Will the crush ever go away?

[Anonymous]

I've had a major crush on this one girl in my school for a while, but I know I have no shot. She's way out of my league.

Will it ever go away? It's driving me crazy... How can I get over this?

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+1 y

I would tell her, but I don't want the embarrassment. If I was guaranteed to never see her again, I'd do it in a heartbeat, because what do I have to lose?


If she did turn me down, I'd have to see her everyday (she's in 3 of my classes).

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+1 y

Then she would tell all of her friends, it would get all around school, and I would feel like a laughing stock.

[xEllenx]

i agree with all the other girls comments ! every ex boyfriend I've had always put them selves down thinking they didn't have a chance with me and my last boyfriend almost didn't tell me he liked me but his friend told me for him so I told him that I liked him bk because I did! but he wasn't going to tell me this because he thort he had no chance with me! but I'm glad I find out because I rly liked him too and I was starting to think knowbody rly likes me and tht I'm not gd enough for nybody. N if guys like me I'd want them to straight up tell me so I know where I stand and if I dnt like them in that way I can then tell them that I just like them as a friend so they don't go expecting they have a chance if they don't because I find it abit unfair but at least then they can move on quicker and we can still be friends. So I think you shouldnt put yourself down like that because she may like you and I think you should tell her how you feel and if she likes you in tht way then there you go and if she doesn't then it might help you start to move on from ur crush because you may completely realise then that you don't have a chance and might see her differently and move on so it may help :) I hope this helped sorry if it didnt.

[Anonymous]

if you would approach her and find by yourself you really have no chance with her, you will get over it.

but as long as you know you are not rejected because you didn't make any move and there is nothing just happening between both of you, you will never get over it.

[tiannamundy]

are you sure you have no chance? have you even tried to see if she likes you back? don't shoot yourself down so quickly!

[ArtistBboy]

"but I know I have no shot. She's way out of my league."

- Yes, your crush for her will eventually fade; however, it will never completely go away until you don't even remember her (which is very difficult to perform cognitively)

If you want to improve yourself, for your own benefit - change your mindset to be:

- "I know I have a shot. How should I approach this girl which is in my league."

Basically - "treat the tens like ones and the ones like tens" ; or ; "Treat them like your friends" for the people that don't understand my previous statement.

- Doing so will let you easily occupy your normal confidence, which is expressed when friends are around. If you come out there nervous as hell, bet your ass that this girl will pick up on it; instead, quit aiming for something with her and just believe she is someone to talk to. Nothing more, nothing less.

Please don't take offence, but answer this question:

- Do you get nervous waiting for your doctor to look at a tooth?

-- If you answered yes, try to find ways to improve your self-esteem

-- If you answered no, then approach her.

-- If you didn't answer, re-read the question.

Best regards,

ArtistBBoy

[ArtistBboy]

Get the "who cares" attitude and give it a shot, which do you like more- the school? or her?

[Shy_Boy175]

well you can either go for it and just try talking to her, or just wait until you meet someone you like more then your current crush. that usually makes it go away, lol.

[Enideqa]

I agree, maybe finding out the true answer will help you to move on, rather with her or without, then it won't be on your mind.

[newyorker25]

You should ask her if she likes you or talk to her to find out if she likes you back or not