What is his deal...does he like me or not?

[valleyg]

I meet this guy driving and he asked for my number...I never do it but I guess I was feeling something that day and gave it to him.

He called me shortly after that told me he had a girlfriend and wasn't planning to leave her but at the same time wasn't sure what he wanted out of life! We have been talking for over a month now and have seen each other about 5 times (kissing and what not but nothing else) he calls me everyday about 3-4 times and on the weekends. He doesn't ever ask to see me or make an effort too but the calls won't stop and he seems to get upset when I don't answer his calls or when I tell him what I did over the weekend.

What's this guys issue? Should I kick him to the curb? Does he like me a lot and doesn't want to get caught up dumping his girlfriend...OR what else can it be?

thanks!

[nymphoman]

Your his bit on the side sweetheart, he isn't dumping his girlfriend because she obviously gives him something you can't give him and too important to lose, I don't mean love with her otherwise he wouldn't cheat, I call it the home convenience which may be anything from a bed, a safe haven to fall back on where he keeps his posessions, sometimes kids their and maybe a ring on her finger.

Get rid and stop allowing yourself to be the role of "that slag sleeping with my boyfriend!" that will eventually be who he directs all blame to and you end up being the one with more trouble than its worth to handle in the end.

Sorry to be blunt but it is a bit obvious what your role has been and you should be ashamed to allow a man to mess with you when he has a girlfriend, no excuses, you should avoid anyone who thinks he can screw you then go home to his missus.

Do you want to be one of those horrible home wrecker type women who have that moniker of "cant get a man so steals everyone elses" or do you want to stop wasting your time with the deadbeat and find yourself your own man?

[MaReAnSaed]

i think he's one of those really smart guys who know how to make you want sex instead of him asking for sex. honestly, I'm one of those guys who has the abilities to do that.

or

it could be that he doesn't have a valid reason for hsi girlfriend to break up with her (because he's nice) but he still doesn't like something in her that he find in you. at the end of the road, u'll end up ruining his love life if his girlfriend finds out, or YOUR love life if you fall for him and like him and then he smartly "[kicks YOU] to the curb"

[bbgirl]

kick that boy to the curb. he's stinging you along in case it doesn't work out with his gf. and most likely your only temporary with him.

plus even if by any chance it worked out with him he would most likely be real controlling seeing as he gets mad when you don't answer his calls and stuff. and how would you trust him knowing that he had a girlfriend now and is flirting with you...what if he did that to you.

[evami]

nymphoman is right! kick him to the curb like you said! he's using you! you deserve better than to be the girl on the side! go out and find the guy that will treat you right and won't feed you lines like "i don't know what I want out of life". no. he's a LOSER! move on girl! you'll be happy when you do:)

answer mine?

[Roshell2009]

His action show he is interested, but in what? A side attraction? He has a girlfriend... Kick him to the curb, stop answering his calls, you are not available for his games nor are you his toy.

Let him figure out his own life, and not complicate yours.

Good Luck

[Anonymous]

He has made his point clear that he isn't going to break up with his girlfriend. Unfortunately guys do this all the time. Now he's into cheating on her with you too (kissing or not, still cheating), what makes you think that if he were to leave her for you, that the same thing wouldn't happen in time with you? It's unfair, why set yourself up for it? He sounds a bit controlling too. You're dumb if you continue anything with him.

[valleyg]

You are right. But what's his point on calling me everyday just to talk? Normally guys would want sex too?

[Opinion Owner]

Every relationship needs boundaries. He gives you just enough attention to keep you interested. Guys are really good about saving face with someone they are with, and having fun on the side. Happens a lot more than it should unfortunately. When people get comfortable, they open up. He wants his cake and to eat it too.

[valleyg]

Well yesterday I made the decision to just ignore his calls......this "one way" street isn't working for me....So now I will give him a little payback "IGNORING" no one likes that! Thanks for the help. I guess he just wanted to feel wanted and stuck on himself.....obviously he was too chicken to want to have sex or whatever.

[Opinion Owner]

Absolutely. My ex girlfriend of 4 1/2 years decided to just up and leave me because she's "better than me now". Before me, no one knew who she was, guys didn't pay attention to her, etc. Since then, she's become very attractive and people notice her. Now she can do without me. Its the opposite of what is happening to you. People let things get in their heads and they run with it. Both my ex, and that guy will end up getting hurt. They will come back, I will say no. I hope you do too.

[valleyg]

I am sorry to hear that happend to you! You are right again....they both will want to come back...."too late...no room for stupidity here"!!! For me, I am not at all a vindictful person, but this time.....I want him to know how it feels to like someone and to be honest to them and to buy things for them EVEN though he told me he had a girlfriend from the get go...... still he strung me on for his own personal enjoyment AND that's not cool. I hope I can write you back upon his return!

[Opinion Owner]

Good! She's trying to seek "revenge" on me because she asked me not to live with her best friends boyfriend (who I've been friends with for two years) and slept with a "friend" of mine. This in turn, makes her look like a slut. I can't wait for everyone to find out about that. It won't come from my mouth, I have too much class. I built her up from nothing, and she let me go. She will fall on her face. Don't ever be someone's doormat. You sound like a sweetheart

[Opinion Owner]

If you have a messenger (aim, yahoo, msn, etc) and want to leave your screen name, I'd love to hear what he has to say when he tries to come back.

[valleyg]

I am a sweetheart...to nice for my own good! Wow she did that? Nice of her....remember what comes around go around...she'll get hers. You sound like a real nice guy too! and good guys do do not finish last !

[Opinion Owner]

Do you have a messenger of some sort? (aim, msn, yahoo, etc)

[Emilymarie77]

He wants BOOOOTTY! Plain and simple... Run away and do not look back GF. You deserve to have a guy want to sweep you off your feet.

[rwb0027]

If he has a girlfriend who he ISN'T planning on leaving then you are either a friend or a sex toy.

[Anonymous]

sorry to say this, but it seems all he thinks of you is a good friend or a sex toy. he doesn't want to break up with his girlfriend because he loves her and won't rush things with her. but guys near your age always have this feeling for sex.