My boyfriend of 2 years won't touch me, have sex with me, or even hold my hand...

[monicadawnb]

We have a gorgeous 1 year old and everything was going great. For the past 3 months, he's changed. he won't come near me. He always wants to be alone and its like he doesn't love me anymore. I always keep my body in shape and everyone thinks I'm pretty. we sleep in the same bed every night and he won't touch me kiss me or have sex...

but any suggestions on how to make him notice me again, or any answers to why he might be acting like this?

thanks so much

[Anonymous]

I don't want to burst your bubble (and this may not be the case) but non-the-less here is how I apply to the situation:

When I was moving on from my ex (we weren't broken up) I started emotionally flirting with others. I wasn't doing it to sleep with them or something else, I just wanted to have someone to move on to.

I think this applies to your boyfriend - 2 years of dating and now out-of-the-blue he doesn't want to touch, kiss, or have sex? Let's get this straight -- Men are horny, yes our libido diminishes as we get older. With that being said - I have a strong feeling that something is fishy.

Before I continue to accuse him of things when I don't know your situation - could you describe to me the way things have been lately? I mean - anything different or weird other than what you have described?

(Heres an example:

Before me and my ex broke up I was a lazy slob

NOW - I am constantly in a rush cleaning things and looking my best to raise my marketability

Before me and her broke up - I never went anywhere to do anything

NOW - I'm out with my friends on 4 of 7 nights trying to live life like when I was young.)

Think about it and get back to me - I'm giving you my honesty so please don't take it offensively.

[DrJones]

This could be a lot of things. One possible explanation is that he's suffering from clinical depression. Lack of interest in sex and a strong desire to be alone are common signs of depression. Major changes in life (e.g. having a baby) are the most common "triggers" that start an episode. Here are some other things to consider:

Has he become less interested in other activities that he used to enjoy?

Has he gained/lost a significant amount of weight?

Is he sleeping much more/less often than usual?

Does he or any family members have a history of depression or possible depression?

Wikipedia's article is long-winded, but not too bad:

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If this might be the case, the hard part is talking him into seeing a professional for diagnosis and treatment. You might be able to help him get over the stigma that everyone who sees a therapist is "crazy" (not true) or that every therapist will just prescribe drugs (also not true; only psychiatrists can prescribe drugs).

Whatever it is, good luck!

[InquisitiveMale]

I'm sorry to hear that. Have you considered doing new activities together? When things get dull discovering each other in a new ways can often help. Once we solve the puzzle in one another we don't feel a need to put in any effort. Things become mundane and dry. There are still things to discover about each other. Show him there is more to you then he knows.

MY opinion, not yours.

Cheers.

[Nosperato]

There is obviously something bothering him. And, unfortunately, the most common case is that he feels guilty for cheating on you and can't bare to touch you. What I would do is confront him at least and give him a chance to explain his behaviour or come clean; if it's no use you can assume that something's went on behind your back.

[Sexy-Senior-09]

He could be cheating on you. You may not want to hear that, but go to google and type signs my boyfriend is cheating on me and I'm sure this is one of those signs.

[ILoveElectroHouse]

try to talk to him and tell him how you feels? :0