Ok, so he was flirting hardcore with eye contact. Finally worked up the courage to say hi. Super smiley but a little nervous when we talk about very mundane things but started totally avoiding eye contact again? Ugh. Whyyyyy?
Exactly. All you can do is make a bold move so he is sure that you like him.
I remember some years ago, I had a girl flirting with me relentlessly. I still couldnt flirt back, because I was afraid to make her feel uncomfortable. As if her slapping my ass and hugging me and touching me all the damn time was not enough of a sign.
But for me it wasn't.
You never know how bad a shy guy is gonna be. You could pull your pants down and spread your pussy and he would still hesitate lol.
Why can't you approach him or make the first move or ask him out? Why does it always have to be the guy?
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I have three times. He's always overjoyed to talk to me even if a bit nervous. Soft vpice and everything. Then the next day he will act weird and pretend he doesn't see me.
Just had to vent because I've always had a strong resentment towards the tradition or gender role that guys are expected to be the initiators or make the first move.
If I were you, I would confess your feelings towards him and just let him know that you would like to take him out on a date
I think it comes down to social anxiety.. I have the hardest time maintaining eye contact with people without getting nervous.. sometimes I can't do it at all. You should probably ask him 😊
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We talk now, up close henis fine. Before we would make it from afar.
Some guys you would think girls would like, were rejected their whole lives, and thus even tho that person may be high quality and attractive for many reasons, they dont believe they are because they didn't have constant affirmation of how desirable they are their whole lives like many women get.
So many men, who women may wish to date, are too shy and dont have self confidence because girls never chose them before.
And obviously it's a turn off for many girls when a guy is like that.
@HiveBee yeah, women are horrible in simply confirming existing biases and treating goog men like rubbish because those men already got raised that way (probably by their adoptive/foster parents). More often then not, women attempt to use, not to genuinely relate.
Well from a guys perspective, that might have been normal friendly person behavior, when they hoped for more. Or maybe that was just all the courage they could work up. So now it's exhausted for a bit. But i can't know what they were thinking.
I would argue that people wouldn't be shy without self esteem issues. What do you think?
I think we all have self esteem issues since every person feels inadequate in any given situation.
Other people can draw from within thenselves more than ithers tonpush thriugh the fear and anxiety because they are focised in the funal putcome and have the confidence to go for it.
For some people it's chronic fear that can be rooted in past traumas.
With him, I guess what's odd is that there will be times of confidence approaching dominance and then flipping back to timid and submissive.
Working up all your courage to do a thing is exhausting. And you might not have much energy left once you basically fired the powder that you had xD don't you ever feel like that with confidence?
But I am empathetic to that flip sode and it is the vibe I am getting. He is likely going over our interactions in his head and thinking everything he said was wrong.
I noticed, he will always wait for me to come back home if I step out to see me one last time.
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