How to get the hot girl bartender - by someone who has done it!


How to get the hot girl bartender - by someone who has done it!

We all have been here. You find yourself a bar with your friends that you like to go back occasionally, and you see her. The girl who works behind the bar who suddenly makes you feel like you'd do anything to date her. But how can you do something like that when there are hundreds of other guys who try to hit on her every single night? (Especially when most of them only flirts back for tips?)

I am going to show you how I have done it, and hopefully, this will help you if you are in the situation I was in.

However: know that this takes a lot of time/work to get this done, so make sure you really have a thing for her before you try anything.

STEP 1: First contact

make sure this is done the correct way. Just be nice, polite and look her in the eyes when you say thank you. She has hundreds of guys hitting on her, sometimes in a rude or direct way, so be the opposite. just be the nice and friendly guy. Show her you are different from them. She will appreciate the change.

If you want her to remember you , tip her if you can, especially if it's late and you can tell she is getting tired. Trust me, she will remember you now and will be glad to see you come back.

STEP 2 : Small talk

After a few visits, she will start being familiar with you. If you see signs that she always recognises you and serves you first, you can then talk to her. Just simple things like "How are you?" etc. but don't insist. remember she is working and she has other customers to serve. so let her work if she is busy, but feel free to have small talk with her if she has some free time. Eventually, after a bit, you can ask her name.

STEP 3 : Try and do nice things for her

I can guarantee this will work. Just try and do nice things for her occasionally, it can be simple things from bringing your own glasses back to the bar, help her pouring your drinks, or nicely clean up after her if she makes a clumsy move... Trust me, she will love the thoughts.

Then make a test. Give her another small tip. If this time she refuses, that means she grew a soft spot for you and that she likes you and sees you more than just a customer or simple regular. you are halfway there, my friend.

STEP 4 : Gain trust from her co-workers

This one is an important one. Obviously, because she is the hot bartender who gets hit on constantly by drunk customers, her fellow male co-workers are quite protective towards her and won't hesitate to tell you to bugger off if they think you are annoying or stalking her.

If you want to get on their good side, have chats with them too. Try to become buddies. They will realise you are decent, and when they will see you talk to her, they will let their guard down as they know you and they know you have no bad intentions towards her. If they question you, reassure them saying you just like her as a person and that's that.

They will even talk to you about her if you are lucky.

STEP 5 : Come early so you can have an actual conversation and ask her out.

This is when it gets good. Come early at the bar when it is pretty much empty. If she is there, you can finally have nice conversations to get to know each other and be flirty (but let her work if she has to).

Just don't stay too long and come back once or twice. Try to flirt with her, and if she flirts back, or responds well to your compliments and asks questions about you, this time you can tell that it is for real and she is just not "doing her job" ... now you can ask her out.

Good luck.

How to get the hot girl bartender - by someone who has done it!
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  • FreshOutaIdeas
    Nice one OP!!

    If your writing from an American perspective then I know you guys often think trying to pull barmaids and waitresses is a waste of time - "they're just in it for the money duuude". But I see your proving that it's not impossible to cut through their "professionalism" 😉

    Speaking from across the pond, I've messed with a lot of barmaids, waitresses and the like. We don't have to tip here so it's not really in the culture for barmaids to actively flirt just for customersl experience-sake... But never the less, in fact probably as much as I have met girls away from bars!

    Another important hint/tip is simply just not to treat them any different to any other girl. If she's attracted to you, she'll do the usual flirtatious glancing or shy/coy games that any girl will do.

    As you've already pointed out, don't get in the way of their work too much, don't pester them. Just general chit chat and build on it how you would with any other woman. There have been places that I've frequented where I had the entire team of (often very attractive) women vying for my attention.

    Can bring a little girly drama, but damn it's fucking fun (and satisfying) being able to enjoy my favourite food and drink (Jack n coke and some Blacktooth Grin), and chat to pretty hostesses who sometimes have more conversational skills than "lay women" do outside of the bar - at least I can pick which ones I wanna take home that way 💪😂
    Is this still revelant?

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  • 1828avaava1828
    TLDR yo
    Is this still revelant?

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What Girls & Guys Said

  • Logorithim
    Although this is good advice, I think there are plenty of other women for guys to talk to so bartenders should be left alone, IMHO.
  • kespethdude
    REAL answer: If oyou're attactive, you can try it. But, thanks to #metoo about to enter the restaurants, if you're not attractive, don't try it. Especially if you're trying to keep a clean criminal record. And atractiveness is objective. If everyone is repulsed by your existence, that's a good hint NOT toi try this.
  • Tanisha69
    Yeah I worked in a bar and you get hit on constantly. After awhile you just dont want to have guys chat you up. Never dated anyone I met at work.
  • Belliebella
    Im a bartender, im curious to see if anyone tries this on me lol
  • dadsfgasg
    I've been to bars, but I've never been drawn to a hot female bartender.

    That's just me though.
  • Joker_
    Getting the hot girl bartender is impossible - trust me
  • brittslitt
    What in the?😳🤦🏼‍♀️
  • Good take..
  • robocop666
    I am terrible at picking up women
  • madisonleroy
    Hmm idek
  • Anonymous
    Terrible idea. Dated bartenders. Horrible.
    • Not in my experience it wasn't. For various different reasons long term relationships never spring from them - but by no means were they bad.

      What was your experience?

    • Never sprung from them*

      Not to say that they can't though.