How to give up on girls?

[Anonymous]

I've basically given up on getting a girlfriend, hell, I've given up on feeling anything at all. I'm 17, never had a girlfriend, always got rejected, now I don't even bother trying (just as well because they always like another guy). I've already given up on meeting a girl that will ever reciprocate my feelings, given up on love, now all I have is pain and unbearable hatred. All I want to know is, how do I stop caring completely, hell, I want to know how to delete my emotions completely, if possible. Seem I was trying to date some girl (just to get over the girl I actually did love, that rejected me) and she hooked up with another guy, so that's out the window, but hey, what did I expect. Now I basically have no other options, nothing and nobody, completely alone (story of my life), honestly, I wish everyone could suffer with me. Don't tell me I'm young, because I don't care, don't tell me about your magical "true love" stories because hat doesn't happen, not for me. Don't bother saying how "rejection is great, one closer to the right girl" because, either A. I won't find this magic (nonexistent) person, or B. I won't even like this person, more like settling, not to mention, I only wan to be with one girl. No, there isn't a lot of time for me, no I don't believe there's any right girl, and I don't know how I'll magically find somebody. So yeah, I've given up on love, attachments, bonds, I will never make myself weak to anyone ever again. So, how do I stop liking girls?

[Anonymous]

I'm 22 and only just recently dated this guy who is now MY FIRST BOYFRIEND. Reason being is that I have been really picky and I don't want to commit to a relationship as I had many suitors all my life and also that I have very strict conservative parents. I don't go out of my way to flirt people, I am just myself when I am the opposite sex and show genuine interest in them and their life. If you are trying real hard to pursue a girl it doesn't work and comes off desperate and a girl can sniff it a mile away. Just be yourself, after all a girl will like you for you.
I've had guys coming to me telling me that they really like me but I feel that it was just physical attraction. The reason why I chose to settle down was that this guy was purely genuine and go out of his own way to show me that he cares for me. However I was on the verge of hooking up with another guy as he was quite boring at the time and I had a more stimulating communication flow with that other guy. I decided to give him a chance however because he was just so sweet and as I got to know him abit more, he opened up to me and we have electrifying chemistry.
Just know that true love is not some girl you find attractive and you guys fall in love. It is about a physical and mental connection you feel mutually for each other. If a girl can't appreciate you for you then it is just not meant to be. The right one will come along eventually.

[Asker]

No, true love is a lie. The closest I ever came to true love was falling in love with a friend who rejected me. I don't believe in a right one, I loved her and only her and any girl that falls for me now earned whatever harsh rejection I give them. Honestly this is just so useless, I wish I was just a sociopath.

[bakegyllenhaal]

Alright, I'm going to be really cliche. You're only seventeen. I'm sure you've heard this before, but you should really listen to it. You know how you'll see kids at the mall who look about twelve, and they're walking around, holding hands with their boyfriend who they "totally love, mom!"? Yeah, well you'll probably look at 17 year olds like that when you're in your twenties. Teenagers don't really have a full understanding of relationships. When you're a teenager, everything seems like a really big deal because you've only dated one girl, and there's this stupid idea that teenagers have where as soon as you're in a relationship, it means you're boyfriend and girlfriend. Dating does not exist. When you're in your twenties, you can go on a date with some chick, then not call her because the way that she laughed was really annoying, and she chewed her food too loudly. Also, that dream girl? In reality, it's the girl who annoys you the least, and who's going to be bearable long term.
Also, if you don't want to try to get a girl anymore? That's fine. You don't have to. Forever's not for everyone, and romance and love is actually quite a recent concept, when it comes to marriage. You're allowed to be a bachelor if you want. Don't buy into society's bullshit, man.

[Anonymous]

omg i feel the same!!! i swear i am tired of listening to that bullshit! the guys i go for never go for me! and the guys who go for i am not attracted to them:( i know its sad.. i recently really liked a guy and he ended up dumping me coz i didn't give him action! yes its that disgusting to a point where i am just jaded about this shit! i want to completely erase my feelings like basically feel nothing at all! i have nobody to look forward to! this is all bullshit to me.. whenever i come across a guy i like i just take a U turn and forget about him and move on.. honestly if someone really likes you and wants to be with you they will make an effort! i am hating guys.. ok fine if i like a guy i try to talk to him if he doesn't reciprocate i just leave him alone.. there is no point.. forget it man all love crap is bullshit! fill your void space with something else.. dont want this pain and misery! i would say just dont think about it the minute you feel like you are being attracted to a girl just stop yourself and get busy with something else! i am 24 yeah going through the same!

[Asker]

The thing is, there was this one girl I cared about, and thought she cared about me, when I was wrong (yet again) I just completely gave into the hate and anger eating at me all my life.

[Opinion Owner]

its okay just dont think about it and dont get emotionally vested in it!

[Asker]

The thing is, I don't know what else to feel, I try to be happy, but I only feel justice in everyone being lonely like me.

[Opinion Owner]

lol you shouldn't wish bad for others instead be happy that you dont have to go through their fights and bs lovey dovey shit everyday! trust me these relationships are time consuming so just wait for the right one honestly if someone really likes you and cares they will keep coming to you! just do your things and you will def attract that hottie;) you know usually you will find things when you stop chasing them! so just stop and focus on other things!

[Irish_cutie]

You say that than sooner or later a girl will come alone and change that. Because both me and my friend gave up I was done with guy for like 6 months and he gave up on girls a year before I even decided that... and ya now we are dating and I couldn't be happier :3

[Asker]

That's not me, however. I don't have any reason to believe that, I've given up before, but I've still never had a girlfriend, and, every girl that has liked me, I didn't care about, it even seemed like they liked the fact that I clearly didn't care about them.

[darkfoxjj]

Guys hit on girls, so if you are a girl and give up you will still have options open.

But if a guy 'the hunter' gives up, there is no way you will get chatted up by a girl. They don't even hold eyecontact in the street, because there are so many guys staring at them. Let alone initiate a conversation.

But I am glad you found your love anyway :p

[Irish_cutie]

Not just guys are hunters :P Me personally, I've flirted and asked out my share of guys :P But if you want to give up on girls the best way to do it is not flirt, don't go to bars or parties and talk to them, just cut out that little part of your life. it will be hard but meh it works

[Anonymous]

I've tried so many times to give up on girls and for longest time ever I found myself uninterested in anyone and then from out of nowhere I saw her, wanted her and fell back into line.

You can try and stop liking girls, but it's futile because sooner or later there's going to be a girl somewhere that attracts your attention and your interest.

Also I've been a failure like you in the dating game and I have no right to tell you how to feel. I've been on the receiving end of rejection and it never gets easier to deal with, it still hurts, it still knocks the wind out of my sails, but what hurts even more is becoming bitter, frustrated and resentful because these horrible emotions pour out in your body language and you end up locked in a cycle where by you become your own worst enemy. I should know I used to be such a person.

I can't sit here and promise you that you'll find someone because I do believe there are those of us in this life who aren't meant to find anybody, who aren't meant to fall in love, to experience love, to marry and to reproduce. Now whether or not you are one of these people remains to be seen, but the worst thing you can do is abandon all hope.

[Asker]

Women are just burdens anyway, love holds me back, but hatred propels me forward.

[darkfoxjj]

I kinda know how you feel.

Just don't 'TRY' to not invest too much energy in a single girl and 'flirt' with multiple girls. Even when you're in a relationship stuff can/will go sour. So even then you should be aware of that. Become good in flirting and not investing too much emotion.

Go out (with friends) a lot, don't necessarily drink, but talk to girls you don't know a bit. Do it often and you will get at least a kiss ! :)

[Asker]

Well, the thing is, I have a hard time being interested in girls I don't care about, and it goes beyond looks. Honestly, if I wouldn't care if a girl dies (not to be morbid) it's hard for me to muster enough interest to force myself to talk to her. Also, even then, I don't know how to talk to girls, honestly, I can only really flirt with girls I'm not actually interested in, and that's because of the way I talk.

[darkfoxjj]

Yea I know what you mean. But still if a girl looks pretty enough, there should be at least a minor moment of wanting to be able to know her better. Those moments are the one we should use.

And then be more of a 'body language guy', flirt more with eyes and touching on wrists, elbows, shoulders. Go to dance clubs maybe? You only need to dance near a girl and look her in the eye a bit + smile. If she likes you it will escalate :P

[Asker]

People forget I'm only really 17, I can't go to clubs.

[darkfoxjj]

Then start playing field hockey or mixed tennis, you meet girls that way. Haha :P

[Asker]

Maybe, but, I don't like hockey, and don't play tennis anymore. Any other suggestions, that aren't sports?

[darkfoxjj]

Basically anywhere where you mingle with the opposite sex and 'it's normal to talk'. Maybe a sailing club? Badminton. Or hang out with friends - that are friends with girls. The last one is actually a very good way to meet people.

[49erfan]

damn dude that was fucking depressing , well for starters don't talk to girls about that depressing stuff they dont like it xD , and two... just be a fucking calm , girls are nice you just got to work with them , and pick up the signs , I know its hard but its like not so hard once you've seen a whole lot you just got to be infront of a girl to see em , don't turn gay dude girls are fucking awesome

[Asker]

I wasn't thinking of gay, I was thinking to either turn to drugs, a lobotomy, or suicide. At least with all three I can finally get my revenge on God, especially with suicide. He created me, he made me and gave me a shitty, well fine, I'll show him free will was a mistake, when I exercise my free will and take me own life.

[49erfan]

you ever tried smoking pot lol it looks like you need that shit man xD listen to rap music and smoke some and just watch the magic happen

[Asker]

I hate rap music.

[Asker]

Though I only want to do drugs so I never have to think about anything ever again and so I could stick it to God by destroying my body.

[Insaan]

Someone said that lonely bear is troll. You questioned too? What's going on?

[Junlian]

Your very being would not allow it. Your going feel it, trust me. Your going be sexually frustrated, wake with a boner, desire lust just by eyeballing a girl, sex fantasies will swim in your head every no and again and on top of that you will constantly desire the will to want more. Now i wouldn't give up as prostitution and being a p*rnstar are future options. Or make a shitty movie with sex dcenes and your thr guy getting all the woman. Try reaching your goals instead of woman.

[CommieDearest]

Stop focusing on finding a relationship, one will eventually fall into your lap. You're barely old enough to date.

Ps, you can't get butthurt that a girl you were trying to use hooked up with another guy.

[Asker]

Haha, I hate her.

[Dbt25677]

Here's what I did, seems to be working so far:
1. Lower your self esteem (in that area). Tell yourself you're not deserving of a girlfriend.
2. Cut communication with them.
3. Become an MRA. (I haven't done this).

I've done the first two on this list and it seems to be working.

[LonelyBear]

I'm 37 and have never has a boyfriend. How do you think I feel. You're still young and have plenty of time.

[49erfan]

lol you for real?

[LonelyBear]

OMG YES!

[beastman88]

borderline gay talk bro, in fact it is gay talk

[Asker]

How so, I'm implying that I plan to give up my emotions, not to give up on being hetero, I couldn't be gay even if I tried.

[beastman88]

i tend not to read everything, all i seen was "iam giving up on girls"

[Anonymous]

I'm giving up on guys xD