Does ignoring your crush make them more interested?

[Anonymous]

[Sillte]

Yes. At least if a guy ignores me I become more interested. Sad truth. But, if it continues for too long I start disliking him. Not to mention what my girl friends would say, they usually start saying things like: 'he's a player forget about him'. "You're too good for him, just forget him". It's an intricate balance between obsessing about a girl and not.

Tbh, the interesting thing about being ignored, is not the ignoring itself. It is the idea that the guy has a life and therefore cannot responds to your messages 24/7. You'll start thinking about all the cool stuff he is doing. Hanging out with friends, working, studying, going to the gym. Whereas a guy who immediatly responds all day probably has no life of its own.

This last thing might not necessarily be true, the guy might also be very much into you and be checking out his phone all day during all those other activities. But it's hard to make the distinction.

[Anonymous]

Mostly No but I need to say yes as well. Reason being, my crush ignored my messages but whenever I saw him he kept staring at me. His actions didn’t match with ignoring my messages!! I’m an over thinker and I convinced myself that he was interested but ignoring my messages for a reason. I think it’s just easier to be open and honest rather than ignore someone. Tell them why!!! And if your going to ignore someone, do it completely, not just messages! If he had made it clear he was ignoring me in all aspects of his life, I’d have given up sooner instead of perusing the guy and getting humiliated!

[Galian84]

I wouldn't like it... if a guy is interested, I want him to make it known. I don't like games and I don't like wasting time.

However, I have come across many guys and girls who do become more intrigued if the object of their affection ignores them. Some saw it as a blow to their ego and made them try harder just to prove they could get them.

With that being said, I will ignore my crush from time to time if I'm not sure how he feels about me, or if he's giving me mixed signals, especially after I've made my interest known.

[Anonymous]

That can be a dangerous game because she might think you either don't like her or you're just not interested. I'm kinda shy and It takes a lot of effort to talk to the girls I like. When I was younger I used to look away and avoid eye contact. One day a girl I like told me I was a snob which really shocked me (Im NOT). But it illustrated how my fear of rejection can be interpreted as something worse.

Sometimes just a quick smile or hello can go a long way. Reasonable girls usually understand that just about half of us are at least somewhat shy and need a little time to get it in gear.

[FreshOutaIdeas]

Girls are right to say these insecure games aren't good to play. But trust me they'll never get over you instantly, I don't think it's childish to leave them guessing for a moment, but if your just too pushy to initiate anything then don't.

Same goes for girls too...

[FreshOutaIdeas]

Too pussy*

[BangTanSauceJK]

DEFINITELY NOT. don't believe those "10 flirting tips" or whatever. I hate it when guys act all tough and ignore me and then later on i learn that they liked me. It gives me the opposite idea and makes me think, "He doesn't like me"...

If you really don't know how to flirt besides ignoring them, I have a flirting chart that I made (or at least this is how one guy got me to like him back)

[BangTanSauceJK]

1 = very subtle flirting and 10 = very strong flirting
1 - point your entire body towards her when you talk, eye contact, and SMILE, mimic body position
2 - stare at her and let her catch you staring
3 - compliment her A LOT
4 - tease her a little
5 - physical touch like touching shoulders, playful nudging with elbow
6 - tickle her playfully
7 - slightly stonger touch : hug but like seem like a "friend hug" like right before you part ways.
8 - sexual jokes but make sure you let her know that its a joke
9 - strong physical touch, like touching her hand (maybe even holding) , pinching her cheek, put an arm around her when sitting, etc
10 - just straight up telling her your feeling

[LittleSally]

Depends on the person... If they're immature or don't know it's a ploy or a power move... they might be more attracted to that behavior, but once they understand what it is they'll most likely be repelled by that kind of behaviour.

[SLMPK]

I am actually talking to my crush right now who takes a long time (days even) to respond to texts and (with respect to the things going on in his life) I find it annoying. It makes you look really immature. If you like someone, make it known. If your crush likes you, he/she will appreciate you telling him/her. If not, just walk away with your head held high.

[anon08]

Sounds like you're his side piece

[SLMPK]

@anon08 exactly.

[moosette134]

Nope. Don’t play games. It’ll drive me crazy for a minute and then I’ll realize he’s a jerk who doesn’t want to make me a priority and I’m over it instantly

[azzntittiz]

Ignoring me will make me leave you alone, my pride is stronger than the scent of cat pee. But everyone is not the same, maybe your crush will get more interested.

[Anonymous]

Im gonna get this mho stand aside ladies. For a long period of time: no it will break any interest she has towards you (if she had it from the start). Short period of time: yes. you'll becum a playa which will get you attention. I generally ignore everyone because i dont like treating women like shit like others do.

[fsu19]

Yeah, ignore your crush and if they try to talk to you, pretend to ignore them. Oh yeah and spread rumors behind their back too, soon they'll be head over heels for you

[Kazzy36]

No I hate it, it gets me down wether I like the guy or not. It’s mixed messages and makes you think they aren’t interested

[Mag05]

nope from what im experiencing right now this just makes me think the guy is an idiot and not interested in me

[hasrett]

No. Well, maybe at first... but it definitely makes me not want to waste my time on him, and quite quickly it'll end up in me being not interested at all.

[Imafreespirit]

Uh no. That makes me thing they’re not interested and I wouldn’t want to waste my time 🤷🏽‍♀️ All this games are nonsense

[anicekid]

No the best way to get a girl to like you is to who that you truly care for them, the rest is bullshit

[Mebe4any1else]

uh i think it makes then uninterested because there would be lack in communication and the crush would be actually lose interest.

[AlgaeEater]

It only works if they have a crush on you as well. Give them loads of attention.. then vanish and see what happens

[just_wondering_01]

No, I'll just think they are not interested and move on

[UnaKaizen]

no not interested in you just insecure in general. it will fuck things up.

[UnaKaizen]

worry doesn't measn 'loking initially they may become anxious as to why you seem uninterested but thishas nithing to do with their feelings about you, and miost likeluy if anything they ill lose feelings. again feeling desperate is not personal its about ego. if you wound an ego it doesn't make them like you it just makes them want to feel better by getting attention. you someone else, it won't matter. and most likely if you guys start talking again she's going to turn around and do the same to you bc its an established pattern now. and anyone with self respect is not going to take the bait in the first place. so you'll end up with a dysfunctional relationship with a person as immature as the one who started it or a person who drops you pretty quickly. no win situation in my opinion. plus you are in this time of games not only not gaining but are losing opportunity to become a better person, learning how to communicate positively, relate to others in a way that will foster healthy relationships-

[UnaKaizen]

whether temporary or long term.

whatever you want -sex love understanding friendship self betterment confidence insight wisdom- you're not going to get it by playing games... unless what you want is to play games, then by all means, go to.

[Mediterranean35]

I believe it does but at the same time u should keep the balance otherwise someone else will get her lol ( that's what happend with me once LOL )

[Sillte]

Haha! This is so true. I think you shouldn't intentionally ignore the girl. But don't put much more effort in her than you'd do for your brofriend. You wouldn't check your phone 24/7 to see if your brofriend said 'hi' to you.

[Mediterranean35]

@Sillte Exactly :D Not more or less, in the "middle" is cool and that's what gonna make her a freak haha ;D

[Anonymous]

No. It would make me think you're a jerk and i'll slowly start to lose my interest.

[Anonymous]

You have to talk to them to show that your interested. I ignore guys who I don't like. Just being yourself and make them laugh does.

[poppinjay]

nope from what im experiencing right now this just makes me think the guy is an idiot if he wants to play games and waste time instead of telling me the truth...