Girls, do you want your boyfriend to me more aggressive or more passive?

[Anonymous]

Sometimes I get the feeling that my girlfriend might want me to be more aggressive. I tend to be more on the passive side because I do not want to scare her away.

[Darkfairie17]

I know a lot of people criticize women for dating jerks. But I think it is because they want to find a guy who if someone insults her, he will stick up for her. She needs a man, with his testosterone flying when its needed. But also a guy who can sweep her off her feet and be romantic with her as well, gentleman if you will. So its good to have both qualities.

She obviously thought you were something because she wanted to be your girlfriend. I'm not saying be a jerk to her, because honestly it may seem like women want jerks. But what they are really trying to find is a guy who is agressive, but also knows how to be passive and be a gentleman. But to keep her you need that passive side as well. :) Girls love romantic stuff, and that passive side of you is your key :)

I hope you understand this :P

[CatholicVirginia]

Best answer. It's the same way that men want both the virgin and the whore (not to be derogatory). They want a woman who is faithful and not a slut, but who can navigate a bedroom and their fantasies as well.

We want men who are masculine, but not afraid to cuddle on the couch sometimes. A man who gets reasonably jealous (i.e. stands up for her), but still trusts her. Personally, I like men who aren't afraid to say, "That idea is crazy. Let it go" but only where appropriate. It's about timing

[rsls96]

You know its great to even have the ability to be passive, many guys have no self control or respect when it comes to women. So good for you :) I think that you really have to see the situation, if she is giving you more lean then you can go a little farther but if you see her start to cringe or move a little slow down.. For example the guy I am seeing didn't even hug me for like 2 months, then it took another 2 b4 I even got a kiss, and I wanted it.. he was just trying to respect me and now that I have given him the okay he is much more forward... yet still very respectful.. does not push anything on me which just makes me want him more!

[misstisa206]

It depends on the girl! And the situation! I think girls like when men are pretty aggressive physically for example.

[Marshall33]

Be assertive NOT aggressive in bedroom and be passive outside it ! Tends to be the consensus in my experience.

[bjs09]

Aggressive mostly. I want him to be aggressive in bed, I want him to stand up to me when I'm out of line and I want him to stand up for me when someone disrespects me. It is too much when someone looks at me and he gets aggressive or he starts sh*t out of nowhere. I really like someone is who chill who I can just relax and laugh with but who steps up to the plate when he needs to.

[Asker]

I agree. I want the same thing from my girlfriend lol.

[toulouse]

I don't think anyone should be passive-its bad for your morale I think. No god for anyone to feel ineffective. but perhaps he could be more relaxed lol ask more questions not get so worked up, discuss more , not jump to conclusions,

[Crazbug]

Be yourself. In time, she will find out anyway. Right?

As a rule, I like the idea of "What you see, is what you get!"

Keep it real.

[jltone]

It is always good to be aggressive occasionally, but you have to respect what the girl wants. Every girl wants to know their boyfriend can take charge sometimes.

[lovablelaureng]

be aggressive that's pretty sexy:] just don't make her think your a big macho scary guy that's all just be really maly not a pansy kk

[Asker]

Being passive does not mean you are a pansy. It is not like I am afraid or anything. lol. I am just more chill than most guys. My girlfriend could be more aggressive too. I think the problem is that we are both just too chill. lol. We both just need to be more aggressive. I will talk to her about it.

[jessicalaurentaylor]

i like aggressive guys but just understand that girls usually don't want jerks, there's a difference.

[Charnelle]

I prefer my boyfriends to be more aggressive, when they're passive I really don't know if they want me or not

[Anonymous]

i want him to be assertive but I also want him to listen to me and my ideas

[Anonymous]

Well you should start slow. But this is just me personally...I like to be rough sometimes.

[destroyer]

Be a leader and assertive

[blufrenzy93]

If by aggressive you mean assertive, then yes :]

[ellavou]

want them both