No you aren't overreacting. When I was younger I believed men and women could be friends with no sexual issues coming into it but I do not believe that anymore.
Men and women were not meant to be friends. They were meant to be partners. It's so odd to me how many people think that they can have a best friend who is of the opposite sex and it not become an issue. In my experience, when a man and woman are very close and they aren't in a relationship, at least one of them wants the relationship. I have never seen the Hollywood idea of a man and woman who are best buds their whole lives and they never had issues with desiring each other.
I would not be cool with my partner having very close girl friends and I would never have close guy friends. It's a consideration thing. It is too easy to have a bad day with the one you love and if you have "best friend" there to comfort you, it's just too easy to screw up. So I think you have every right to say something. If something really makes you uncomfortable, you always have every right to say something.
I would tell her that you respect her enough and care enough about her feelings not to develop close relationships with other women, but you understand this friendship has been a part of her life, but there need to be boundaries put in place. She doesn't get to flirt with any guy on the street does she? So she shouldn't be using the phrase "best friend" as a loophole to flirt.
But I'm more interested in the fact that you said "I don't want to leave her". It kind of hints that maybe you have thought about it. That's a pretty strong response for just one irritant in a relationship. So that makes me think you have probably several irritants. I think I also remember you posting that you were frustrated cause you wanted to move faster than she did in certain areas of the relationship. So I can see why her flirting is a huge issue.
I think you can deal with the flirting issue but I also think you should figure out if that desire to leave is a valid one.
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I agree with the other gentleman's advice that you should talk to her. But, I think you need to re-emphasize the fact that you are uncomfortable with her flirting with her friend. She is sending the wrong signals to him and most of all she is disrespecting you & the relationship. If she truly loves and values you then she should have no problems addressing and changing her behavior. In addition, if she continues to do it despite your objections then it might have to boil down to her losing you or the friend.
This is just my opinion but you proceed as you see fit. Good luck.
Hi there. I am a girl, and I've been in pretty much the same position with my boyfriend. He thinks I flirt with my guy best friend, who flirts with me. I know my friend flirts with me, but we've always done that, even since before I started going out with my boyfriend. It's just the way we are. To be honest, I kind of like it when my boyfriend gets protective. Like, no matter how much a girl says that it bothers her, trust me, it's great. Nothing is hotter than a boy who really cares about his girl enough to be protective.
kick his ass. teach his bitch ass some motherf***ing bounadries. And to your girl tell her that it bothers you. if she freaks out then it probably wasn't it
talk to your gril first and don't get the steps mixed up
talk to her
she needs to know that you feel like her friend isn't respecting your guys relationship and he needs to back off a bit
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My bestfriends where guys when I met my boyfriend. I flirted with them it was very innocent and harmless, I love my boyfriend or I wouldn't have been with him, I would have been with my guy friends, I understand if your girlfriend is touching them or doing other physical things, but flirting is innocent. It just makes you feel good.
you are overreacting. If all they do is flirt, it's nothing.
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