Put Yourself in the Shoes of an Unattractive Man

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Put yourself in the shoes of an unattractive man

As Valentine's day approaches, I thought it would be a good idea to create this mytake on something both men and women are oblivious to, the life of an unattractive man. I want you to put yourself in the shoes of an unattractive man. These are the comments/questions we get from attractive people pretty often.

1.) If you're unattractive, then why don't you date an unattractive woman?

Put Yourself in the Shoes of an Unattractive Man

I hear this comment literally every time I tell someone that it is impossible for me to get a girlfriend. Why don't you date an unattractive girl since you're unattractive, they cancel out! Would you date someone you find unattractive? No? Didn't think so. I don't know why attractive people think our brains work differently than them and we have to find girls who are unattractive attractive. I don't think Amy Schumer is attractive and I wouldn't want to date her. So because we are both unattractive, that is suppose to mean that we are a match made in heaven? It's ridiculous.

2.) A simple face care routine, wardrobe makeover, and a routine workout plan will fix it!

Put Yourself in the Shoes of an Unattractive Man

Although that may improve your overall appearance, if you missed the genetic lottery then you still won't be able to get attractive women. I always have a clean face, I wear clothes that fit and look nice (according to the internet at least), and I've been going to the gym for over three years and managed to get pretty toned (I'm toned, but still skinny. I can usually fill small and extra small shirts.) and did that change my attractiveness? Nope. I'm still considered unattractive. It's all about your genetics.

3.) You're not that ugly!

Put Yourself in the Shoes of an Unattractive Man

This is a comment I get from women a lot. You're not that ugly! A lucky girl will come to you one day and be your girlfriend! I appreciate the positive attitude, but it's not going to happen. Also, I know they are sugar coating my unattractiveness because why aren't they drooling over me then if i'm not so unattractive as they claim I am? Girls say this to boost my self-esteem, however they are lying when they say it. I'd rather they be straight up and tell me that i'm ugly than for them to lie about it. Also, tell that to the multiple girls who rejected me when I asked them on a date, to prom, to homecoming, to grab lunch or dinner, or to simply go to a university game with me. They would think differently.

4.) Your life could be much worse, you could by dying

Yes, this is true, however I don't believe it's right to compare my life to someone who is dying. Just because they are having it "worse" than me doesn't mean that what i'm going through isn't a real problem. Having no girl be physically attracted to you is a genetic curse. It's something I wouldn't wish upon my worst enemy.

5.) Someday, the right girl will come

I feel like the people who say this know that they're lying. They say that like they haven't dated ten women or men in the past three months. Although this happens to some people, I don't expect it to happen to us unattractive guys. It's simply illogical that one girl will come to us. And what if she does comes to us, but then leaves? Using that logic, that would be it. If she leaves you, then there is no hope because she was "the one."

6.) The reason you're unattractive is because you think you're unattractive

Put Yourself in the Shoes of an Unattractive Man

Basically, they think that if I think (mentally) that I am physically attractive, then I will magically become physically attractive. No I won't. People really need to stop this fantasy bs. It's not "in your head", it has been told to you. I have been told by many girls that i'm ugly. I've even been told I was ugly when I was rejected. That is the SOLE reason I am being rejected. It's not because I "think I'm ugly" it's because I AM ugly.

7.) The reason you're getting rejected is because of your personality.

I've heard this one a lot too. If the reason I got rejected was because of my personality, then why is it that all the girls that rejected me, rejected me in the first five seconds? I came up to them confidently, I didn't act creepy, yet they probably thought I was a creep because of my bad looks. I have friends, who are girls, that say that I have a great personality. According to them, I am smart, funny, and caring. Yet, girls turn me down instantly. Why is that? It's because i'm not physically pleasing. And if it was because they weren't looking for a relationship or because they had a boyfriend, they would of told me and not have walked away with a disgusted look on their face, or laugh in my face and walk away.

8.) Just focus on other things in life

Put Yourself in the Shoes of an Unattractive Man

Although this is good advice, I am getting tired of hearing it. They say it like getting a girlfriend isn't everything, knowing damn well they get girls all the time. Men who don't struggle with getting women will never know what it feels like to struggle getting women. They will never get it. They think it's easy and it isn't the most important thing in life. They've never felt unwanted by an attractive girl before. It's hard to focus on other things knowing that girls think you're ugly. Attractive men will push it aside because it's so easy for them go get women. Of course you won't focus on it that much. You're good at it. But for someone who isn't good at it, it's all they can think about.

These are just some of the things us unattractive men have heard over the years. Now that you are in our shoes, it isn't that fun is it? Be blessed if you're attractive. You're life will most likely be way better than those who are unattractive. What's the worst thing about being an attractive person? People hitting on you all the time? I wish I could have that, then I wouldn't be so lonely. I thought I would make this since attractive people are so oblivious to the lives of us unattractive men. Thank you for reading!

Put Yourself in the Shoes of an Unattractive Man
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