It all depends on his love language is he one that appreciate gifts or kind gestures? Or does he likes words of affirmation or physical touch. Once you understand His love language you’d be fine. Gifts- get him something sentimental if he is that type of Person or if he’s flashy I’d say a shirt, watch, perfume. Kind gestures; make him his favorite meal, go all out for his bday or a simple candle light dinner then ly in bed and watch a movie while u fall asleep in each other’s arms. Words, say I love you, write him a note every now and again, send cute text messages. Physicality: hold his hand in public, kiss him often, grab his butt in the kitchen, lean in for kisses unexpectedly. Whatever you do make sure you’re comfortable with it and that he receives it in the language he understands
My partner doubts my attraction to him a lot. He says he doesn't know why someone like me could ever be with someone like him or says things like "you are too good for me", both of which drive me up the wall but I know that it is just his insecurities talking,
What I do, like for most situations, is make a joke. "I just love that fat dick" or "I'm sticking it out for the food" or "guess you are just super lucky". It breaks the ice and we usually end up reaffirming my attraction to him in the bedroom ;P.
The same way you showed her you're there for her. Through daily routine a combination of you and her drifted apart got sideswiped or even preengaged to the point where emotions started to be affected. No one said being strong was easy. By having core directives you're able to maintain a sort of stability and balance in which everything is not only accounted for but is taken care of. We are sensitive creatures but we also have the ability not to be just instinctual but practical responsible and thorough. It's an honor and luxury to be able to do what's necessary reap the benefits and share your results and wisdom with others. Take care of you and you will be taken care of. Do the opposite and the inevitability will take precedence.
u If your behavior has given her reason to doubt your attraction, it is unlikely that any of your words will convince her. If you are staying up late surfing on your computer when she had invited you to bed, she had a legitimate basis for concern.
The first thing you must do is decide whether her doubts are justified. Are you really attracted to her?
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I look at his eyes and put his hand on my chest saying no matter what my eyes can see, my heart belongs to him.
For me, I get more touchy. I've only had one of my partners admit that once. I just tried to reasure him that I am attrated to him and that I loved him. But I'm not good with words so I just ended up becoming more physical by trying to hold his hand or hig/kiss him. But I'm like that all the time so I think, for the most part, my past partners could tell that I am attracted to them.
For me, I prefer the same I don't need words a kiss will make me feel better about it lol
Find out why she doubt your attraction?
find out her love language...
in order to assure her, you have to feel sure of yourself with what you want...
if she is a good quality woman... tell her...
you love her and appreciate her... if words makes her feel love.
write her a love letter... give her a hug...
these DAILY small gestures go a long way...
I do not leave much room for doubt, I am very sexual and I am very into my wife.
I am always kissing on her and nibbling on her, I often come up behind her and wrap my arms around her waist and kiss her neck, run my hands through her hair.
I regularly tell her I cannot hep it I just find her irresistable.
I would move on. There will be someone who accepts how much I am attracted to them and loves it. People that don't allow their love to do that are showing red flags because its a pretty basic thing, attraction. That low self esteem and self hate from a partner can really drag the other down if it goes on to long.
This seems like an odd question to me. I've never had a partner doubt it who I was attracted to. The only one that doubted it was the one that I lost attraction for. I felt no need to reassure the ones I was attracted to as they didn't feel I wasn't attracted to them. I guess what I'm saying is, if they need reassurance then either you're doing something that legitimately makes them sense your lack of attraction, or they're very insecure.
Either:
I seduce her and pay special attention to her body and her needs.
And just so she doesn't think that it is a mercy screw I make sure to orgasm.
And then I do it again and again but not on a schedule.
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I say things to her like "I want you" before I initiate sex.
And pull her hair. I am big on pulling hair.
organise romantic dates, leave sweet notes and tell them I love you everynight before going to sleep 🙂
I flirt more, put a lot of effort, keep acting like want to gain her, a lot of touchings, compliments, etc..
Its like rounding back to the point of gaining her, but again.
I haven't been in that situation before, because not the kind who lay back after gaining her, or getting into relationship with her.. always finding new ways to express my love to her, to not be in this situation.
Best of luck!
The only time that has ever happened to me, I *wasn't* attracted to her. She eventually broke up with me.
I will regret hurting her for the rest of my life. And by hurting her, I mean getting involved with her in the first place.
In your case, it seems that your attraction at the bottom of the list of issues. No amount of reassuring is going to solve your other problems, which is what is making her question your sexual orientation, your attraction etc.
When out and about, show public displays of affection (PDA). Showing pride in your partner with others to see is definitely reassuring to anyone who has a doubtful partner.
There an ole saying action speaks louder then words... so let your actions prove your love and attraction to your partner!
It's usually the little things that say more then any Grandiose gestures
With a lot of inappropriate touching
You make love often and make clear that you are their only love.
When there is doubt in any sort of relationship.. There will be problems! Clear that doubt through open communication 👍
Probably do what Trump once said - grab her by the pussy 😂
Will that help "prove" anything?
"Hey, i might be looking at other girl which is beautiful,
but u will always be the cutest in my whole life."
It’s so very important to speak both with body & speech to convey your partner is “sexy”, “hot”, “turn-on” and whatever specifically triggers a positive response.
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