She completely cut me out of her life, but will the only girl I've ever truly loved come around eventually?

[OSUMD2b]

Me and my ex girlfriend dated for 4 years. We were so comfortable with each other and we pretty much had a perfect relationship. We broke up about 4 months ago and it was quite a bad breakup. She has completely cut me out of her life and it appears that she has no problem dealing with this. I contacted her about a month ago, simply giving her my blessing and telling her that I understand why we can't be together, but that I at least wanted to be on decent terms. She responded very coldly, telling me that she didn't want anything to do with me, that she was doing fine, and that "maybe someday we would be OK, but not now". I miss her like crazy and I know that we wouldn't work as a couple, which is alright with me. I just can't completely disown her like we have no history, and she seems to have no problem doing this... I can confidently say that I loved her and honestly, I still do, because love to me isn't something that can be controlled at will just because I'm angry with someone or because they decide they don't want to date me anymore. She loved me too, I know this for a fact, I could just feel it and I know that there's no faking what we had, but now it really seems like she would rather be enemies and live a life that I'm completely excluded from in every way, shape and form. It's created a huge hole in my life where 'we' used to be. This breakup has completely uprooted so much more than just a girlfriend because our lives really did begin to merge over those four years we were together. Do you really think she's as unaffected by this breakup as she acts like she is? Does she really not want me in her life at all forever, or do you think she just acted like that when I tried to contact her because it made the breakup easier to deal with at the time? Should I try to contact her sometime in the future and see if we can at least be friends? If so, how long should I wait?

[Anonymous]

Dude...girls will rarely tell you what they feel..but ain't no way in hell that she is unaffected. she is..and she's overcompensating that's why she's cold to you. she feels hurt and its her way of getting back at you...stay away from her..you can think about her all you want, but give her that space to decide if she's fine or not...then later think about if you wanna contact her or not...i'd go with not contacting her...let her do the contacting...after all..you DID try before.

what the HELL did y'all break up over? its gotta be something stupid..its always something stupid that breaks up long term seemingly perfect relationships...mine was because I wanted her to stop cursing..you?

[Pongy101]

Give her the space and time no matter how long it is you can't change her mind when it's already made up females are like that especially if she dumped you just let her be work on yourself in the mean time live your life for now when she is ready she'll contact you and most likely when they stay cold towards you they have already found someone else better in a way that's what my ex girlfriend did to me I gave her my world and everything she wanted but at the end she torn me apart and treated me like poop so I learn from that and started moving on as well

[alioup]

i know after I broke up with my last boyfriend I cut off communation complety because it was harder to remember why I broke up with him. I loved him but there were somethings tha I couldn't stand ie flirting with other girls.

We emailed and talkealot and he told me he loved me but I couldn't be with him. So I told him that I didn't want to talk or msn each other anymore. I said I was saying goodbye, not talk to you later.

Thats what she could be doing, trying to get over you.