Do Good Looks Matter To Girls?

Question

Im asking this because many people say personality is much more important. So here's a realistic scenario for you ladies, if two men approached you at a club or party one being sexy/handsome/hot man 10/10 (e. g Trey Songz) made a move on you, he smiled made jokes flirted with you and bought you drinks however you found out he was an arrogant jerk/player. Then came the second man who approached you who is ugly/has bad teeth and acne made similar moves as the sexy guy he smiled made you laugh and feel special bought you drinks, flirted with you but he was a 2/10 in the looks department who would you pick and why? and who would you decline be honest ladies? And from your experiences which of the two men have gotten the girl in similar circumstances?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Ok just to be clear, i have a vagina... I'm not blind.
I'd honestly pick neither guy as a potential guy to date. The first, well i might make out with him at the club, get a photo of us together so i can show my friends and gloat. But i could never date someone arrogant or that's like a player. I don't carry illusions of being able to change someone. At the same time, guy number two... well if he's really funny then I'd see if maybe we could be friends. But again, I couldn't date someone wasn't attracted to.
From my experiences or well observations, guy one usually has a better chance at taking the girl home. If a girl really wants to get laid and there's a good looking guy available, as long as he doesn't use his mouth to talk well why not. But most girls move on once they find out he's a player. No-one wants to date a player, some girls accidentally do cause the player is good at hiding his true intentions, but no girl wants to feel used. And with guy number 2, well if a girl is really charmed by him (which in itself can make a guy really attractive) then she will probably give him a chance, and if he's able to click with her emotionally and also be cheeky and spontaneous with her then he has a great shot at getting the girl. Cause it's not necessarily about the face, but how it moves, smiles etc.. But it depends on the girl, and particularly the self esteem of the girl.
For me, i tend to date sweet, intelligent and (average looking i guess) guys, and i always buy my own drinks!

Nintjies101 · Accepted Answer

Woman (and men mind you) pick a romantic or sexual parter not because of their desire to enter a relationship, but because eventually they want children.

Now that being established we can see that guy no. 1 however a jerk is a excellent physical specimen and would provide pretty good genes for future children. Guy no. 2 on the other hand would appear slightly unhealthy due to the acne and bad teeth and we would reject on the subconscious desire purely due to his "unhealthy" appearance.

I would like to add to this answer in a way more appropriate way however. Different things are attractive to different people. For example at a party two girlfriends can sit at a bar, one staring longingly at a man who has a strong build and a square jaw while the other could be way more interested in the shy guy next to her who is slightly overweight, but provides interesting conversation and is intellectually superior. Girl one is seeking good genes while girl two knows that if she marries or dates guy two she will be financially secure and in turn so will her offspring.

MaskedSanity · Accepted Answer

I would reject both.

Personality is everything to me, which is why I've been single until I was 23, I'm very picky with the type of men I date.

Looks are important, but not as much. Obviously, you can't be with someone you find physically repulsive - there just wouldn't be any chemistry and no sex whatsoever.
When I first saw my current boyfriend, looks-wise I thought he was a 6. But as soon as we started talking, that number shot up to 10 straight away. His intelligence and charm swept me off my feet and I knew then and there I needed this man in my life.

If you witness women going after the handsome dude in a club, don't forget that a relationship will most likely not happen after dawn.

Socal1 · Accepted Answer

Dude I know you want girls to answer this but this is the biggest no-brainer for oh so many reasons.

Bad teeth and the guy#2 is done no matter what.

And guy#1; arrogant jerk/player. Even though most girls won't admit it this is the guy they are definitely going to respond well to. This ain't no disney pic bro. In real life prince charming would get killed by the black knight and then sleeping beauty would go home with him and have sex. This is just how the real world works.

pedro28 · Accepted Answer

Good looks do matter to women. but being good looking is not the same as being handsome. being good looking means you dress well (dress in a way that makes you feel confident and sexy), keep yourself well groomed, keep good hygiene, exercise to maintain your body, and enjoy having a good time and enjoy to smile.

VikingHel · Answer

When you first see someone you have never met, it is physical looks that will attract you. But if I found out he was a jerk, no way Jose, bye-bye to you.
It could be simply that they take care of themselves and that they're healthy.
But people find different things attractive. I personally don't find Trey Songz attractive, but I see that he is handsome and would be to others. I like guys with short and long hair, but not shaved bald, whereas others do.
Personality, as you get to know a person, their personality will make them even more attractive. I wouldn't go with a guy off say, Jersey Shore. They may be fit and work out but they're so annoying I'd drive myself mad.

But in regards to circumstances, I'd expect 10/10 man to get the girl because they are also aware of their looks and would be confident. And because, despite his arrogance, he evidently takes care of himself (perhaps a bit too vain though).

anon56789 · Answer

Girls in clubs are looking for a quick hookup. So if he's hot, then sure. Go for it.

The ugly guy...

I agree that personality is much more important. But we can't be totally unattracted to the guy. Just because personality is more important, that doesn't mean we're going to hook up with a guy who has really bad acne and teeth. I mean there is a chance if he tries (and succeeds) cleaning up his acne and he really has an amazing personality. But that depends on the girl. An amazing personality will turn a 5 into a 9. That's kind of what people mean by that I think.

Izzy2102 · Answer

Well I wouldn't exactly call trey songz a 10. I think he is quite average actually and I don't like his style

But let's assume an actual 10 asked me out and turned out to be a total jerl, that'd be a deal breaker. Looks do matter. But it's not decimal system, it's a binary system. 0 or 1 , yes or no. There are two kinds of guys, those that are attractive enough I would like to date them and those that aren't. So looks matter to get you into the yes category, but beyond that other things are more important and a lack of other things can be a deal breaker

DodgersGM · Answer

Most are gonna pick the first guy. Some will pick neither. And very few will pick bachelor number two.

As for a general answer to this question, yes, of course looks matter to women. I mean, I really hope the woman I end up feels like looks matter, because I want her to think I'm attractive and sexy. Who doesn't want that?

(I say this last part in the sense that she'd at least find me SUBJECTIVELY attractive/sexy. I don't care if she thinks I'm mainstream hotness or anything like that)

lumos · Answer

Of course looks matter. They matter to everyone. How MUCH they matter depends on the individual.
I wouldn't want to be with either of those guys, because I wouldn't be attracted to either of them. Attraction to me is a combination of both looks and personality. I'm not saying that I'm looking for the hottest supermodel or anything, all I want is a guy who I find attractive and who treats me right. What I find attractive,
someone else might find unattractive.

findingdreamland · Answer

I am gonna take the first one. I can not stand bad teeth lol

I will lie if i say i don't care about looks. I care and it does matter because it is base of a physical attraction. But looks are sth , not everything. He has to have a good personality too. Otherwise, his looks make him turn into jerk.

Based on my experience, many girls go with the first one. Look matters really a lot to many of them.

Dcosse · Answer

Reject both. Looks don't matter a lot to me but they do still matter. In order to be in a happy relationship with someone I'd have to love their personality and have to be at least a bit attracted to them. The cliches are gettig old quite frankly. Not all hot guys are jerks and not all ugly guys are "nice guys".

soccerchick4eva · Answer

Looks are a thing that gets you attracted to a person really, but if their personality is as good as their looks then its a bonus :)

but in a scenario like that, to be honest id probs end up with the jerk/player because bad teeth is such a turn off for me

_stella · Answer

To be honest, looks really do matter at first. How someone looks, is what catches your attention and attracts you to them. Someone with an ugly outer appearance will automatically be a turn off. But, personality is what will last. Sure, most girls would choose the arrogant, handsome guy over the not so handsome guy but the arrogance will overshadow his appearance and the same for the ugly guy. His kindess/humour will make his ugliness fade.

LittleSally · Answer

Bad teeth - could never tolerate that... sorry. That means bad genes... Anyways, none of them. Sorry. Of course looks matter - why would a girl have to look perfect if a guy looks like a zombie?

Anonymous · Answer

As for me I'd met both the next day... one after the other because you don't think or see things clearly at a club, a girl might fall in love easily of a not so good looking boy great personality and hate the personality of a good looking quy. The appearance is very important as well but just look in the mirror and ask yourself, am I pretty enough to expect more from people, doesn't matter because who likes you, likes you the way you are... in the right person's eyes your imperfections are PERFECT

meemissyy143 · Answer

Well im going to be honest. The first thing you see is obviously the looks. Personality comes after , but if i had to choose between the two guys i would say that i wouldn't like the jerk and would probably wanna be friends the unattractive guy. but looks dont always matter once you start getting to know someone but if you dont know the person then yea you would probably go for the good looking one first

xonimi · Answer

Reject both.
Reject guy #1 because he's a jerk. Reject guy #2 because I'm not attracted to him.

Looks and personality both matter.

Looks determine if I go out on a date with a guy. Personality determines if I continue to date that guy.

rthomas43 · Answer

The first guy, every time.
More girls are willing to force a relationship and attempt to make it work with a guy they are sexually attracted to physically but not overly into personality speaking than the other way around.

Anonymous · Answer

People always say that a great personality is the most important thing and blablabla but I think that when you see a person for the first time, you'll always feel attracted to their looks, if not, you won't start flirting with him/her

Ginjaninja22 · Answer

Bad teeth can be fixed and so can acne. Sadly I hate to sell girls out like this but we want the good guy in the sexy guys body.

dominiquois · Answer

To an extent. Inner beauty is most important that's sooooooo true.

christianivan · Answer

Of course it matters

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