Why are engineers so horrible at talking to girls?

[Monkeysees]

My crush is in the engineering major and he literally will not approach me. He just constantly stares with his friends (who are all the nerdy type) from far away. I've initiated two awkward conversations already (he kept smiling, blushing, stuttering, could not hold my gaze, and stared when he thought I wasn't looking while I did most of the talking). It's extremely obvious that he likes me, and his friends have made it pretty clear too. But, he won't make a move. All we've been doing recently is waving and smiling at each other. He's always hanging out with guy friends, so maybe he's not used to girls...The crazy thing is that he's gorgeous like a male model and he should have nothing to be shy about. It's frustrating because we all know he likes me and he's had a number of opportunities to approach me when I was alone. I don't want to strike up another conversation, because I'm afraid. Yet, I know he has a huge crush on me. I know him and his friends are the nerdy type, and they're all in the engineering major but seriously! Does this have something to do with the fact that engineers are supposedly inexperienced with girls or is it just shyness or both?

Has anyone ever been in this situation? Or is dating/likes an engineer? What should I do? I really like this guy.

[Killfest400]

Engineering might be the biggest sausagefest major out there. Trying to find a female engineer is like trying to find a solar eclipse on a planet with no moons.

Engineering is largely composed of guys who spent high school getting high grades and not talking to girls they liked (I would know, because that largely describes me). As such, many of them have little to no relationship experience, little to no flirting experience, and little to no experience with females. Even if he is good looking, lack of experience is not going to be good for your confidence.

If you're that interested in this guy, go up and ask him out. If you don't want to do that, try and catch one of his friends, and tell him that way (though he would most likely prefer that you were direct). Even if he looks fantastic, don't expect him to inherently know everything about women. He's an engineer, so he's probably good at learning. All you have to do is be willing to teach.

[NMMan]

He sounds shy and lacking confidence in himself, which is unfortunate, but it happens. Try talking to him again and really turn the charm on - be friendly, smile, compliment him...hopefully those things will make him relax and serve to put him a little bit at ease. Hopefully if he sees that you're definitely interested, he'll take it upon himself to talk to you further, or maybe even ask you out. The only issue is that he currently won't initiate a conversation and you mentioned you don't want to try again - if anything is to happen, or even have a chance at happening, when it comes down to it, one of you has to make a move. Good luck!

[Monkeysees]

I have four weeks left of school, and I really want to hang out with him so we can get to know each other. Hopefully third time's the charm...

[NMMan]

I hope so too, best of luck to you! :-)

[Monkeysees]

Thank you. Have a good night :)

[Toppiesfb]

He sounds shy. Try to make him more comfortable around you. Compliment him to boost his confidence. Don't be afraid of awkward moments, because you can move past them. You have time! You can do it!

[Longshot]

when my mother re-married, it was to an engineer. Like many engineers, he's a nice guy but lacks social skills (hence he's an engineer). By talking to him about things he's interested in, we've been able to have decent conversations.

You might start by asking him what he's working on. You don't have to be a techy to ask. By starting a converstaion "in his comfort zone," you might get somewhere.

Best of luck!

[mf-ibmj]

looool

am an eng major, but am not nerdy

its not like that, its just eng guys like tend to be the mommy type of guys, I hate them too.

Do you have classes with him? do you talk to him at all?

if yes, ask him to teach you how to do a problem or so.. even if you know it..

and while ure around him show some interest, compliment him, tell him his hair is sexy for example, and wish me luck :D

[Monkeysees]

I don't have any classes with him. We usually see each other when I'm going to class or in the dining hall at dinner. I noticed him last semester at breakfast when I caught him staring at me.

[mf-ibmj]

Aha, so a never-known-him love type :D

well this is the hardest type,, because it requires a lot of courage to approach the other person !

make sure he's single, then teas him like all girls do when they're playing around.

[martyfellow]

Often these guys have NO exsperience with girls at ALL. So don't be down on them.

You'll have to take the initiative and be prepared to have to teach him about girls!

[blah52]

Give him a graph of how much you like him as a function of time, he'll get that.

[NMMan]

Classic answer! lol

[BeautifulMind59]

Just loved your answer!
Speak to anyone in their own language. Amazing!