Playfully splashing a guy/girl in the water when you’re swimming.. flirt, good fun, maybe both?

[Anonymous]

Spent time at the lake a few weeks ago with a long time male friend. We have a history of intimacy but it’s been almost 3 years. When we were in the water.. I noticed he playfully splashed me a couple times.. I thought it was cute.. was curious if that kinda stuff is intended as flirt in a way?
Hed invited me to the lake.. told me to bring my bikini and did rub lotion on my back and legs.. and smacked my butt a couple times. That part was out of the norm for him (in public).. but was curious about the water. Even thought we’ve not been “together” in 3 years.. there’ve been times since then that he’s gotten weird when another guy happens to be nice to me.. especially if it’s someone he knows. That happened both before he moved and a few times since. Opinions definitely appreciated

Flirt

Good fun

Both

Neither

[oneleggedwonder]

He still wants to be with you, but he is willing to start out as a friendship. Passion does not always die when a couple break up, most of the time, they still love each other. Circumstances be it as simple or complicated will break a couple a part long before the love dies. Considering you are asking about this, I will assume you are still attracted to him. If this is the case, you need to tell him. Maybe, just maybe, this romance is not over yet or it might be the time for a great new beginning. Good luck to you, I hope this turns out the way you want it to.

[Asker]

Thank you so much.. appreciate your input 💜

[oneleggedwonder]

Anytime!

[Asker]

He would still act weird sometimes about other people (guys).. being nice to me.. even after he moved.. that coupled with this being the first time he’s shown any PDA.. that’s what had me curious

[oneleggedwonder]

Would he be mean to you or just stand offish? Because sometimes guys do not want to do anything their guy friends might tease him about later.

[Asker]

He’d be passive agressive about it.. act like it bothered him then not when it became obvious that he had.

[oneleggedwonder]

Maybe now would be a goo time to tell him that it hurts your feelings? I do not know why he does this but its possible out of frustration. He wants to be with you but knows he cant? I think its a good time to open a lines of communication with him, see where it goes? Keep me informed, I am on your side!

[Asker]

Thank you 🙂

[Asker]

We were together once a week for that 6 month period.. just curious if his issues with other guys being nice was territorial? I know his history is casual but wasn’t sure after all that time if it’s possible to be intimate like that without feelings.. not necessarily love but in general

[Dinoraptor101]

I take everything as good fun. Because of my inability to understand flirts (forever alone) I play the good fun all around and have many friends instead :)

[EriFrancis1994]

The splashing of the water itself can go either way (flirty or not) but when paired with everything else you've said, I'd definitely say it's flirty

[Asker]

Thanks 🙂.. yea it’s been interesting at times.. I’ve known him close to 9yrs

[EriFrancis1994]

Hope it goes the way you want it to go

[Asker]

Thanks.. I care for him as a friend.. that’s important to me too.. but I do wnjoy his company

[EriFrancis1994]

Sometimes it's best not to lose a friend

[Asker]

True

[Anonymous]

Unless he has a romantic or sexual interest in her he’s trying to pursue, it’s simply just good fun!

[cootjuh]

Flirt for sure. And he likes you sexually to cause he spanked your ass. He wants more. But he will start slow this time.

[Asker]

Thank you 🙂🙂

[cootjuh]

U welcome

[Asker]

My biggest concern was making sure I didn’t misread that as flirt from him

[samsex55]

Yes he is into you but only u can decide to flirt back or just go for it. Goodluck

[Asker]

Thanks.. excellent point 🙂

[BoobMan]

It sounds very likely to be flirting to me. And just to be clear--are you saying that you and this guy had sex previously, but it's been 3 years or so since you've done that together?

[Asker]

Yes that’s true

[BoobMan]

Okay, in that case him asking you to get into a bikini and putting lotion/oil on you and smacking your butt is definitely not an innocent accident! Were you checking his swim trunks for any reaction to your playing?

[Asker]

I looked once or twice lol..

[BoobMan]

Hahaha! And? :D

[Asker]

He seemed to be enjoying himself lol.. the fact that he still flirts even after the time.. that’s still a sign of interest right?

[BoobMan]

Hahaha! Okay we need to discuss this in greater depth! Let me know if you'd like to add me.

[Asker]

Sure that sounds great 🙂

[Asker]

Went to try and couldn’t see how.. you may need to add me

[BoobMan]

Try now

[Avicenna]

That was flirting on his part

[Asker]

Thanks.. I appreciate that.. he’s around your age. PDA is something he’s never engaged in.. so to do it now.. just curious if I’m safe to flirt back?

[Avicenna]

Only flirt back if you want something with him. If you do, go for it!

[Asker]

Thanks.. I do enjoy his company.. I know the stereotype about age diff (I’m going to be 35 on Labor Day & he’s got 20yrs on me).. but he’s been a good man for the most part..

[Avicenna]

I don't see a problem with that

[Asker]

Thanks 🙂

[jinswatermelon]

He's def interested hun.👀

[Asker]

Thanks hun 🙂

[jinswatermelon]

Np😉

[LegendarySir]

Could be both. It's fun.

[Asker]

Smack on the butt had me wondering

[glennpete]

Totally wanting to get you in the sac

[Asker]

Thank you 🙂

[elizamichale1]

I think its sort of both