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Your profile has to be public, you have to be posting things with hashtags that I follow. I wouldn't just scroll through randos and add them.
True. I usually make it public when I post a new picture, but i make it private again after a week or so. Having a public profile makes me uncomfortable.
Then you're not going to get a bunch of random guys hitting you up. Nature of the beast. Maybe social media isn't the way for you to meet guys.
Well it’s obviously not since it’s not working haha. But this it’s just how it is nowadays
Nah, you can find guys outside of social media to be into you.
I rarely do 😩 ok sure this past spring I met two guys but both live too far away. I’m too busy with work and studies. At uni most guys are a lot younger and men in my field are usually gay.
You have friends? I find it hard to believe you can go to a bar or club with a friend and not get at least one guy approaching you.
Yeah I do get approached but men at bars are usually tipsy and horny
is that worse than thirsty guys on social media?
Yeah I’ve meet good guys and bad guys on social media. Difference is it’s easier to control the situation and on social media a guy has to have a conversation and guys looking for a hookup usually don’t waste time on that. Whilst at bars usually men go out to hook up
Why not take the initiative and friend request guys you are interested in - I think in this day and age , it is okay for girls to make the first move
Why are you waiting for people to come to you? Girls have the advantage in the dating game. If you send out enough messages you will get a responce. Try it out and if I'm wrong I'm wrong but i don't think i am.
I don’t know how to find guys on instagram. Like how do you go about.
Sorry I couldn't tell you I don't use instagram. All i know is you have the power in the dating relm. If a guy thinks you are attractive and he likes your personality even a little bit, you already have him in the palm of your hand basically.
I don't know it just seems like the dating scene is easier in the US than in Europe?
I don't think instagram will be getting you any dates it's just used for keeping on touch with old friends tbh I mean at least I think so (that's what I use it for). Get on tinder or some dating app and you'll meet lots of people
I've met guys on instagram before. That's how a lot of people I know meet other people as well. I feel like tinder and such is for hook-up?
Tinder is used for that by some people but there are quite a few serious people on there as well. Plus it’s fun talking with people. On Instagram you don’t know where they’re from, what they’re like, and whether or not they’re single or even looking to be with someone. I feel you could totally catch them off guard
It shouldn't be hard. Just socialise in real life and meet some people add them on social media and keep growing your circle of friends.
In my experience, most women dont like to be contacted via social media unless you're in the top 1% of the world's wealthy, which is ridiculous but is the way it is. So meeting women in person is the only way to meet women these days. But that's hard too because they're only certain places women like to be approached.
What does being wealthy have to do with it. All women I know that are single want to be approached on social media. And most would rather be approached by a stranger via social media than in real life because you can kind of get a feel of the person trough their feed.
That's the problem with social media. Women judge you before you go in a date rather than judge you on a date. I'd rather meet a woman in person, setup a date, and then be rejected in person than rejected online and never learn what I did wrong. Social media makes dating easier for women but harder for men. I dont do online dating anymore because women are too picky and judgmental.
I would rather have dates too but I’m too paranoid to go on a date with a stranger. It just feels more safe having some info on the guy before hand.
A woman rejecting in person? Hahaha what planet are you living in man they're too pussy to do that, they'll just ghost you after the date.
@MusicMayhem I never ghost. My two rules are never reject without actually saying it straight out, and in a nice way and never leave anyone on read. Unless he's being disrespectful or threatening.
Yeah LMAO 🤣 she blocks without giving a fuck @MusicMayhem. Her Instagram is mousa. rim
@Twenty2 Haha what you think I care? This guy asked to see my profile picture to help me with it and then wanted to start talking. I said he's way too young for me and he's doing all of this. Super childish.
So blocking someone without any reason isn't childish but talking to some respectfully is? Yeah LoL.
Maybe you should try actual dating sites? Or try meeting guys outside bars? Check meetup. com for activities that interest you. Volunteer with Habitat for Humanity or similar charitable organizations that attract guys.
The problem is we don't want to meet on social media unless we are reconnecting with someone from the past. The reason for this is there are spammers all around 9 times out of 10 you meet a girl online they are catfishing you so why even bother?
Very very easy be straightforward about what you're looking for and make the first move it's a different Century we live in and there's nothing wrong with being a little dominant
Post hot photos of girls doing silly things.
And sexy, very sexy photos of girls.
Do something to stand out
Why do woman write so dam much? First be his friend if you are looking for a relationship if not just show him ur goods and have fun and be safe.
I mean sure I dont mind, but where is he even haha
This might sound old fashioned but try joining a church and becoming active in its activities. There is a really good chance of finding a good guy that way
I’m not Christian. But meeting someone trough some type of activity thing sounds like a good idea.
Gotta do what you gotta do haha. It really bugs me when I hear
"all guys are terrible"
"Where did you meet him"
"The bar"
"No shit"
Haha I agree with that. I don’t have the “all guys are terrible” mentality since I know how to choose them. And if I do chose wrong it his true colours usually shows within 2 months.
I have a follow up question... do you date to date or when picking a man do you enter into the relationship thinking to spend the rest of your life with them?
I date to get to know. I’m not the type to enter a relationship just like that. But if we do end up together there’s no point being in a relationship if I already know I absolutely can’t have a future with this person. But I’m usually the one not wanting to get into a relationship to quickly. And one of the reasons I left my ex is because he wanted to propose when we only had been together less than a year.
Do you think that you could be afraid of commitment?
Oh I am for sure. I also have intimacy issues. But I have the tools to work trough it now. I’ve learned to be vocal and speak up, say it at it is. Also talk about it before hand. Last guy I was intimate with made sure we talk it out before doing anything. He asked about my fears, what I like and do not like, and let it be on my terms. Like he made me feel like I was the one in charge, and I literally was. That was the only time I’ve felt 100% comfortable being intimate with a man.
Exist. Just post some pics and wait.
This girl knows how it goes
I tried that. I posted and let my instagram be public for a while but nope nothing.
Try tinder or other dating apps
@Pulimuli I’ve thought about it but aren’t guys (and girls) on tinder usually only looking for a hook-up?
Mostly but some people use it to find people they can have relationships with
Instagram won't do much, at least i have never messaged a girl on Instagram that im not already friends with
@Pulimuli I could try it. I could drag out the texting bit of it, because if he’s looking for a quick hook-up he might not want to waste time on texting and such. Maybe that’s an age thing? Not saying you’re old but most of people my age find dates on instagram.
I just find it weird to message women on a non dating app. Most people are not there to hook up
@Pulimuli It is weird if it's for a hook-up but to meet or socialise with people is ok I think.
exactly ! i told her the same thing she refused to acknowledge it is that easy for ladies to get men
@tychus It's not if men don't know you exist haha. I have the same daily routines, go out sometimes. Men only approach me if I'm alone.
exactly, that's why i said just exist. be out there you don't have to do anything but put yourself out there
@tychus Yes true
I don't think normal social media is a good place to get people to approach you on, maybe a dating app would better suit your needs, just make your barriers and expectations clear.
I'm sure there are 1 or 2 men per country that are still looking for relationships.
Hahah well that's not a lot.
When I see a girl that is very wise and has a unique perspective on the world, someone that isn't just another npc robot falling in line, that makes her stand out from everyone else and I want to talk to her.
Get it? She doesn't want to accept love from just one man. It's not enough attention for her.
She wants millions of men showering her with attention and compliments.
No I don't. Otherwise I would've had a public account with seductive photos. And I wouldn't have to ask this question. My dm's would be full.
post your picture they'll find you. you have more chance the i don't anyway. i've been on FB for many years, and only had one girl in 2010 try to talk to me
Good luck no one online replies and well girls just ignore guys now its vice versa a social media platform is for socialising so yh.
Not where I'm from.
Where you from uk?
I'm not from the UK but that's where I live right now
Well yh in that case I wish you good luck no one in the UK is serious online.
Oh shit haha didn't know that
Id love to tell you where to go to find real people who want a partner but pretty sure no place exists if you do find it please let me know lol. Meanwhile ill be over at the bar looking for one nighter.
hahah good luck