EXTREME GUILT about leading a guy on?

[Anonymous]

So here's the problem:

There's this guy who I like (STILL DO)...and in the beginning I teased him a little bit but yeah, in general, I do like him. It's been about four or five months since we spoke but I feel extremely bad, guilty and sort of sad because I felt like I lead him on because nothing ever really happened between us even though I hinted quite enough...He thinks I like him...I think... :S Here is the very core of my problem: I used to be more chatty with him when I liked him less but the more I liked him, the less I talked to him and the more shy I became. I simply am done with being or trying to be a talkative person (and I have honestly believed I said some things that made me look sooo dumb) when I am naturally shy.

I don't have dating experience. I just hope he's not angry at me? Last time we passed each other he kind of looked the other way because he said hi to me and I ignored him (by accident) the previous day. Do you think he hates me? Because I swear I may have seen him glare at me or maybe I am just being soo self conscious to an unreasonable degree?

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This is not a "Does he like me? " question.

This IS a "Do you think he hates me?" question. Forget about romance, I just hope we're on decent terms.

[Gone_But_Not_Lost]

You might have ticked him off a little bit but I doubt he hates you. if you really like him I think you should just fucking tell him. If you refuse to do that (like I imagine you will) then just up and talk to him and just be honest with him. Ask him pointblank how he feels. Explain to him that you f***ed up. You want the easy answer? That's the quick route out of this. If you don't wanna do that then I have nothing else for you. Personally I feel that a lot of people's problems can be solved if they just started being more honest.

That's all I got. I hope you try it. Maybe it will work for you.

Good luck.

[Gone_But_Not_Lost]

I'm checking back on a lot of my old answers like I usually do. I wanted to do a follow up to see if what I told you was at all helpful to you. Did my advice help?

[Asker]

Not really....

[Gone_But_Not_Lost]

I'm sorry to hear that. What happened? What did you do about all this?

[Asker]

Thanks though, Toban Frost. I still appreciate the effort. He just kind of... I don't know, it just seemed like he didn't want to talk to me... at the same time...he still seems OK to see me. I have no idea what's going on in his head, I said hi. but it really didn't seem like he wanted to talk. I didn't want to push it.

[Gone_But_Not_Lost]

Yeah that sucks. I can't say I can tell you what's going on up in his head, but to me it sounds like you are not going to get anywhere with this. Better you don't push it. Maybe some day you will be friends again but I wouldn't try to force it either, if I were you. I say it's probably better you just try to live your life in the mean time. I'm sorry that I wasn't any help though.

[germanotaku]

Well I don't think he hates you. I think he's just as confused as you are xD

I mean first there is teasing, then there's the cold shoulder and neither you nor he makes a definite move towards dating. So for sure the two of you are just wondering where it's going?

As for you ignoring him accidentally I think he sort of knows that you just weren't really paying attention to your surroundings at that given time.