A few things: • As was mentioned by some (like @the_sinner), significant cultural-differences are at play in this site with mostly U. S.-based users: Since their side's expected courtship is with marriage in mind, it's only for people ready to marry (i. e. adults). Hence, their experience in flirting is generally null or close to it. Especially with strictly-traditionalist parents, the very idea of mixed, co-ed interactions with their sons/daughters not yet ready for marriage is repulsive. (I remember some Indian friends back in my university years: Their parents didn't seem to fully grasp the idea that they're in the U. S. now and that the culture is different. They would rhetorically ask their daughters with a disgusted tone stuff like, "Oh? So, you're still talking to boys in your classes?" as though demanding strictly same-sex professors, instructors, teachers' assistants, classmates, lab-partners, workmates, bosses, etc. only or no participation… all the way through university-years until graduation & post-graduation employment would be considered normal, do-able, and legally non-discriminatory in the U. S.) • Apparently, the low Internet-prices in India are giving even the lesser-educated Indians access to the online world. Hence, the rise in less-than-refined responses from their side of the world. • And as stated by @AkshiJanjua, the more-skilled Indian-guys already have a significant-other, so the faithful wouldn't be flirting with random female account-holders online.
@AkshiJanjua This may be true for most overseas Indians, but I did personally meet those parents while here in the U. S., and they were VERY traditional. I guess, such strict conservatives can exist anywhere, though probably in fewer nations outside their original homeland.
Lol you actually have to visit and live in India to understand my point. In short America is a high income country so people have time to work on personality and standards of living Whereas India is generally considered low income country so people are more concerned about making money and suitable living than style and quality. I have noticed that most Indians who move to US are generally confused to whether continue Indian lifestyle there (which is considered part of culture sometimes) or follow western style of living.
@AkshiJanjua A fair point. But the expectation of not courting until ready to marry still exists certain demographics of India (even in other study-focused cultures & families across Asia, like mine). In my family from the Philippines, our flirting-skills among my siblings are near null, since we focused on our academics to the max. Our American neighbors, on the other hand, are on a whole different world with their game, since they've been doing it since high-school & maybe even middle-school for some.
yes very right but don't you think American guys will generally be more confident with American women coz they know what they like and dislike. That is kind of same for Asian people also that's why they usually date among they ethnicity even after moving to US.
My point is Indian women in India don't generally have these kind of expectations from Indian men as foreign women. And dating is kind of non-existent in our middle class society so no men have no experience and are generally awkward. Only in big cities people think of dating and all.
Indian men have developed a bit of reputation of being bad with women. As an Indian man, let me tell you that this reputation has been validated time and again. For starters, most of them don't know shit about flirting. They are TROLL GODS on the Internet but suck at being interactive. Mostly because sex doesn't come too easy in most parts of India, needless to mention the percentage of men is close to 60% in this country. Which is why they tend to excited or separate too soon. To be honest, Indian men in the states or anywhere abroad are more confident and playful only because they adapt to the conditions well. P. S - I am no Guru. Don't send me DMs asking for nudes.
Honestly I had this one Indian guy profess his love for me... 40 minutes after I met him... here on GaG... from 1 question and 10 minutes of messaging. All I can say is yikes.
Once this Indian guy on here also began asking me for pictures like on the second or third question and I was like "nope! see ya!"
@UnknownGagsUser Specially English not our first language, to know real strength of our flirting skills you wanna take survey in our own mother tongue rather than English...
Fyl, I could say we try our best in English, but most of the time the things you (not u - other countries people) who are speaking English while talking, we couldn't able to understand around 50% even... Just say yes no yes...
Some grammarian there in my experience... It's over us...
Prime reason for the failure language barrier..
Second we seek relationship in Friendship as well... That's biggest turn off for Western Women...
@mk200195 the native English speaker cannot understand our values in relationship and cultural ethics, it isn't our fault, they are missing something we are more better than western people...
They are failed to observe that... we are not lower... Nor disrespect...
We are against brozone, friendzone, friends with benefits, easily escape from responsiblity way dating tactics... And more things we can say...
Single mother problem, illegitimate child born, same sex culture, sexual diseases... We are far better than them...
Our family values far better than western countries... for most of them family is just a word, but for us family is emotion and everything...
Like that... We keep counting...
Sorry if my opinion personally hurt your feelings... My apologies
Indian culture is highly misogynistic and personal freedom at almost all times is trampled by what society thinks about it. There is rampant caste-discrimination, honor of the family is above individual freedom and happiness, dowry is so openly accepted and hardly protested etc. still majority of the Indians think that it’s the best culture in the world. You believe we are better than the world unfortunately most of the Hindu texts urge people to imbibe respect in their every act. In direct contradiction to it, majority of the population just don't respect anything. Whenever they appear to respect something, it comes out of necessity or force. Anything which is forced ultimately disappears. This is the main reason for most of the social evils. The ability to respect women, elders, commitments, institutions, professions and other communities is in decline.
“We are against brozone, friendzone, friends with benefits” So you now speak for the entire nation? And when did ‘we’ as Indians were against normal friendships or even friends with benefits? It sounds like your male ego talking to yourself.
“Single mother problem, illegitimate child born, same sex culture, sexual diseases... We are far better than them...” Maybe you need to learn to articulate your thoughts more accurately because I don’t consider being a single mother is a problem or gay rights being an issue in India (thanks to Section 377-IPC). I see you tried to make a comparison with the West, however if you "Google" the numbers are not really in favor of India. So, before throwing up all your facts on here you may want to double check them.
Extremely sorry but that’s my opinion on your opinion about India.
@UnknownGagsUser Sorry, didn't mean to start a war on here but sometimes people need to be educated.🤷♂️
Lol I don't think I'm that bad 🙈 But yeah in general it would be because we are not so exposed to flirting with women and there's more arranged marriage and love marriage going on here. Guys are mostly shy and not very confident when it comes to communicating with the opposite gender.
Conversations like that dont only happend with indian guys. Hear from one of my friends that that's most often the kind of messages she gets. And that's just a no go. Many guys dont relise
We just have a disconnect of what we want to see vs what you want to see.. We want attention, compliments, pictures. Girls often don't seem very affected by those, especially when they already get a lot of attention and compliments, because in current society we shower women with those at all times. So, we feel like we don't have much to give, not much to offer.
Of course you didn't and I said "that bad" even i was referring to flirting.
I am not offended in any way, it was sweet of you to ask!..
But yeah.. Mostly it is communication barrier, most people here learn English but they never divulge themselves into Arts and literature of English language.. Hence they lack that smoothness in flirting
Indian men have a culture that is very direct and in india they are used to hitting on girls in public. they aren't used to doing it online. they are used to cat calling and direct in person approach.
It's the lack of social communication (at least for me) and/but mine doesn't discriminate with genders either.
1
0 Reply
Anonymous
(25-29)
+1 y
Asian person, why did your people spread the corona? do you like how it feels when someone incorrectly generalizes your people? Not all indians do that, not even the majority.
Not all of them are bad at flirting. Most of them are not allowed to talk to girls till they're considered adults that's why they lack the skills of flirting and how to talk to people in social platforms.
I doubt every Indian man is like that. And I've noticed most questions asked about Indian men or Indians in general isn't good. I like Indian people. I've had an Indian partner before. She didn't fit any of the stereotypes y'all put on people.
From what I heard middle eastern guys are very bad at it too.
Maybe it's just a stereotype lol
0
0 Reply
Anonymous
(30-35)
+1 y
I guess it's because they don't know how to flirt. They are very shy or sometime rude in flirting. And thee impact of surrounding community as made indian men's dumb ass.
Most Helpful Opinions