Guys, do you usually touch a girl in a club/pub without her permission when approaching?

[Anonymous]

Whenever I go out to a club/pub with my girls, this is basically how guys usually approach:
- First they come at our table, without saying a word. Then they stand there really close to us and stare. If we make an eye contact they will maybe ask something like "having a good time?" or ask for name, and then (no matter my reaction) they will start touching. First they slowly put their hand on our back and like try to go with the beat and dance with us. Then they will start touching other places, like butt, hip, arm, neck, etc. and then if you don't tell them to fuck off they will force a kiss.
Why do guys usually go for touching first then to have an actual conversation? Is it because you don't know what to talk about so you just go for action and hope she doesn't push you away? Why is that easier then striking a conversation, ask for a number, buy a drink, etc?
I often feel like my personal space is invaded when I got approached like this, I feel like I have no other option then to let them touch me and kiss me. Or just be completely rude and push them away, because they won't leave if I'm nice.

[MrOracle]

You're dealing with a specific cross-section of guys. First, they're guys in a club (most guys don't go to clubs - most who do are player-types). Second, they're likely drinking. Third, they have lots of confidence (they wouldn't be approaching you if they didn't). Remember: player types.

Fourth, they're obviously looking to get laid - that night - and so they don't have time to talk for an hour and get to know you. To them, that's a waste of time, because if you aren't willing to bang that night, they don't want to waste their time with you.

These guys don't expect to get a "yes" from every girl they approach - in fact, they expect to get turned away most of the time, which is why they're intentionally moving so fast: they'd rather find out quickly that you aren't interested so they can move on, than to waste time on you that will never pay off for them.

This is part of club culture, which is why this type of guy is attracted to clubs and club life - and why lots of other guys have little interest in clubs.

[daiquirifraise]

Guys usually don't know how to touch girls. Lower back first is a big no no. First you should touch a very neutral zone like arms or shoulder then go to more intimate zones like hands and middle back. If the girl is obviously confident go further with more intimate zones like lower back, hips, thighs, face. Do not touch sexual zones (butt and breast) before having kissed and make sure the girl is down for it.
Respect that order and the girl willingness.
Touching ass straight away won't get you anywhere

[Anonymous]

It’s not related I guess but I wanted to say it.

I felt horrible one time at a club. I was dancing and drunk as fuck, literally dancing by myself and having fun.

Suddenly this girl is backing into me. She’s hot with a tight white outfit, super short skirt, hips like mad. She kinda bumps into me, and naturally my hands slide right around her hips. As if we were dating. She spun around so fast and suddenly I was really confused. I looked at her and said sorry. She didn’t seem too offended I guess, she just turned back around and went on dancing.

But I felt horrible. Like I literally just fucking grabbed this girl with my hands. I almost felt like I raped her and I felt sick.

Sorry random story..

[AriRose]

I just stumbled upon this now but I just had to say that I usually don’t ever see guys feel bad after drunk experiences like these, and i just had to say I’m glad you at least felt some sort of remorse

[Opinion Owner]

I’m sure most guys are like me. We just don’t get noticed cuz we are too busy keeping our hands to ourselves I suppose lol.

[AriRose]

Lol well i find it pretty rare to be honest, I appreciate your honesty though😄

[verylovelyguy]

what you did is fine. you go to the club to use girls to satisfy your urges

[SnapTsch]

You are in clubs, everyone is probably trying to get some action, just ignore if you dont like it and be stern.
But please dont generalize it about all guys, because what you are dealing with are a tiny minority of players that look for easier targets.

[betaTester]

Well, I don't do that. But some of my friends do, and that works for them most of the times. So these guys just do what worked for them, maybe you are one of the few girls who actually reject them at the place they usually go to pick up sluts.

[verylovelyguy]

yes. i have fun until she becomes hostile enough for me to retreat and move on ot another girl

[JuniorLocs]

SOMETIMES I DO I JUST GOT THE NEEED TO FEEEL THAT FATASS

[zagor]

Never done that. Especially with a girl I haven't even spoken to yet.

[SilverRain92]

Be rude with them. Such kind of guys don't deserve polite attitude.

[Slim57]

No. I can't even talk to one. But if I did I'm not just gonna touch someone without permission unless she's touching me

[totallynotbadadvice]

Nope. Usually leave the women in the club alone, unless they approach me first.

[daipham]

I touch boobs girl twice

[dannyjett]

You are hanging out in the wrong clubs

[cootjuh]

Im far to shy to do that

[Anonymous]

Only if she’s shown of interest in me

[rogermclain]

Font be fridged

[Anonymous]

Yes, all the time