Why do women hate me so much?

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Why do women hate me so much, what have I done to deserve it? I am completely innocent, and have done nothing to deserve their hatred, yet every day it have to wake up to the reality. They all despise me, all of them. Apparently I'm seen as a weak, ineffectual loser, but why? I'm kind, I'm attractive, why do they hate me so much? They always leave me alone, discarded like trash, but, it's fine, because I hate them more than they hate me. They have taught me to hate them, my hatred runs deep and cold. I haven't had a girlfriend, not a single one, it's not fair, them and their stupid boyfriends, I hate them all, they want me to be miserable, I HATE THEM! All my life, sad, alone, spat on, by them, always them. All I want is to be loved, is that too much to ask, that's all I ever wanted, for one person, one fucking person to love me, but no, not even that. Not a single person in this world loves me, well, I hate them, humanity, they're like animals, parasites, I hate them all. I've never done anything to anybody, yet girls still despise me, still think I deserve to suffer. All I want is to be happy, everyone wants to be happy, why can't I? And, how could I have any self-esteem when they've always tried to ensure that I had none, that I'd hate myself forever, well, you've one, I just want to put a gun to my head and end my life, I hate myself and I hate you and it's your fault. All I want to know is, ladies, why do you hate me so much?

cth96190 · Accepted Answer

You are way too young to be having those sort of thoughts. Nobody should be having those sort of thoughts at any age.
I am 57 years old and I experienced little other than rejection by women when I was young, because I was not a scumbag bad boy, so I understand your pain.
Despite that, there is no burning hatred in my soul. About age 30, after a decade and a half of being pushed aside by women in their rush to throw themselves crotch first at some version or other of Mr Harley MacBadBoy, or Iva Necktattoo, or an an oily nightclub Romeo, I simply walked away. Bitter, yes, but no burning hatred. I reached the conclusion that as a product what I had to offer was not what the market wanted. That is and was nobody's 'fault'. I also decided that the girls and the bad boys deserved each other. To women in general I said silently: enjoy your abusive relationship with the loser, you picked it.
You are so young. Because of your age and adolescent hormones (adolescence lasts until about age 25, BTW) you are feeling things intensely and thinking and reacting in an exaggerated way.
Nobody owes your or I anything and that includes a romantic relationship and sex. People are who and what they are, just as we are who and what we are. To hate women for being women is like hating any creature for being born what they are. That does not make sense. It is wrong in logic. In time, you may come to understand that the different genders have certain behaviours that have been hard wired into them as a matter of evolutionary biology. In other words, you are condemning and hating females for doing nothing more than following the operating system that has been hard wired into their organic computers. It is not their 'fault'. It is not anyone's 'fault'.
The sort of hatred that you express is an indication of a deep psychological disorder. Please speak to a psychiatrist or a psychologist about it, before you hurt yourself or someone else.

phewphew · Accepted Answer

i understand you perfectly.. i have had the same life style as you do.. but all that changed.. buy better clothes, buy better shoes, change you attitude towards girls.. cuz usually the problem is nit the problem itself, its oyu attitude towards he problem which creates a problem that isn't there. so live life happily cuz one will come by soon.. i may not have a girl friend yet but i never gave up and almost having one.. so you should nevet give up too.. ask the girl you like to hang out and try ur best... if ya want.. we can meet when ur free and ill help ya

IU_092 · Accepted Answer

You should be telling that to one who know you, not to someone who doesn't know you. But hey, you never know why people hate you unless you ask. My own family hates me and I don't even have the guts to ask them why, because I already know the answer. I think it will break me if I hear them say it. The best thing you should do is, forget and think about your future. That always helps, i try to create scenerios of what I will do once I grow up, finish school, go to uni and have my own job. Thats the only thing that keeps me going.

angelmarkley · Accepted Answer

I don't know you so I don't hate you, but it might be your attitude. I don't know. I can't judge you because, like I said, I don't know you. I'm pretty sure there are girls that would like you if they got to know you. Or maybe you just put yourself in bad company. Try to find good company.

EyeSeaYew · Accepted Answer

Lol, dude, there's a lot of ladies in this world. You haven't even met half of them. So you can't justifiably say ALL women hate you without sounding exaggeratedly dramatic.

Sinister · Answer

You sound EXACTLY like the guy who shot up Santa Barbara not so long ago. By what you have written, I'm sure you even feel like that there's a sense of entitlement when asking a girl for her number because what you simply made the move to ask her? There's PUA all over the country find one and learn somethings and maybe your chances will improve but lose the whole whiny attitude it's like a highly concentrated girl-repellent on the top shelf.

dominiquois · Answer

Take a chill pill seriously. There are some girls who would like you if you if you weren't so pushy, regardless of what you look like. You must be more sure of yourself and like yourself because if you don't people will believe your reasons to not like yourself as a person. Get a hobby or a passion. Be friendlier, you're just scaring them away yo.

lazlo686 · Answer

I think the same way except a slight difference a. I dont hate them. B. I won't kill myself. C. They dont like me becuz of my looks mainly. And D. (Lol get it jk) you gotta improve your self if u wanna date dude dont worry about it Im sure your a handsome dude your just probably overexaggerating. :)

jordanch68 · Answer

Question, why are you concerned about people that "hate" you? If someone doesn't like you don't waste a second of your time on them. They can and will think whatever they want about you, you have no control over that only whether or not you let It get to you. It's ok to have enemies, it's ok for people to not like you. It's not ok to let what someone thinks of you negatively affect you.

justaregularguyy · Answer

YOU ARE SO YOUNG!!!
Give it some time. Trust mewhen i say I know how you feel. I am 21 and no girl ever gave me a chance. I have very poor self esteem but i still fight my depression and so can you. Hang in there.

aficionado · Answer

Nobody 'hates' you dude. Its normal feel this way at your age. You're too young to be worrying so much about girls. Things will fall into place after you become an adult.

TheSnarkKnight · Answer

Here's a hint. Girls don't like angsty hateful people with negative attitudes.

mutedaisy · Answer

You should really look into xanax and talking to a therapist might help... The feeling of everyone being out to get you can make you ill._.

justbeinghonest · Answer

Oh grow a pair ! You're under 18 things will change when you stop crying about it and get a job.

Negrodamus · Answer

feel free to message me. Sounds like you could use someone to talk to

ChentleyAkkers · Answer

Ahhh I remember the angsty teenager phase. You'll get through it kid. And then you'll look back and see how dumb you sound.

sammy_31 · Answer

You are SO young please don't give up on woman you've just met some bad ones.

Anonymous · Answer

Gee maybe it's your freaking attitude? Who the hell would want to be around a guy like you?

Anonymous · Answer

chill out, women pretty much hate everything except themselves

Anonymous · Answer

Give it a year or two, and you will be embarrassed when you see this post again.

SleepyChan · Answer

Wait until college, you'll find girls.

Prodigious · Answer

i think because TLDR

Anonymous · Answer

Don't be so needy...

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