GUYS age 22-32: Would you date a woman with a kid? (Page 2)
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Depends on circumstances.
I'd date a girl with a kid if she's cool enough and we get along well. But any instance of her getting back with the ex, talking crap about the ex, or any other negative issues at hand will be her grounds for dismissal. Also includes replacing me as the father. That's not happening.
Any girl with 2 kids or more = no thanks. I don't have any children so why should I have to put the extra work into getting along with 3 human beings, rather than 1 or 2? I'd rather keep my love life simple and easy.
i have taken a vow not to ever do it again but I had a BAD experience with it. dated a girl for like 5 years, helped raise her kid who had a absent dead beat dad. I married her, a year later she left me for some rich dude. I was just a stepping stone starter husband to get her out of mammas house. then she upgraded again...and will probably do it again if she meets an even richer dude. I poured too much time into that kid. all for nothing and I haven't seen him since. next time I put all that effort into a child it will be my own. but if that would have never happened to me I might not feel this way. I just got a bad taste in my mouth for girls with kids and for somebody else it really might be a great thing.
I'm sorry that happend to you. Women like that make me sick and give us all a bad name.
after thinking about it...im older and wiser now, more hip to the game. I don't think a girl could pull that on me now. same situation with what I know now I would probably have seen warning signs that at 20 I didn't see when I met and fell in love with her. so I can't say I wouldn't consider it. probably would just take a really cool and "real" girl for me to go that route again. I would know it if I met her.
Kudos to you darlin. That's awesome.
having kids should not be a prob you just have to keep in mind the type of people you bring around now.i have a little girl this is not a prob for me cause all girls seem to lover her. For you I would say still not hard you just need help with getting out and meeting people and making time for yourself. Get someone to help with your kid while you go out. key is not to have expectations things will happen
I'm 19 and I'm open to dating a girl with a child. My friend had a baby in December and I asked her out not to long ago cause her baby daddy is gone as well. She said no but that's a different story haha. Most guys might be afraid, but there are quite a few who are not.
I'm 21 but I hope I can still help? A girl can have a child and it won't affect her chances of going out with me. I mean, it's preferable to date a girl who has a more open schedule, as you can imagine. As long as she's not the only thing you talk about (Don't get me wrong, your child is important). If you can maintain a semi-normal relationship and are the guy's type then he shouldn't have a problem with it.
~Distant
My age is higher than your upper bracket there. However, I will tell you this. Single parents (both male and female) are becoming more and more common. If a guy has a hang-up about you being a single mom, move on. He is going to be hard pressed to find a mate in some circles. You sound like you have a good head on your shoulder that you are not looking for a daddy only. You want to make sure that any guy you get involved with treats your daughter well. If you get real serious with a guy, I would dig into his history - up to and including a background check if you are considering marriage. That 2-year-old's safety should take priority over everything else. My best wishes to you.
I'm a little older than 32. BUT... if I had the opportunity I would have loved to date a woman with a child. I volunteered at a daycare centre at the time and loved it. Kids are wonderful. It never came to be. But my wife and I both liked the idea of a baby (who is now a ten year old) and I was overjoyed. I had the easy part, of course. But I took the baby everywhere I went, shopping, playgroups, everything. I never had the pleasure of dating someone with children but back then I would have done it in a minute.
I know you want a opinion from guys in that range but what you're getting for the most part is a bunch of crap. Most (not all) guys in that age bracket would not want a relationship with a girl with a child. End of. Some, the worst types, might date you with the idiotic belief that somehow a girl with a child is more into sex. You will find plenty of dates, but you're going to have to be very discerning who you see before you meet someone who would accept you for who you are and not have any problem or insecurities over you having a child.
I probably would, but it would be something that might make me say no. depends who the girl was really, if she was all I was looking for then I don't see why not.
I think if someone wants to have kids of their own, they might be a little against the idea because there may be less chance of them having kids with that person. Also for me, if I was going to have kids with someone I'd prefer it if the girl didn't already have kids because then it would make it 'our first kids' if that makes sense.
anyway, I don't think you should worry too much about whether guys will go out without you or not :) if they like you then I think they would, regardless of whether you have children.
No, not at this point
1. If I was with a girl who had a kid, I'd then feel like I'd have to play war with the kid's biological father, unless of course the father is the type of guy guy who deserves to get his balls cut off.
2. I don't really like the need of feeling I have to support one, especially when you don't know if you'll marry this girl, then your money is BOOM GONE.
At a later point,
1. If I was divorced at an age of 22-32 and she had kids and I did yeah, because there's an even support, I look after hers, she looks after mine.
2. I CERTAINLY DON'T PLAN THIS. but if I had a kid and not with his/her mother, then yes I would because again, even support.
Also in general at this point, how much time would you be able to spend with the girl if she had one, you couldn't go out a lot, because babysitters etc, lots of them, and if you can't get one, no date etc.
That's my way of looking at it, hope it helped.
Well I'm gonna be honest. Either its my caffeine wearing out or just its Sunday. From what it sounds like you seem to pretty normal, like to go out, ect. Honestly, as long as your not complaining about the babys daddy 24/7 and just be yourself I don't see any problem. I've been on dates with single moms, and sometimes its just interesting how much they unwind just being away for a little bit.
Also looks kind of matter if your not like 200 lbs, but I mean if your in decent shape, and have a kid that says a lot on how you know how to balance your life, you know?
If I was really into a chick a lot and had feelings for her I would go out with her...but if I was not into her then I wouldn't bother. because guys like being a girls first prioroity and he knows he never will be because the kid will be. and that's great...nothings wrong with that. a kid should come first. but that's what most guys feel.
i was once having an affair with a women who had two kids but that did not last long...she was not over her x plus she was 15 years older or more I forget...but there was no future there.
I have dated two girls with kids. Sure, a guy thinks about it, and if he could choose he would like the girl to be without kids. Like she would want him. But we don't always get what we want. I think it is perfectly possible to date a girl with kids, yes. And like honeyItsme so succinctly put it, it depends on how hot a girl is.
Honestly, girls think too much about things like what to wear, what makeup to use, how to arrange this or that ... if you have a waistline and your appearance is average or upward, you can get away with pretty much anything.
No I would not date a woman with a kid. Women with kids do not "date" the screen for potential fathers. When you date a woman with a kid you are not just dating her, you are auditioning for a slot in a pre-packaged family.
The reason I won't do that is cause I don't want kids. If I did want kids it would probably be a different story.
I have no interest, at this point in my life, in being a "replacement dad."
I'm actually sort of in this situation.. anyway..if your fit then I will probably ask you out and try to have a playful type of relationship but to be honest it will only be casual and I would find it hard to be very serious but that is probably because I am still studying and wouldn't have the means to start supporting a woman and two children yet.
I'm actually torn on weather I should pursue the girl I mentioned because I feel like maybe she will think I want to commit and start taking care of her family. She has been hurt before and I would hate to hurt her again, but at the same time I think we could have fun just as two adults and maybe I could help her forget about the kids for a while. Dunno... what do you think?
If you want something casual you need to be completely honest with her from the start because as a single mom she is even more susceptable to getting too emotionally involved and winding up hurt. But if you lay it all out on the table she knows how you feel and that as of now you aren't ready to commit to anything long term. That way the ball is in her court as to whether she can handle a casual relationship.
I have before, and determined I'm not in that stage of my life that I want to be in a serious relationship with someone with a kid. I'd give her a chance though, if I didn't think we had something special I'd stop after 2-3 dates. Watch out for guys just wanting sex though, they seem to look at women with kids as easy. Best of luck!
I would date a women with a kid but I would like to know a few things. Such as do you still have feelings for the father? How often is the father in the childs life? And how much time can you make for are relationship if your taking care of a child and possibly going to work or what other dutys you may have?
I would be willing to take her and her kid out as well if it makes it easier for her but I would still like to have some personal dates 1 on 1 with her as well.
great questions to ask and defiantely understandable..
im 23 and honestly I will try to stay away from it. most guys will get scared and think the girl wants a part-time baby daddy who's willing to step up to full time. now if I got to know a girl that I was attracted to and she told me later on she had a kid I would have to do a little studying. is she serious about working and/or going to school to better her life? or is she waiting to be rescued?
Not the type of woman who plays damsel in distress until some guy dumb enough to put up with her comes along. I'm the type who works, has a decent head on her shoulders and just fell for the wrong guy and got screwed over. Personally I don't believe in the whole "knight in shining armor" thing, too cliche and passive.
right on
I am 27 with a 3yr old and 2yr old. My boyfriend is 33 with a 14 year old, 12 year old and a 9 year old. He loves my children as they are his own. He is a wonderful man, he does a lot with and for them. I was truly blessed when we was set up on a blind date. We've been together for a year now. We have a perfect blended family. Good luck finding a awesome man. They are few and far between.
not saying children are like stds at all..theyre gifts, BUT...i think the dating situation could be handled much in the same way. this is how it is relatable to me...dating with stds is tough too.
you just date and tell them later when you're ready but before you get serious. or you use dating sites for single parents. or you make friends who know you have a kid and flirt with them...
its easier than dating with stds because you can tell people you know about your kid and its not weird. like you think a guys cute. become his friend, tell him about all your stuff, then be like super amazing and get him to date you lol.
idk just use your charms to pull people in and help them realize kids are your situation. let them decide if they could handle that responsibility...if not on to the next one.
maybe you should join some sort of single parenting group and flirt with guys there lol.