But let’s say you also started to do the same by taking a day or two to reply. I’m just curious because I’m trying to match his level of energy.
Is it a turn off or unattractive if a girl takes more than a day to reply?
If one expects a fast reply or a chance to have a back-and-forth conversation, of course it's a turn-off. But we do all have different texting habits and real life occupations, so I wouldn't automatically assume it is a turn-off for someone
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If you play that game, you'll both lose.
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It depends. Are you into playing games to have the control or into having a healthy relationship based on honesty?
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It's pretty underwhelming honestly... if I started matching that level of energy, I would probably assume that we probably weren't about to start a romantic relationship (but not writing it off entirely). There are very few people who have so much going on in life that they are consistently unable to write out a fucking text message for days at a time. What people seem to forget is that you don't need to have an answer for every question all the time. It's a text, just tell the person that you are busy but that you would like them to contact you in a few days, or that you want to plan another date.
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if it looks like you're doing it to play games/play hard to get then it's a massive red flag, but if its because you have a busy and full life (or just low energy levels - i'm personally shit at replying to messages in good time) then that would be perfectly reasonable. It can be frustrating though if you're trying to build a rapport/flirty back and forth with someone and they take ages to reply, as it may stunt that and make you seem uninterested. But in the end be yourself, if your energies are mismatched from the start that may not be the best grounds for a relationship (speaking from experience!) Hope that helps!
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Personally, It's a turn off if a girl takes too long to respond (anything longer than a day). People might say that maybe she's busy, but that is bullshit because everybody is literally on their phones all the time throughout the day whenever they have time here and there. So if she doesn't respond within a reasonable time I'll just assume she doesn't really care or prioritize me or look forward to spending time with me. I want the other person to make me feel special. I want them to be enthusiastic me. So I love it when girls text faster
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My girl and I reply to each other almost instantly, but I've also noticed she's been increasingly frustrated (with me) this week and things are suddenly tough for us to see eye-to-eye on, as I'm always giving hard truths while simultaneously trying to be comforting and this aggravates her. I proposed giving her some space for this week and we'll come back to talking to each other in the next one and she agreed that's a great idea.
So tldr; it shouldn't really be unattractive, unless she is blatantly ignoring you for like weeks+. Instant reply can be suffocating and frustration-inducing, apparently. -
It can be. I would be careful about playing too many games. Guys have options too, and attractive guys have a ton of options if they're socially skilled at all. If you play it too cool, he could think you're not that into him and move on to girls who seem more interested.
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Yes. I would assume you're getting bombarded by other guys or being busy rather than paying attention to me. Doesn't matter what I'm doing, I want you to be enthusiastic and present regardless of my own behaviour.
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Um... no.
I try not to think that way now I am 28.
I try not to deal with passive aggressive, manipulative people.
And I try not to play texting games or social acceptance games.
You get an instinct for duplicity and whinginess as you get more experience with people.
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It makes him think you aren’t interested, and that you just want to play games. If someone wants you they will make it known.
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Um not really going to answer the question as I forgot it lmao. No I'm more in to you feeling his energy to me I would like to know more on that then the question
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I move on instantly. I have no time for girls who can't be bothered or likes to play "busy".
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Extremely unattractive to take longer than 30 mins to reply especially if the late person started the convo
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Lol if he's really taking a day or two to reply, he isn't that into you and you'll be giving him the same vibes back if you do the same.
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Unless the person is busy, it's a turn off if he/she doesn't reply for a day or two. I always reply as soon as I see the message no matter who it is, if I want a conversation with them.
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Matching "his energy" is stupid and childish. There aren't rules to a amount of time you wait to reply
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Tbh i dont like it i consider it she is not interested !!
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I hate when people are over-apologetic for responding late
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No.. 🤔 it just probably means they’re busy and have a life or that nothing romantic is going on between the two.. 🤔
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He's probably not that into you.
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I don't think so
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