Ooooo, yep, this is me except I'm not married and am FAR younger.
And no, just ignore it and continue as though nothing has changed because really it hasn't.
She has a man so incredible that he asked her for her hand in marriage to spend the rest of her life with him and she said yes, thus, he must be pretty fucking amazing and worth a lot. You, meanwhile, have an amazing friend and someone you can trust with your problems and trust has the best intentions for you and wouldn't take advantage of you at your worst and should continue to return the same.
If you're developing crushes on people you know are off your radar, you're probably not mature enough for something anyway.
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My wife would be my best friend, and her presence would be greater.
Thats the simplistic way of saying I'm so picky that the scenario you provided would be impossible.
It's been 35 years now of not finding 1 person like that while actively looking for 25 of those years, if i were to stop looking, I've never bump into one once, let alone twice.
And if by some crap shoot rarity I did, then I have a new friend but I wouldn't view her as a better option because she lacks the already developed history and closeness and security of my wife, and there is no point in trading for a copy at the expense of someone's feelings, I would gain nothing new and lose quite a bit.
And thats without considering love, once you add that it's literally impossible to fall for another person.
I would start by confiding in my partner and after having shared my feelings and thoughts I would proceed to opening up to my friend about it. I'm polyamorous so how we go from there depends on my friend, but I don't condone infidelity, so he would have to either stay friends, agree with his partner on an open marriage, or leave his partner to be with me.
I would prioritise the relationship I'm already in, so if my friend wants me to leave my partner for him, I would turn him down - unless my marriage was already in bad shape and we wouldn't be able to work it out, or my friend is a better match for me.
THIS just can't happen, I wouldn't immagine myself falling for my best friend especially while being married...
It's stupid, it means that you don't even love your partner...
TRUE LOVE doesn't give you any space to fall in love with another guy... FULL LOVE is a 100% complete circle and nobody will fit in there because it's impossible...
And if it happens, it means you're not in love with your current partner.
IT'S SAD
Seek therapy
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--------------We all make choices in life. When you get married you devote your life to them. Throughout the marriage feelings or crushes will happen with other people because well there ain't no such thing as "a soulmate." There are multiple people you could have feelings for and it's up to you to follow those feelings when they happen or shut them down. If you are married your duty should be to shut them down best friend or not.
~Coach T Anthony @thedatecoach IGA or B.
The key is marriage trumps friends. If you are getting feelings for another person of the opposite sex you cut ties with them and honor your marriage.
Spending time with them is no longer safe for the marriage and you would be betraying your spouse if you keep close contact with someone you are getting feelings for.That will never happen. Not for me. I am incapable of something like falling in love. I simply don't believe in that sentence.
Believe it or not, for me love is highly conditional and is my choice. Hence whatever the situation you have mentioned in your question will never arise.If this were true this would mean I wasn’t being honest or faithful to my partner even on an emotional level, so it would mean I would have to confess this to my husband and either end my marriage, or try and work past it. And as for my friend, I think I would tell him the truth but I wouldn’t expect him to end his relationship… so I would have to just move past it and continue being his friend from a distance.
In these situations, it is best to just let those deep feelings past, and in the future avoid any "uncharted waters" that could lead you to the shores of "dangerous territory".
The person your married to is supposed to be your best friend. Falling in love with another is a forum of cheating or having an affair - do the right thing and stop waistline the time of your current partner they deserve that much
If it's a growing thing I would do a double date with all parties present and share my truth feelings.
Truth is something really powerful especially if it done from the start of relationship
The people involved will be open for open relationship with all parties involved hence they are my friends and parent.Put distance between each other and try not to be alone with one another. You've already committed your life to someone why go back against your word. That's a trifling and evil thing to do if you pursue this.
If you can't have this "friendship" in front of your spouse, then there's something else going on here. Don't bee foolish. Would you be okay if she had this same kind of friendship with another man? That will answer your question.
I had to read this over because I didn't understand it. I would tell my best friend that we had to stop being so close because we are married to other people.
Mind my own fucking business. I would get over it and let him live happily with his wife.
get mental help because if you're married and are in love with someone else you need to figure your sh*t out, get a couples counselor, or get a divorce.
Yet one more reason why opposite gender "friends" is not a good thing.
Your best friend should be your spouse. You shouldn't even have "best friends" of the opposite gender.
Break up with him before your spouce finds out, cos you’re already cheating.
quit acting like a fucking whore and learn how to stay faithful it'll help in the longrun
Id fucked her brains out and go about my week... til i needed some more.
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