Introverted guy, should I tell him I like him?

[Anonymous]

I’m pretty sure the guy I like is introverted and he’s actually said he’s not the type to approach girls so I feel like it’s up to me to do something about it. Problem is, I’m also introverted (plus some social anxiety) and have never told a guy when I like him. I’m pretty afraid of rejection and making things awkward in our group of friends but I also feel like there’s quite a few moments that make me think he likes me too. The only signs that he might not be interested could be explained by introversion/shyness. Should I outright tell him I like him? Or are there more subtle ways to let him know I’m interested?

[lucsampaio]

based on my own introvert/social anxiety workaround for these situations, you could try some form of mediated contact (instant messengers primarily, or whatsapp-like apps) to start a 1 on 1 conversation without risking either your social anxiety/introvertion, nor his introvertion. establish a conversation that's personal, but not necessarily about you two getting together, and build up momentum to start dropping hints in the middle of the conversation. At some point he'll get the hint or you'll have to be a bit more direct, and that's when going back IRL for a date becomes a possibility.

[awhitevwolfa]

If you're sure he likes you. Well what are things that make you think he likes you. Yeah if you're sure he likes you just get him alone. Like you want to tell him something. A thousand things will run in his mind. He'll start to stutter, mind blank, have no words to say (most likely) if he likes you. Cus if he does like you, he wants one of those things to be you saying you like him.

It's probably might be too fast if you just tell him right after. You can just talk about something else then talk about it.

[Anonymous]

you should tell him

[Iamvodka]

I'm shy as well and one of the hardest things is to tell someone how you feel. I have this problem too, it's easy for me as an outsider to say "just tell him" but if it were me I couldnt. So my advise is to ask one of your friends to say something to him kinda put your toes in the water so to speak. Then depending on his reaction that could be a convo starter you could say "did so and so say something to you, well they asked for me" and go from there. I tend to play around my friends as I'm scared to put myself out there as well.

[razvancazacu27]

How about a little of both? Outright tell him, but in a shy introverted way. Like speaking it out but on his language. Maybe write him a small piece of paper with "I like you very much, are you interested in me?" Or something of that kind. Be creative, introverts are very creative people. Hope this helps.

[Ayer93]

I personally like blunt girls that can take initiative as I'm also introverted. You have nothing to lose other than your pride of having to make the first move. But what is pride? Overcoming it is a sign of maturity and those are the most attractive girls. I know I'm being a hypocrite lmao.

[Enhellmer]

I like one girl. I communicate with her better than with others. We are similar in many ways, but I don't know if I'll accept if she' say she likes me, because I'm still not sure about my feelings. But I'm sure I'll not want to lose her as part of my life. So I would prefer her to express feelings. But in other hand, I dealt with refusal and it sucks. It literaly makes me want to scream and destroy.

[MrA1996]

Tough situation bro

[Enhellmer]

@MrA1996 I mean refusals makes me scream and destroy. Not a current situation.

[MrA1996]

I got that
In Same situation

[Anonymous]

I'd tell him if I were you but then again I'm an extrovert so what do I know...

If you have a problem confiding into him, then just let it be and watch him become involved with someone else. That's how I force myself to do things that might seem difficult.

Best of luck!

[Brewmaster531]

You should start subtle, and if he doesn't respond in kind, be a little less subtle, and if he still doesn't get it, be straightforward. He will certainly appreciate that.

[tzdc21]

Just got and tell him. And don't sugarcoat it, be blunt. Tell him that you like him relationship wise.

[Polocrossebob]

Send it dude. You will never know if you do not give it a shot, and if not, its not the end of the world.

[ARWINGx1]

You're not the only one. But in my case, it's because I can't tell if there are any "right" or "wrong" words and scentences for getting it started

[Mohammed1996]

Tell him privately , I think this good idea if u fear of rejection, I’m introvert too

[Devinspeedy]

Outright tell him, the biggest risk, with the biggest reward

[LeNerdx3]

Big risk big reward type of situation. If he's truly introvert but chats a lot with you it means he finds it worthy thus he probably likes you back

[Anonymus2017]

Personally, I would rather you tell me and I am a huge introvert myself. But mostly, men are just too thick headed to realize, myself included.

[mr_mike1]

I'm a guy and I say go for it. Worst he can say is no. Dont be too disappointed if he says no, there are other nice guys out there. Go for what you want!

[MrA1996]

Tell it before you lose the occasion that you may regret in future

[FaizanAli]

Write him about your feelings... i m also a bit introvert and it helps me a lot

[Therisinghero1]

Yeah, if you like someone don't be afraid to say it and likewise for anyone else.

[Anonymous]

Personally, being a guy I would appreciate just being told straight on. But this is coming from a really really introverted guy..

[Anonymous]

Create the courage and go tell him!!! Make a move!!

[rufurrealz]

just come out with ur feelings.