life
Yes, but I am ugly to society, which is different. Yeah I'm insecure because I've been told I was ugly by multiple women throughout life. You pointed out point eight of my take, which I will respond by saying, it is important to us unattractive people and the people who say that don't have to worry about girls (or guys) liking them.
But don't we all think like that about ourselves? just because a couple of girls I old you that doesn't mean you're ugly, they say that shit to make you believe that you're ugly and you're now convinced that you are ugly
you need to learn how to take compliments from other people, when they say it stop thinking "oh they're just saying that" I've been through that before, but when people compliment most Of the time they mean it and if they didn't like your feature they wouldn't say it in the first place, not egerybody lies
Definitely not everyone thinks like that. Many attractive people know that they are attractive because throughout their whole lives, they've been told that they are attractive. More than a couple girls have called me ugly. I'm talking about 80-100 girls.
That's pretty inaccurate, people who are actually attractive don't see it until people point it out but still have self doubts, you can still be good looking but still hate yourself at the same time lol
I need to learn how to take compliments? I don't get compliments so i don't get what you're saying. That is something attractive people deal with, not ugly people. I was complimented on my personality and I don't think that they were necessarily lying. However, if they were to say that I wasn't ugly, then why aren't they dating me then? I must not be that attractive if you don't want a relationship with me.
Ok but 80-100 girls don't mean the whole world
And notice how they also didn't straight up say that I was attractive, they just said I wasn't ugly.
wasn't ugly literally means that you're not ugly, which means that you are good looking, it's literally just another word
you literally just told me that they say that you're not ugly... so it's a compliment
And no offense but just because people compliment you doesn't mean they have to date you, if I think a guy is good looking or a girl is pretty it doesn't mean that I want to get in their pants lol
Yes, and people have pointed them out, hence they don't believe that they are ugly. I've met very very few attractive girls who didn't believe that they were attractive. You can't hate yourself over not being good looking if you are good looking. 80-100 isn't the whole world, but I can predict that it's most of the world that thinks that way.
They just like what they see and move on from their lives
Yes they can? it's annoying how you think good looking people are having a perfect life and have this mindset where they think they're good looking so they should LOVD themselves lol. Have you heard of depression? Anxiety? people who are good looking can have that and think negatively of themselves and even if they don't have that they still do because ITS THEM who don't see what other people see
"wasn't ugly" doesn't really mean you aren't good looking. It could also mean you're decent, or just slightly below average. It does not equate to being attractive. Also, some girls (girls who are my friends) say that I'm not ugly to boost my already damaged self-esteem. They don't have to date me, but If I were to be attractive to them, then they would date me. So they are lying about me being attractive. That's why most girls will say "you're not ugly", because it doesn't mean that I'm attractive.
ANYBODY can have a crappy life, good looking or not
Good looking people can live bad lives. I never said that. I said that they can't understand what it's like to be unattractive because they aren't unattractive. Their depression has to stem from something else. Not being able to attract the opposite sex is not one of them. It is us ugly guys who are suffering the depression of not having the opposite sex be attracted to us.
Never said that attractive people don't live crappy lives...
ok yeah you're the ugliest person in the whole wide world. There happy? if you can't take "you're not ugly" and other shit thennnn
Look I can understand that you have a very low self esteem, we all do and I certainly do too. But this is literally everybody's pet peeve, you sound like you're blabbering about how ugly you are and when someone tells you something else you don't take it and obviously people won't like that, I'm being honest here and I hope this doesn't offend you
You're making it seem like that, you think people who are good looking shouldn't struggle with self esteem issues which is a bit stupid in my opinion
Depression can be from anything that saddens them, and the people who you think are attractive other people think they're unnattractive. Like I said we're all ugly to some people, because everybody has their own preference and we all don't fit in everybody's preference
I like your mytake, but I just had a few disagreements but other than that it's fine really, I hope you don't take the things I say to heart and get offended but as always I like to be honest to other people
Yes, I am happy, because you're telling the truth (well i guess not really since you haven't seen my face), but that isn't a compliment. Girls don't mean that when they tell me that. They say it to make me not feel as bad about myself. They don't actually mean it. Good looking people should struggle with self esteem issues based upon their looks, because they are good looking and don't know how lucky they have it. Attractive people are usually also attractive to society. Societal attractiveness is pretty standard and thus they fit into a lot of people's preferences. Ugly people like me hear the statement of "Everyone has preferences" all the time, like we will fit into someone's preferences who we find attractive.
I'm not offended. I don't get offended over stuff. I'm just trying to have you see my point. I'm just telling what life is like for an ugly guy.
yeah because it's a statement not a compliment LOL
And yeah everybody does have a preference it's true, you don't fit into everybody's standards lol and that goes to everybody, just take it or leave it
Just because we find somebody attractive doesn't mean they're our type, we just think they're good looking and move on from our days
But whatever I tell you, you just keep blabbering about how ugly you are and how difficult an ugly person's life can be as if other people don't go through that as well, but ok you do you
But people who are attractive by society fit into most people’s standards. I am ugly by society so I barely fit into anyone’a standards. There is no such thing as “type” if you find someone attractive and you like their personality then that would mean you would want to date them.
There are types, and we have standards
And us ugly people do not fit into those standards
I don't have to care. Look at me I am a round shaped apple 🍎. Feel sad for me too.
I'm genetic trash, I don't need to put myself in my own shoes
Oh geez, so much whining. You really need some better game. The girls just think you're BORING. :)
That game pua shit is a scam
@TheUglyMan - Wait... you're the one that has NO game but anything to help it is a scam?
Sure. It just isn't gonna happen for you, we can see that now.
Lol i tried PUA paid a lot of money for their products. Garbage
@TheUglyMan - and then you come on a forum about girls and guys/men and women, and whine about rejection. OMFG
Look, you don't understand what it is, and you reject all options. Things are not going to change for you 'till YOU do.
I went out and did more than 100 approaches to all kinds of women. I've definitely approached more women than any guy on this article. its a scam bro. Plus i where was i whining about rejection?
I know exactly what game is a scam
Women are going to attack you because they want to keep up the lie that looks don't matter to them... it's so funny and pathetic
Every point of this is also applying to unnatractive women, you know?
I’d go to a spa and start with facials and then get new clothes and maybe get surgery.
Excellent mytake, I know the feeling, I'm a virgin in my late 30s, so I'm quite aware of the problem. I wish you a good luck, we all need it.
Damnit those are my shoes and I need them, why are other people wearing my shoes?
i accept the reality for what it is
some people are not as attractive
some people are
Boy you need to have a life outside of getting a woman... Get a hobby.
That’s what attractive people say. They say that because getting girls is easy for them. A hobby won’t get me any attractive girls ever. I have to be physically attractive.
Been there done that , i don't pity I understand though
I've been wearing those shoes until I started college.
Dude wear elegant throw money left and right
Win the majority of chicks.
How old are you, Anon?
I’m 19
Do you think it might be a little early to start considering yourself unattractive?
But supposing that most women *do* find you attractive, have you considered improving your appearance?
its not early at all I've known how ugly i was since i was 15
Well, by too early I mean that perhaps you haven't exhausted every option to improve your appearance.
How could you improve your appearance?
You can buy as much expensive cloths if you want. Get all the expensive fragrance as you please. If you ugly you'll stay ugly.
@TheUglyMan
One can improve one's appearance beyond just buying the right clothes and getting a great fragrance.
Seeing an orthodontist and dentist, losing weight. the right hair cut. They help.
That being said, I acknowledge that there are people for whom these things will not help them. I am sorry for these people. There is little that can be done, other than to try to live an extraordinary life without someone, if they can't live an extraordinary life with someone.
yes im saying talking about ugly men here. Im not fat bro i have an athletic body. I gymed i did everything you can name to try and be more attractive to women. But if you ugly you ugly. Some men simply dont make the cut.
@TheUglyMan
Yes, it's true some people, not just men, don't make the cut. However, most people who claim to be ugly aren't ugly or can do something about their appearance.
your results with women will tell you everything about your looks
@TheUglyMan
Your results will tell you about your looks if you've actually tried. Many haven't actually tried very much to get with women, many haven't tried to improve themselves.
Lol i did I've approached more than 100 women fat, skinny, tall short all kinds of them. But yes you are right you'll only know once you try. and what do you mean by improve yourself?
Thanks for your share. Good luck.
You're not ugly. Society is.
no we ugly society is just cruel
the biggest r/niceguy out there
Not possible. Didn't complain about being nice once. Besides, this was written a while ago. I've moved on
good for you, but you had seemed to be putting your problems onto women, and ultimately blaming them for being "forever alone" and thats one of the many great quality of a niceguy
Nah that’s just throwing a pity party. A nice guy would do that, plus add in the fact that he’s nice
Beauty in the eyes of your partner always! :)
You have to have a partner first. This is what he is saying. I think he's in with a very narcissistic crowd but I'm not there.
It's really not about attractiveness
Then please do inform me about what it’s about.
That's the standard answer.