Does playing hard to get get a man's attention?

Question

Will that make him more interested? If it is your ex? Will he feel he is losing you? when do you give in once you have his attention?

Myth024 · Accepted Answer

Personally, I'm a bit shy, don't like to play games and might completely miss the fact that a woman is playing hard to get and just think she's out right rejecting me. I also take the approach that I would simply rather become friends and let things go naturally where they will.

If you are trying to get a mans attention and your not being successful, it might simply be that the man isn't paying attention at all, to anything. It might require drastic measures, you might have to stand in front of him and strip down till your naked and then there's still no promise that he will realize your there. Remember, some men are naturally clueless. I promise you that if a woman got naked in front of me, I would notice. Of course it might only be to note that she is blocking the T.V. or that the clothes she was wearing really *do* look better on the floor. She may have to actually stick her hands down my pants and squeeze, however, this could have unintended consequences and should only be used in extreme desperation. If all those tactics fail, then your target man may actually be gay. Ask one of your male friends to strip in front of him to be sure. If you still get no response you may have to resort to getting one of his relatives naked. If this final step does in fact work, I would advise you to try a different bar because at this point every one there would have seen you naked, your male friend naked, and this guys relative naked. All the mystery is gone, so you might need to try a fresh batch of men. As a final option, you may have to resort to an ancient guy technique for getting a woman's attention.

Get a large tree branch, write the word "club" on the side, hit him over the head with it, and drag him home.

I hope this helps.

:)

top_cat · Accepted Answer

Comments... comments. So harsh haha.

Does playing hard to get graps a man's attention?

- We will only be pushed (or pulled, rather) so far before we're like "eh, she's not coming through, I'm done"

- Now if you were in a club, a man might be more tenacious but honestly, men have a tendency to make sense. If she's not giving me the time of day, there's another who will. If it's an ex then yea, be more mature and mind your own business. You won't get his attention maybe, but you'll get another's who's more responsible I guess. I feel so old saying all this.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

i tried it and it didn't work all that well, see I fell for a badboy and he wasn't really a player player he just wasn't committment type and was just a big flirt. I knew him for years though and we were friends and there was always sexual tension between us and sooner or later I did fall for him but didn't expect much either because I know he just likes to play mind games, but suprisingly he started to show real interest and even was nervous around me and shy my friends caught him blushing and doing strange things like following me to be around me and stuff and I was the happiest girl alive becuase I wanted a relationship with him and it seemed like it finally was coming true, but after a couple of months of flirting back and forth I asked him out and he made excuses and played hot and cold all over again, and I finally gave up on him and backed away thinking may be he will come chasing me back if I ignore him now, and just focus on myself and he did seem annoyed and mad too, but guess what he never man-ed up to come talk to me or get me back. I wasn't even rude or bitchy I just was polite and pretended to be busy with studying and stuff, and not once did he try to stop me or talk to me. and knowing me for years too, I thought we had a special bond even, it just shows how low and worthless these badboys/flirts can be. I genuinely liked him and this is how he treated me.

i guess it all depends on the type of guy. if he's a flirt/popular/extroverted bad type of guy...they won't care, they will never let go of their ego or stoop down to say sorry or care. but if the guy is nice and decent type he will be the real man and will always care about his lady love.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Playing hard to get is definitely not good.  We don't like it when guys do it, and guys don't like it when we do it.  I had a friend who went through a bad divorce and ended up seeing a relationship counselor because she felt she was driving potential boyfriends away.  The advice given was that 'doing' does not work for a woman.  It is 'being'.  A woman can not come across as needy, worried, explaining, pursuing, etc.  The woman needs to have an air of confidence and be happy with herself.  When it comes to a guy she likes and/or likes her, be confident but express interest through eye contact, smiling, waving, and just making him aware that you notice him.  After this goes on for a little bit, he will be drawn to that confidence and mystery and be compelled to get to know you.  The mistake that most women make is trying to look intelligent around a man, flaunting their body, or pursuing in a way that almost makes one look needy.  You have to reach him emotionally (part of the 'being' as I noted above)...and games is not part of that.

Lolo1720 · Accepted Answer

The key is to BE hard to get, not PLAY hard to get.  If you're happy and content  in your own life, staying busy, doing things that make you happy, and not sitting around waiting for him, then he will feel compelled to want to "get" you.  It's about honoring YOURSELF above all else and not making anyone else the center of your world.  You don't wait for anyone...you live your life.  When you're with him, you give him your undivided attention and be present with him, but you don't EXPECT anything from him, you just graciously receive him.  You let him know when he makes you feel good and you appreciate him, but you also know that you would be OK without him, because you're already whole.  Once you have his attention, you keep doing the same things to keep the attraction.  Remember to never make anyone your priority when they only consider you an option!

Anonymous · Answer

What kind of good guy wants a girl who is easy?

All I have to say, is that "playing hard to get" DOES work when it comes to attracting men. And I TOTALLY agree 100% with Lolo1720. Don't play hard to get BE hard to get. No matter what guys say. When you ask a guy "do you like it when a girl plays hard to get?" of course they'll say "no." If a guy is AWARE or thinks you're "playing" hard to get, you are doing something wrong. But when a guy thinks you just have a lot going on in your life and you're a desirable independent woman(who isn't NEEDY), he'll probably be more attracted to you. People want what they can't have, or at least a challenge. Why wouldn't someone want a person who is out of their league(unless they have major self esteem issues)? Why does it seem like all the guys you turn down or act bitchy towards seem to come back for more? Well, that's how it is in my case at least... Don't be impossible to get though. The more you make a guy work for it, the more he will appreciate having you.

From my experience, the only flaw of this is that some guys think they have "fallen" for me because of the "chase" I provided them with. SO basically some of them, have seemed to just fall for the chase and NOT necessarily me, from what I can tell. :|

Well I can talk all day and give you the rules and tips... but in the end, when you're in the heat of the moment, your emotions will overpower your logic. You'll be pretty much doing whatever feels right for you.

Btw, this is coming from a 17 year old on my way to college.

Lockjawx27 · Answer

Why do you feel the need to play mind games? Why do you have to play games?

Your over 30, WOMAN. GROW UP already.

Your little cooch isn't made of gold, you are not Megan Fox. Your an aging, over-the-hill broad who is still STUCK IN HIGH SCHOOL

Playing hard to get is for little immature girls that just love to drive the boys insane and screw up the whole dating game

cut the crap lady

funny222 · Answer

"Does playing hard to get get a man's attention?"

That's a question for each individual man to answer since it really comes down to each guy. For me? It depends. If a girl is playing hard to get because she's shy, and I know it, then I might push a little. If she's playing hard to get because her mother told her that is what good girls do, then I won't bother. If she likes me, then why is she procrastinating with me? It doesn't sound like she likes me or is interested in me at all, so it's a huge turn off if a girl keeps resisting my advances.

Yet women should know that men who do enjoy the hunt, shouldn't be surprise if he dumps you soon after he catches you or is back to hunting other girls. You might've made him enjoy it so much, homed his skills, thus he wants to keep at it. And yet this is another thing about men women don't know or don't seem to understand.

drummerdude25 · Answer

I'd say it works for a little while... But it gets to a point where it messes with a guy's emotions and that's not right.

If you like someone, or even if they're just a friend with potential for something more, make time for them. You're only ultimately playing a game that will push a guy away.

ManAmongBoys · Answer

Personally, when a girl was "hard to get", I took that to mean she wasn't interested and I moved on to one that was.

People tend to forget that - despite parental propaganda and self-help books - they aren't all that unique. There are many, many people in the world. So if one girl appeared uninterested or hard to get, I turned 30 degrees to the left and saw another woman who may be more into me.

ashleynatasha · Answer

i played hard to get with my ex, and I got him back...i believe it works,men like a challenge expesually if it wasn't a challenge before. but after I got him back and we tryed working it out, he lost interest again .and I had to keep playing cat and mouse .so it was not worth the games to me. you want a guy that wants you ,without having to play hard to get.

enlightenment · Answer

it does...and it works fantastic.  Only catch is the guy has to care that he is loosing you, so it won't make a man that doesn't like you instantly fall in love with you.  But it does create a sense of urgency and guys like to chase, no matter what they say.

Anonymous · Answer

Playing games can be fun but sooner or later it almost always screws things up one way or another. Some guys like the chase while there are girls that like to be chased but odds are those are the people you want to stay away from when thinking about getting into a relationship. Once you are in the relationship there is no chasing...

I have to think that most people "play games" because they don't want to put themselves out there and get hurt.

Lockjawx27 · Answer

Does playing hard to get get a man's attention? Really?

I'll tell you what mind games do: screw up the whole dating scene and cause pain, confusion, and loneliness. Also jadedness

Stop play games, grow the fck up. If you like him, ask him out. Simple as that.

But no no no no no no no, things can't be simple with you women

fmlfml · Answer

i personally don't like playing games. I think its childish and can be hurtful.  but the truth is it DOES work on guys.  Lots of guys say they don't like games but they ALWAYS go for the girl that does, because they think that they are mysterious and they like the challenge.  so for those guys that said no, you know you're lying.  if there's an honest girl out there that tells you they like you and show you they like you, you think they're too easy and just take them for granted because you THINK they will always be there for you. so you chase the ones playing games and the ones that do not always seem to get hurt.

mirrorimage · Answer

it all depends if he still has feeling for you. then yes playing hard to get really does work. if no, then it won't and there is no point in trying cause you will only lose in a game sense.

if yes

1. don't start convo's with him, tell him start them.

2. keep your answers to all his questions short.

3. don't give to much information into life. keep him guessing

4. look great and have fun. just pretend you don't care. don't even look at him to much

follow this advice and he will come crawling back

Ellis · Answer

It does at first but if you keep at it it fails and we move on as we don't think your interested anymore.

blacksheep824 · Answer

When girl acts like she is too busy to go out with you more than once or maybe twice, a guy usually takes this as a "hint". We realize this is her way of saying "no" in a polite way and we probably will quit asking her to avoid seeming creepy. How do we know if you are playing hard to get or just not interested?

WeaponZero · Answer

No it usually just makes him move on.  Playing hard to get is a myth.  Guys can't tell the difference between playing hard to get and just plain not interested.  So we just assume not interested and move on.

SweetestSinxxx · Answer

Games suck. If you don't want someone playing games with you, why play them with others? If you like someone let them know, if you don't, reject them and don't waste their time. just sayn'

RipnRawhide · Answer

It might make us more interested at first, but like anything when you keep losing the excitement wears off and it's not fun anymore. So for most of us we'll think your not interested and move on to someone who seems like they are.

justanotherquestion · Answer

For me I see the game start and do a swift about-fce and look else where, because the maturity isn't there if your playing games

Arwens-Fire · Answer

Like is to short to play silly games.I wouldn't want a guy I felt like I had to toy with just for him to be interested in me. What a waste of time and energy.

someonexxx · Answer

guys are makin it sound pathetic - from my exprience, it just made him want me more :). but show him you don't need him, and he'll be thinking about you, thinking why doesn't she care?

tessamarie · Answer

i guess it depends on the guy. some of them like a challenge and get turned on by it, others see it as a tease or playing games and don't like it. all diff.

barkmoon · Answer

Playing hard to get is childish and stupid. And since I don't like stupidity, NO, it doesn't work, least for me. And I believe other guys think like this too.

TheCheshireCat · Answer

I hope not because I don't want to play hard to get...

Olya363 · Answer

men like challenge thats not the same as playing hard to get though!

Anonymous · Answer

it does work. with this current guy I'm seeing, the more uninterested I appear, the harder he tries. but when I show interest in him, he seems uninterested

Anonymous · Answer

This is a great answer! Thanks for that...because I too, was wondering how to get my ex's attention again. I've been on NC for 18 days now and curious if he'll wonder, or even notice.

Anonymous · Answer

it make things complicated and men don't like it wen things get complicated

Jaxynde · Answer

to some guys maybe, but not for me. if she's not interested, we think she's not interested.

xxl0v3drunk · Answer

theres nothing more a person wants more then something they can't have, especially a guy. so, yes.

gtex1991 · Answer

u freaking 30, and still playing hard to get. WTF

emzy-89 · Answer

usually the guy will just move on.

Littletad · Answer

If anything, it makes us loose interest.

plumz · Answer

only if he likes you!

Shadoww · Answer

i don't think so.

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