Today my boyfriend hit me... (Page 2)

Question

We had gotten into an argument about my ex-boyfriend who recently began trying to contact me again. I, honestly, have been ignoring my ex's texts and calls because don't love him anymore and I truly do love my current boyfriend. however my current boyfriend did not believe me. we got into a heated argument and I got up to leave the room and he reared back his fist and punched me, I fell back and hit my head on the corner of the table and blacked, out, when I came to I was laying on the couch and he was sitting on the ottoman crying and when he saw that I was awake he stated apologizing like crazy. my head was bloody and my lip was split. I don't know what to make of this...advice?

Masiah · Answer

hey..it's good that he did appologized to u. I think he loves u. just couldn't have digested that siuituation.

cheers and just tell him that he has no right to hit you for anything...it's very unmanly.

tell him that if he couldn't trust you now then how come he will trust you in future.

good luck

CuddlyCarla · Answer

What is there to 'make' of it?! Get out NOW. No real man would ever hit a woman, and no man who truly loved you would ever hurt you like that, nonetheless distrust you. This guy will hurt you again, don't be fooled by the crocodile tears and fake sympathy.

Skybaby0214 · Answer

DUMP HIS ASS! I've been in an abusive relationship, he was always saying

"baby I'm so sorry."

or "Please forgive me."

OR the most overused one :"Baby don't go, I love you. Ill never do that again I promise."

This guy is either crazy, has some major anger issues, or is extrememly insecure and is afraid of you leaving him.Either way, if he hits you once he WILL hit you again! No woman deserves that and it makes a relationship unhealthy and you both will be stuck there.

LittleMiss93 · Answer

You have to dump him as soon as possible. Abusive guys very rarely change though they constantly say they will. It doesn't matter if he cries, screams, begs you after getting on his knees YOU HAVE TO LEAVE HIM. please please please don't stay with him, he'll continue to hit you, it only gets worse from here

gfe0001 · Answer

break up with him. there's nothing to think about- the violence only gets worse with time. if you stay with him you set the precedent that its ok  for him to physically hurt you. I really hope that you leave him because if you don't you will surely find yourself in a very dangerous situation. I hope you make the right decision.

tropicalsecrets · Answer

DUMP HIS ASS. And watch the espisode of Tyra Banks when she discusses violence in relationships.

If he loved you, he wouldn't have hit you. Would you ever punch or purposely hurt anyone you love, even if they made you jealous or mad?

If it happened once, it WILL happen again. He needs to learn his lesson.

70sikitechie · Answer

he can be truly sorry, and you can still love him...that doesn't make it smart or safe to stay with him.

it's the same reaction as cheating. if he cheated, he can be sorry, and you can still want him, but it doesn't change the fact that he cheated.

in this case, nothing changes the fact that he hit you. HE HIT YOU.

No matter who he is, you're not safe in that relationship.

tigerguy · Answer

he'll do it again when you get into an argument, if I ever did that to a girlfriend of mine, no matter how sorry I was I would tell her to stay away from me because I wouldn't want that to happen again, if you take him back, he'll do it again and he apolagize again and he'll make you think it was your fault or you'll think he will only get like this because of his temper or drink, you'll end up like one of those gf's or wives, I say get out now

UntamedAndArmed · Answer

Well I know a lot of these people are probably going to give me sh*t, but Ask him about it, I can see it was an accident and yes no one deserves to be hit and he shouldn't have, but I would confront him about it

ITLSTL · Answer

Sounds like a d-bag, drop him honey, you deserve better.

Anonymous · Answer

Leave him...it will happen time and time again...and 1 day it might get so bad you'll end up in a coffin! It doesn't matter how angry you get with one another...neither of you should ever get to the point where you resolve the matter with fists!

If he honestly loved you why would he want to hurt you?

I honestly feel for you and never want to be in the position that you are in...your worth more...your not his punch bag x x

DanielSan · Answer

There is no second chance for hitting you.

The fact he did t shows he at this point in life can't control himself.

You need to be apart from him for awhile atleast. If he ever did it again the cops need to be called.

ivan5252 · Answer

leave. a man should never have to apologize for hitting a woman in the first place.  that's like killing a pet and then apologizing like crazy.. the deed's been done, there's no going back..

lorene · Answer

Leave! I understand if you love him and you don't wanna leave but you don't deserve to be treated like that I got slapped and flipped on my guy but he punched you and he reared back to punch you so he had time to think about it...Leave!

Anonymous · Answer

Leave him. This is the first sign. If he can do it once, he can do it again. And because he knows he can get away with it, the next time will be worse and it will happen more frequently. Please leave him. I don't care what you guys were arguing about or how upset he might have been. He had no right to hit  you.

Kandyfreak823 · Answer

I think that you you should take the time to ponder about this, bcause you are the one that has feelings for this guy, you should see his bad qualities and his good qualitites, now, if he hit you and you were knocked out that bad, you should break it up cause, it could get worst, there are numerous amounts of tings that can happen

BrunnetteinStyle · Answer

I know you probably still like or love him despite this..so if you want him but want to be treated right. Make him make it up to you. Take a break from him for awhile. You can occasionally talk but don't let him touch you until he regains your trust. AND if he ever does it again...you will know it wasn't an accident...he was being himself.

I hope it works out hun.

tyrantfuryre · Answer

Dump his ass. He will probably hit you again. No one deserves to be hit.

bognman420 · Answer

leave his ass I cud never in my life hit a women its a sign of what's to come run and run fast change ur numbe rmaybe even go to the cops that's bullsh*t

Anonymous · Answer

I do not care what the sercumstance is, there is not another sencond chance for hittin gyou. I know you here all those things about once an abuser, always and abuser because in more cases than not, ITS TRUE.

I know that his apologizing might make up for it, but you need to get over that. An argument, even a heated one, is absolutly no excuse for physically harming you. In my opinion, you need to dump him. I know it seems rash, but you cannot put yourself at risk for more physical harm.

demetri77 · Answer

Although he obviously regretted it badly, chances are if he did it once he'll do it again. Hitting your girl is never ok imo, no matter what the excuse.

crrazaylove · Answer

get out, you need to get away from him. He sounds pretty psychotic if you want my opinion. You need to get his ass locked up and you need to get away because if he'll do it once its almost GUARANTEED he WILL do it again.

tigerdave · Answer

RESTRAINING ORDER because leaving his sorry abusive ass won't be enough period if he didn't want to do it, he wouldn't have done it period

kalg8 · Answer

Circumstances are irrlevant. The fact is: he hit you. A man who is willing to hit you once WILL do so again. Get out. He is not worth your time. Go somewhere safe and get him out of your life!

henesseybabe · Answer

what would he do if you had stabbed him with a knife if the situations were to be reversed (like you were having arguments about his ex) would he have forgiven u?

Anonymous · Answer

Don't think about it, just go, leave him, don't be a victim. It's going to hurt but not as much as if you try to push yourself through this relationship

Anonymous · Answer

Leave him!  He may not mean but he got that in him. Leave him!

Anonymous · Answer

I think this is a confusing dilemma. Give yourself some space from him for a while and see what happens. If he has never hit you before, this was probably and definitely from what you said, an accident. Has he had a history of angry outbursts?

sexiicryss · Answer

Look hun, the first hit always exculates to another. Know he knows that he can do it to you. Stand your ground show him that he will not treat you like a human door mat.

ConfusedGherl · Answer

my sister had the same problem and she stuck with the guy but he busted her up so bad he broke her leg burnt her with cigarrettes all kind of crazy sh_t DUMP HIM! Nobody deserves that crap

RosaMarie2013 · Answer

I would leave him, if he doesn't trust you enough to believe you when you said that you didn't have anything with your ex than it will just go down hill from here, and if he hit you  then it shows his a violent person, why would you want to be around someone that you 're scared of and don't feel safe around when his supposed to be protecting you?

imlucky · Answer

Umm I would seriously have a long talk with him about it. And let him know he should never hit you again. If he does it again LEAVE him. No man should hit a women don't fall for the "i love you though" it doesn't matter he should never hit you. Nor should you hit him even if you are a girl

nosnibor5391 · Answer

absolutely no excuse for a guy hitting a girl. if he does it once he WILL do it again. the whole crying and apologizing deal is crap. I've been there and I've talked to people who have been there. the best thing you can do is get out as soon as you possibly can!

reelofthoughts · Answer

Get out of that relationship. Wether you deserved it or not, he should never have done that and it will only lead to bad places in the future.

Anonymous · Answer

LEAVE HIM. That was unacceptable, period. He ought to be glad you're only going to dump him (if you're sensible enough which I think you are) and not press any charges or anything.

chiefnavarro · Answer

leave him this isn't ok. it will only get worse. what's gonna happen when he gets black out drunck and angry. he needs to go to counceling and you need to move on.

zacattack · Answer

dude I would say leave him. he needs to go to anger management or counseling, he has some serious problems. your lucky he didn't do anything to you after you blacked out.

Anonymous · Answer

theres a reason why people don't like chris brown anymore. =/

CowGirlCutie · Answer

leave his stupid A**! no one deserves to be hit. I've been in a relationship like that and I let it go the first time and he ended up hitting me again then I ended it.  he will hit you again. I mean a slap bad but a fist is horrible!

peter98 · Answer

he was getting jealous. jealous  leads to anger.  I'm sure he loves you he just lost control over jealousy

Anonymous · Answer

Are you crazy!? leave the guy! he hit you! He will do it again, he will! And the sad thing is, he wasn't drunk, that's how he deals with anger, hitting you... that's SICK. He's suppose to be hitting guys who hurt you, he's suppose to be defending you... not punch you.

jacquesvol · Answer

DUMP HIM! Dump that moron asap and make sure that every girl in your world knows why you dumped that caveman.

Limpbiscit · Answer

Love yourself first... accept the fact he has serious trust issues he needs to sort out on his own.

m3TALchick · Answer

I'm glad that your filed charges. No girl should ever put up with a man hitting them. There is no excuse for hitting.

krisindependent · Answer

I think everyone here pretty much said it.  LEAVE NOW!  He will end up doing it again.  He has control issues.  Best wishes, you don't deserve that.

honey0509 · Answer

f***ing leave now. that's not a joke. that's abuse. if you love someone who hits you ...your dumb simple as that.

anon8 · Answer

LEAVE HIM!  Threaten him that you will call the cops if you need to, and then do it if you're ever in that situation again.

Anonymous · Answer

its in him to do it other wise he would not have ever done it...you need to get away from him until he's able to control his self you could have died and it would have been allllll his fault because he hit you! com on now sis

iXenomorph · Answer

Cut his f***ing d*** off! No mercy for woman beaters.

blahblahblah1 · Answer

leave him :/ he can't control himself and that's why he was crying. leave and don't turn back...

Cartiphilus · Answer

Jeepers Creepers!  I glad you did what was necessary and that you're now doing well.

Anonymous · Answer

Don't stay with him! It doesn't matter what he says, the trust is gone and there is always going to be a big chance he will hit you again. My father repeatedly beat up my mother and me several times. He always said it wouldn't happen again, but it went on for over 10 years.  This guy needs some serious help and should go talk to a counselor. That might be your only chance to save your relationship.

Mrs_MHz · Answer

leave him. every second that passes that you stay with him is a second you get closer to terminally endagering your life

Anonymous · Answer

for a guy to lay his hands on a woman like that is the most low thing he could do. this and having abusive parents are kind of on the same level as far as the mental damage done on the victim goes. you should be able to rely and trust on your boyfriend, not fear him. you should get out of that relationship as soon as possible, because if he couldn't control himself once what's goig to stop him from losing control again?

Riksounds · Answer

Bail Out Now! Hitting is a big RED FLAG! He will probably do it again!

Anonymous · Answer

i was in an abusive relationship. whenever we got into a fight he would scream and act like he was going to hit me. then one day he did hit me, he beat me, and I was 6 months pregnant. he was the biggest regret ever. and now I just pray and hope that my son will be nothing like him.

Nena_Linda · Answer

just move on ... no one should touch another person no matter what.  so leave

Brianna987 · Answer

Congratulation on your courage and clear-mindedness, Question Asker. I wish you the best

Brianna987 · Answer

if you haven't left him in the last 2 weeks, LEAVE TODAY!

zombiebabe · Answer

Dump that piece of crap.. i've been beaten too by my ex

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