Ill tell you.
For the primary reason of displaying qualities to a woman who he has to approach and get to know. Mainly because 90% of women won't approach a man, even if that man is so hot that brad pitt saw him and in a jealous rage he kills himself.
Doesn't matter. in fact, the mere fact that he's hot usually makes it LESS likely that she's going to approach.
And the ones that do are going to be rude, and treat him like a leper. Merely BECAUSE of his looks. He's suddenly "a player" and then when he opens his mouth and they find out he's shy, suddenly she treats him bad not because of his looks, but rather because he's shy, or "boring"
Now if he's average or bad looking, she's going to be nice to him, he's "safe".
And if he displays characteristics of being not shy, suddenly he's attractive.
Attractive women don't have these problems but attractive men do.
Really attractive women have grown up being attractive and have things handed to them.
Cars, money, men. Etc.
Its the thing where if you were lets say a famous billionaire, you would always think that they only reason why a woman is interested in you is because you are a famous billionaire. If you one day became old news and lost all your money shed dump you in 2 seconds.
Not only that, you begin to suspect all of your "friends" you think that the only reason people get to know you as a friend is to sponge off of your celeb status.
Same thing goes for hot women. They assume that all men want them because they are attractive. Its worse for them than your average woman who, lets say doubts their attractiveness.
While its true that the hottest women are usually the MOST insecure about their looks, but ironically they still think this way.
Its a dichotomy that they are not mentally aware of.
Personalities are usually a result of life experiences. Its the old saying that "what doesn't kill you makes you stronger" and "it builds character"
Well if you have no trials and everything is given to you because of your god given genes? well then personality is going to be an issue.
Meaning your aren't going to have one.
Except for many of these really hot women who simply have a negative one towards men, which typically, the older they get the worse it becomes.
Men consistently dump them and get tired of sleeping with them, and the woman blames the man for being a pig... however, never realizing it was her fault for having simply nothing else to offer.
No one wants to stay with a woman after sex if she's acting like a total bitch.
The men want to stay because of her looks but ends up dumping her because they just can't take it anymore.
Unfortunately many of these women will blame the man and think they don't have to change because again, they think "that's the way men are" and why change when men are still coming to me?
So they get old, lose looks, and marry a loser, or die alone.
But we all have our crosses to bear.
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There are SOME issues with being attractive or pretty on the outside. But if you are a smart person you learn that confidence is what really makes someone attractive. I was a model for 4 years... shy as sh*t for 2... went through a big breakup which taught me a lot about MYSELF AND MEN, and learned that confidence in yourself really is key. As soon as I really got that confidence and got out of my co-dependent relationship, I was doing amazingly better in the modeling world. I'm not calling myself a bombshell at all ... I just realized that confidence is key if you want to find options and get a quality guy who appreciates you for more than your looks. I was afraid of that from my ex at first... but (of all the things wrong with us), I really don't think he stayed with me because of my looks... we were together for far too long and lived 8 hours away for a year. So how could he just want to have sex with me when he couldn't?
Girls who are "bitchy" as you say simply haven't had the life experience to know who they want to be and what kind of attitude to take on life. And they haven't had enough experience with men. I know exactly what kind of clingy needy rude spiteful things women can do... because I did them... and I know it. And I know now how to appreciate men for their differences to us. It just takes some maturity and patience.
As for guys... I personally couldn't care less what he looks life if he comes up to me with some presence. The ONE thing guys really need to accomplish is to gain control. Women naturally want a protector... someone who can control a conversation and lead them... its a biological fact. If an attractive guy goes up to a girl with a topic in mind, some sincerity, and confidence (not cocky), he will get a number. Its the shy thing that kicks them in the ass.
I'm not going to lie and say I haven't grown up being given alot. I have been very loved. And it is a fact that people DO treat you better just because you are attractive. Look at celebrities. But the same goes for my attractive guy friends. Attractive people are somewhat privileged. But anyone can be attractive if they get that confidence and gain that positive outlook toward life. Its corny but it is incredibly apparent.
JOBS> worked at Nordstrom for a while... ONLY attractive men got hired in the womens shoes departments. They can get plenty of work in retail because the women who shop love to flirt. Proven fact.