Why do most indian men seem incredibly disrespectful towards women in messages on Gag?

[Anonymous]

I would love to say there's no pattern but from what I witness it happens to me all the time. Every single indian men on Gag who ever came to talk to me in messages always end up talking wrong to me.
If they ask a question I don't want to answer, I'd have to say NO at least six times. Obviously, the conversation end when it's just too much.

Am I the only one in this situation girls? (If so, I would be extremely unlucky, right?)

Could Indian men on Gag show that they are not all disrespectful pervert, please?

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+1 y

Thank you for your opinion. I am not saying ALL indian men are acting this way. I was just stating the fact that ALL the one who talked to me on Gag acted this way. So do not assume that I think all Indian men in this world are like that. I would gladly talk to one who don't act this way.

[xHoneyxBeex]

I have no idea. However, I don't think it's just Indian men. I've received disrespectful inbox messages on here from men in tons of different countries. I think some men, in general, are just rude and feel entitled. It's sad because of course not all men are like that, I've met tons of really sweet guys on here who never once spoke disrespectful towards me.

The ones who do though kind of ruin it for the rest of the genuinely good guys because it makes women second guess a guys' motives when they message her. Half the time if a guy just messages me "hey" I don't respond because in my experience, the conversation usually turns sexual and the guy gets rude. So, even though some guys who message me "hey" may just be looking for a genuinely innocent conversation, I don't want to respond because I never know where the conversation will lead and I get tired of having to deal with guys sending me sexual messages and asking for nudes. It's just annoying.

[lerzygirl]

I totally agree and have had the exact same experience.

[bananatossing]

Please let me know when this happens so I can tell them ti fuck off... I know you won't do so but thats how I feel. Stay beautiful ;)

[xHoneyxBeex]

@lerzygirl Yeah. Unfortunately, I expect many girls here have experienced that :/
@bananatossing haha! Aww, okay. Thank you :)

[Lovebite1]

Indian guys always talk to me there not rude tho. I don't know why but on the social sites I get on Indian guys always talk to me and I'm not into Indian guys like that... im not racist but I'm just not attracted to them.

[swimmersam]

No I get that too! Like seriously take a hint! I'm not trying to be playfully flirty by repeatedly saying no...

[dartmaul15]

I'll piss off a lot of Indians with this, but the truth is they have often little or no respect for women. Just look at the whole rape case going on now.
Also my old teacher had been in India on a holiday, and she found quite a few of them to be offensive. Staring (or should we say gawking, because that's more accurate), invading personal space, grabbing and touching inappropriate... All because she was walking alone without a man to "escort her".

Call me racist all you want, and claim the "not everyone" all you want, but it is blatantly obvious that India got a serious case there regarding how they treat women, especially westerners.
To think that sort of behavior does not carry over to this site would be absurd.

So to those Indians with their mind in the right place, cry "not everyone" all little less, and instead work to change society? That's what India really needs; those who are all do and no talk

[MaskedSanity]

It's really bizarre, to be honest. If you criticise these issues, Indians (on the internet) will flock to tell you that "it's not that bad" and fall over each other trying to give you rape stats in other countries. They seem to really care about India's reputation, but not really give a shit about the cause of said reputation's downfall.

You'd think they'd be all "Yeah, our country is in the shit in how we treat women, but it's getting better because we're doing x, y and z". But no, it's always excuses and finger pointing.

[dartmaul15]

@maskedsanity hm, yeah, iv'e noticed that too. Pride is extremely important there, and they want to look good. But they don't want to work a second to actually look good, it seems.
Isn't honor killing still a thing over there?
So as a kick to those claiming india isn't in the stone age anymore; compared to the west india is in the stone age on many areas.

[hypno-trip]

if you're european they're technically the same race as you so don't be racist against them. culturalist maybe

[dartmaul15]

@hypno-trip dude, have ou any idea how many races there are within europe? Scandinavians, europeans, hispanic, slavic people... have i forgotten anyone? (and that's just the native population) Plus, india is not a part of Europe .
So it could be both.
But that's beside my point.

[hypno-trip]

but they're all part of the caucasoid race that began in the caucasian mountains right? a group went left into Europe and another group went right to Iran and India. I was thinking slavic and scandinavian wer ethnicities rather than races

[dartmaul15]

@hypno-trip depends on how deep you define "race".
Either way, it's not really relevant to the topic, and is nitpicking. Also, racism covers more than just segregation based on race.
We're discussing a demography limited by borders, not race. And it's not racism if it's true.

[kheserthorpe]

I think the keep doggedly asking trying to get a yes is cultural. It's not respectful or disrespectful, it's more like.. haggling.

As for the 'pervert' thing, I'm pretty sure 2/3 of what is freely discussed on this site would be considered inappropriate and perverted in their culture. So the 'rules' they grew up with clearly DON'T apply here. And many or some of them have not yet perceived what the actual 'rules' of social interaction are here.

It would be like how i'd feel if i went to an orgy and then everyone suddenly yelled at me for touching a woman's LEFT breast which everyone knows is for husbands only or something.

Doesn't mean it's not annoying for you, but at least we can maintain hope they eventually pick up on things.

Why indian not other cultures? big cultural group with internet access and good English but not western cultural norms.

[bgrgbgrg]

hey bro you make us sound like a bunch of ignorant people... yes our cultural norms are strict but a very small community in our country still believes in all those things most of us are beyond it. it almost sounded as if you are saying that we indians are cave men who have just started to learn about modernizing every day. For some internet @$$holes do not blame an entire country

[bgrgbgrg]

@ kheserthorpe

[bgrgbgrg]

honestly i find this post a little racist... any one can mis behave with this particular lady... its just mere coincidence that it happened to be some guy who was from india... it does not state that the entire country's men are so perverted... not every ones the same. @kheserthorpe

[kheserthorpe]

@bgrgbgrg

It's not a coincidence. Almost every female i know here has complained privately about private messages from multiple indian men.

My entire point is that I don't think indian men are perverts or rude. I think it's that they are more likely to genuinely not know that's its considered perfectly normal to discuss what lubes are required for anal sex here, but shocking to ask someone their breast size privately.

[bgrgbgrg]

again you are generalizing... people who do that are definitely wrong and they deserved to be hated but all i'am saying is that the entire male population of the country is not like that so how come you give that tag along of "indian men" ... can't you just say "some jerk" .. and FYI any person with optimum amount of education knows its highly wrong to ask such demeaning questions to women be it under the shadow of anonymousness

[bgrgbgrg]

@kheserthorpe

[kheserthorpe]

@bgrgbgrg Sorry if i wasn't clear enough that it is NOT all indian men. There are what, 500 million indian males? If one in 1000 were messaging people here the site would crash. And there are plenty of well liked popular and insightful indian males who post here.

But you're wrong if you think there isn't more of an issue with indian males than others private messaging. And my whole point is that TO THE EXTENT there is more of a problem, it is, i believe, a problem of cultural communication.

The other possibility is that it's a subset of indian men who think all white women are whores and they can just treat them as such.

It's one or the other.

[bgrgbgrg]

i assure you majority of indian men do not think white women or any women not just white (since you are so hell bent on the race and ethnicity) are whores or sluts... in every culture and in every country there are ignorant a$$holes.. coincidentally you may happen to stumble upon some one like that who is from india... but i just don't understand that why you keep on saying "indian men" ... what do you say to muslims.. looks at that "muslim guy" (cause of bin laden) ... no not every person who belong to a particular culture is an ignorant human being... so you really need to stop saying "indian men" ... its that particular person who is bad when you say "indian men" you are saying as if its a problem with people of this country... may be you also need to check your out look about so much racism , seriouly "white women", bro i have seen many "black/brown or women " of any other race who are way more prettier than white women its about what's inside of a person not in their skin

[Blue_riBBon]

... and how do you claim they are Indians. (well, I am)
Anybody with broken English isn't Indian.
*who decide if profiles are fake!

I think it's totally wrong to made up some decision that way.
just because someone doesn't treat you right, don't think everyone is same.
Sorry if you hurt in any manner. Hugs :))

[Asker]

well... because it's written on their profile... and they said it...

[singlebee]

i am respectful here on gag... i got 4 female followers.. hahaahha

by the way those indians who are disrespectful live in a poverty area and they are uneducated and disrespectful towards all... people (not just here) cause maybe they are bitter...

i say you block all of them who seem like perverts... and dont talk to them..

but if you wanna talk to me i can assure you that you will find a new best friend... here on gag

[Anonymous]

hey i am an indian and i kinda find this highly racist... how does ethnicity has to do with anything about being a jerk like those guys hitting on you. ... i can also say most American women are $! ut$ ... but that ain't the truth it differs from person to person

[Asker]

As I just explained in details in my question, I said all indian men who messaged me, I was stating a fact, I was not making up that fact. So the fact that I was just describing what I saw on Gag is not racist, it was based on what I witnessed here.
And honestly, I would love to see an indian man prove me wrong on what I witnessed but right now, not a single indian men talked be the right way on Gag.

[Opinion Owner]

i am assuming that you might be from a country who despise ours... and may be no one has talked to you nicely cause you are being irrational

[MrScTi]

These are the same men that only deem conservative, virgin women as marriage material.

Yeahhhh someone is bullshitting.

[YourFutureEx]

Indians having clear intentions don't talk that much on PMs and if they do then they just talk about the business.
Rest are the ones who misconstrued it as dating site and the ones who never talked to any girl face to face.

[Ydiaandyou]

oh yes there's plenty of guys hitting me up and I don't bother replying back so I won't have this issue

[Ihav2fart]

It's their upbringing, they weren't taught any better.
Not all of em are like that @SatanClaus is a cool cat

[Tombstone1000100]

Upbringing? Seriously? Alright, cool

[SatanClaus]

<3 love you

[Anonymous]

Because you're biased! Do you even know most Indian men on GAG? Because I do! They are all incapable of being disrespectful because they speak broken English!

Their insults and flirtations are awkward and pitiful.

[Anonymous]

Well if you do believe that we are all creepy pervets then you must also be believing that all western girls are sluts?

[Asker]

Did I say that? really?

[Opinion Owner]

Yes, you did.
Its internet you moron, did Indian guys do that to you in person as well?
If I go by the behavior of western women in this site I'd have 0 respect for them, they all act like whores. But guess what I don't generalize like you.

[Asker]

Yes, I did met indian men in real life and they were nice guy. I was only talking about what I receive in messages but yeah go ahead change what I say, no problem.

[Opinion Owner]

You know what, not all of them are indian. on gag its a trend if you are feeling like acting creepy just go Indian. That gives you a license to do pervy stuff without being worried about anything. & girls here get tons of message from white guys too (a female friend here told me) and yet 0 question have been askes here about why WHITE guys send me creepy msgs, No Wonder girls like it if its a white guy.

[apexalpha]

There are some very respectable Indian men in G@G, I don`t like this generalisation

[Anonymous]

Probably because women doesn't mean shit in India - and because this is the internet.

[datgirl]

Oh good. So I'm not the only one.

[Anonymous]

Repressed culture

[PeacexOfxLove]

Yes they can show that they are not disrespectful.

[BertMacklinFBI]

they aren't all bad.

[Asker]

Only the bad one act this way towards every women on Gag... they are a lot and as much as I know they don't represent every single indian men, It doesn't give a good image...

[BertMacklinFBI]

true, it slanders the reputation for other Indian men. but you and I both know better.

[Anonymous]

Cause many Indian guys are sexually retarded