I joke around a lot with most people. I don't generally take their gender or attractiveness into account. But I get that because of this many think I am flirting. But honestly from my pov, I've never flirted in my life. I try talking to people and squeeze in a joke here and there.
If I were to talk to someone I liked with intention of dating then I'd try to be just the same though, because why try to fake it. But I'd also be upfront and obvious about prioritizing her over others, THAT would be my tell.
But I get that, at least in my country, this is not the usual ways and will be very missinterpreted most of the times. Which will and has gotten me into a lot of trouble. I wish I could find a good balance there, but I just feel like if I start tuning down personality then I become unable to be that upbeat guy.
It feels like I need the momentum and the flow of good vibes to affirm it into myself. Because I do struggle to stay positive if left too long in my head, avoiding social situations to not risk stirring up the hive in workplaces. I've been there too, tried to find the balance by going too far. No luck.
Back to your question...
Do guy in general flirt with most?
- No.
But the ones who do or seem like they do leave an impression that makes up the pattern you are referring to.
The bulk of guys who don't or aren't proactively social just aren't on your mind. They keep a low profile.
In general, guys flirt with most girls that interact with them.
If the girl is ugly, the average guy will not engage in flirtation with them. This is because doing so would effectively signal an invitation insinuating that they welcome flirtatious reciprocity. We like to avoid signalling to girls that we are attracted to them if we are actually not attracted to them.
If the guy perceives the girl as in a higher league than himself, and if the guy isn't eager to risk rejection, then he won't take the initiative to flirt with that type of girl either. He'll basically become docile, and this is how a guy gets friendzoned. However, if the girl has already shown an interest and made it clear to the guy that they can coexist on flirtatious grounds, then the guy will definitely reciprocate flirtation in order to sustain the romance in the atmosphere.
So to summarise, guys generally don't INITIATE flirtation with the lower end or the higher end of girls.
But the middle is goldilocks.
Then there are guys like @Degenerate who only flirt with other guys.
Guys?
There are introverts, extroverts, singles, in relationships, male strippers etc.
Which ones are you asking about? It is mostly individual, or even based on how carefree (or connived) a particular outgoing/extroverted guy is.
Introverts typically don't flirt openly (but it can ve sensed when one is interested).
Girls have commoditised the 'right to sex whenever they feel like it' to the point they demand such 'rights'. Guys, some pretend to be keeping up, others have given up. That female obsession with sex as fun doesn't work for most guys (they're a lot more vulnerable/a lot less protected by media and feminism and female rights movements).
Whatever a girl does, someone justifies. Whatever a guy does, someone faults/attacks. At least in USA (home of porn industry) and the UK (home of prostitution culture).
Your poll is flawed because not all men are flirts.
For men who do flirt, they could be bored. Feeling sad or lonely. The woman is attractive or they have a flirting acquaintance who they always chat up a bit.
Then they flirt because she is attractive and they want to progress with the woman.
If a man has a secret crush, even if he isn't shy, he will act weird. He will go cold and highly observant. If you encounter a man fairly regularly and he seems like he has some grudge against you and you did nothing, he wants you in the worst way.
So he is kind of mad at you because he has to now deal with emotions and a loss of control and that is a heinous crime you have now perpetrated. These are usually messed up people. Or he really wants you... BAD!
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Salesmen flirt with anyone to get them to seal the deal. No not every guy who flirts with a woman is attracted to them…
That wildly different from guy to guy. Some flirt with everyone. Some flirt just because they are hot. Some flirt only if they are attracted to them. And some never flirt.
Some even believe that forms of flirting is not really flirting but conversational banter.
I only flirt with women I think are attract8ve until I find out they aren't angle. But nowadays I rarely flirt with women anymore, for a multitude of reasons. One of the reasons was, I was tired of giving a woman I genuinely found attractive a compliment, and her response would be a facial expression that would be on the level of me just murdering her cat with my truck.
So I don't really care much anymore to flirt with women. Getting treated like a hit again and again got real old real fast.
The options with every pretty girl and the ones they find attractive are confusing as they mean the same thing. A man thinks a girl is pretty (sexually attractive) if he finds her attractive. But he cannot flirt with every pretty girl as he has to consider opportunity, factor in his own confidence level and experience, etc.
I dont think there's a general rule for relationships like that. For example, a hot guy with low self esteem may avoid talking to the hottest girl in the room, but would speak with the average girl instead.
To varying degrees based on attraction.
If they find her ok they will flirt a little and the more attraction she is the more motivated they would be.
But once you get to top level attractiveness guys will typically be intimated and opt out of flirting altogether
Only with the ones I find attractive and if I feel something else beside physical attraction.
Unfortunately I'll have to go a psychologist because I honestly never developed the confidence nor the skills to have a partner. I don't know when that will be, there still lot of stuff going on in my life.
As a man, it's, in my (M21) opinion, a bit hard to find unattractive girls these days lol.
When I'm in a group, I just focus on smiling at (and if the sparks make the current work, talking to) the one that is particularly catching my eye.
For most people, these women would be unattractive, but I know what my brain is doing. It's finding cute and shy ones, or in the contrary, very bold and open girls. They don't have to be attractive. Just feminine enough to attract me. Subtle difference.
I have never flirted with a woman who I did not consider at least slightly attractive in some way. That said, just because I flirted with her doesn't mean I actually want to pursue a serious relationship every single time, there's more than just attraction to a relationship.
Me=not flirted yet but had interactions with lots of girls.
My friends=some have flirted with only those girls that tolerate it. But nothing outside of that.
So, as per my expereince overall, most guys just don't flirt with girls. Only a small portion does. But they are seen more, naturally.
Some of those guys flirt for real, some for fun as the girls also take it for fun. No loss there, I guess.
Some will with everyone. Some are selective. I don't actually flirt. If I am out and I find her interesting, I will cold approach if she seems to be single.
I'm trying to be bolder and shoot my shot at guys who I find hot lol. If I end up disliking then after knowing them more I can just let them know we aren't compatible and move on.
If we're single and bored we will flirt with anyone. You can't give any one girl too much attention or otherwise she'll think you're harassing her. So it's best to spread the love around.
You can’t generalize. Some will flirt with every girl. Other won’t even flirt with the most beautiful woman in the world. If you’re asking about a specific person you have to provide more details about his personality
I flirt with no one. I prefer to remain mysterious and play mind games until they flirt with me, then I reject them. Total sigma bro!
(Just kidding, it depends on what kind of mood I'm in. Sometimes I even flirt with older women)
It depends on how confident he is, If he is fairly Confident he would probably flirt with most Girls.
If he is not that Confident he would probably only flirt with Girls who has started talking to him.
I don't flirt, if I had to though, it would be with a girl that I found attractive, both physically and mentally.
I would only ever talk to or show interest in a girl that I am interested in. Not the type of guy to cast a wide net and see what comes to the surface.
I don't flirt with every girl. Not with the ones I find attractive. I only flirt with the one I want.
I flirt with all but the nest I find attractive I flirt with more. Her attitude is what makes her attractive. There's one I flirt with a lot. I know nothing will happen, but still flirt.
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