Is it bad to flirt with many guys even when you are interested in just one?

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I'm a single girl and I find myself being playful and teasing with guys in college :P is this a bad thing? I naturally have this personality and I find it fun to tease guys (And not in a sexual way. Maybe I'll throw in a few innuendos but I joke around haha and they know that).
But I am genuinely interested in one guy and I've been flirting with him and playing hard to get at the same time. Is this a good method or do most guys find this annoying when girls do it? He knows I'm interested and he even flirts back but he won't make a move!

zzzondarrr · Accepted Answer

I think that flirting with someone you're not interested and just teasing them in is not nice towards them, not towards the guy you really like. From my personal experience you should always focus on one person at a time, and try to get to know them as soon as you can, so you shouldn't waste your time fantasizing and growing illusions, the life is in fact very short, don't let yourself learn that the hard way...
If I was you I would just approach that guy and start talking, and try to ask everything I want to know, but don't bombard him with direct questions like "How many relationships have you had?" 😂 If he's the right one you would be thankful that you approached him on time, and if he's not you'll be thankful that you've become free to think about and meet other guys...
But you need to know what you want, so you won't end up in a relationship you don't really want to be in...

RhysEmmott · Accepted Answer

Yes it is, some of the other guys you might not have an interest in might actually like you, you're practically messimg with their heads as they might genuinly like you. The same thing is happening to my friend Kian atm, this girl called Molly is doing the same thing which I overheard that she was talking to other guys as she just liked doing so because she 'had more options' but the guy says some lovely stuff about her and I can hear how genuine he is about it all but what he didn't know that he was practically being played the entire time. Maybe it's not your intension to do so but do keep in mind please and perhaps just focus on the guy you actually like but that's your own choice. Great question btw!

garima_singh · Accepted Answer

If you naturally have cheerful personality then it is definitely okay. Just be yourself, yes I do agree somehow he will find these things annoying but if he knows you, then he wouldn't mind. Don't change :)

undos · Accepted Answer

Nah its fun. Girl if u like that guy just be straight up

JSmuve · Answer

That'd annoy that shit out of me. You say you flirt with a whole bunch of guys, but if I saw that then how the hell would I know that you're interested in just me when you're off doing the same thing with 10 other guys? I'd think you're just a tease and nothing more. I'd find it pretty difficult to respect you and would flirt back with the sole intention of getting you in bed but I doubt I'd want a relationship with you because I wouldn't be able to trust you.

Anon-ymous1 · Answer

Nah it's not "bad" but it can simultaneously be something we like and something that frustrates us. If a girl is pretty and she's flirting with us, obviously we assume that she must like us. It hurts a lot to find out later that she doesn't. Don't lead us on; flirting is fun but it can really hurt people if it's too far. You wouldn't want the same to happen to you, I imagine. Good luck.

Anonymous · Answer

Playing hard to get is fine as long as you make him feel special. If you tease that many guys, it seems you are playing hard to get with everyone and just seeks attention. Disgusting turn off. I wasted some time of my life with a person like that.

noesbueno · Answer

Yeah. If i were the guy that you were interested in, I'd be confused

GoodNightMight · Answer

Being "Bubbly" ain't a bad thing but playing hard to get equals "No bueno". It completely confuses us guys. I know from experience myself.

OctoPops · Answer

It's not a bad thing if you flirt within healthy limits and don't stretch it. But if suppose you start going on dates with the guy you like then you must definitely stop flirting at all with other guys.
Same goes for guys.

UrsTrulyKrish · Answer

Hmm  Same problem for me As you've got some opinions from others  I've realised that I should stop flirting.

zach3ry · Answer

Never made a move on a flirty girl. They give me the impression of promiscuity

spikeyz · Answer

I agree to previous as long as you dont make empty promises

srdshukla4 · Answer

it can be he is told by his friends that u r a slut as u flirt eith guys!!! but if he really likes you it will never bother him, it never bothered me!!!

memo94 · Answer

If you really want that one person so you don't need any others

westLAbaby · Answer

Nope. I do the same thing. Until my attention is captured

tyguy94 · Answer

Playing hard to get is one thing and guys do like it but acting to unavailable is a turn off

Anonymous · Answer

Keep playing hard to get and you'll be back in a month asking why it didn't work.

Anonymous · Answer

sure but any relationship material guy won't stick around

Subflics · Answer

Yes because you'll lose him.

Anonymous · Answer

You need to stop it if you're serious about 1

mithram · Answer

i think you should do it , to see he's reaction

dinoduderocket · Answer

Yes it isn't very good

klevin · Answer

there's nothing wrong to it cause you're single.

dontjudgecuriosity · Answer

It's who you are, stay good to ypur man that's all

BornUnlucky · Answer

No it's fine.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes it is bad

imtige · Answer

Hello

savageboy · Answer

That's his fault

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