Well short answer is yes. But there's more to it.
Making mistakes - whether they be stupid, big, trivial, unnecessarily risky, or knowingly risky but hoping for a positive outcome that didn't happen but it's understandable, etc - ... they do a number of things. They 'teach' us that if we do that again next time, the outcome may not be favourable. But there are no guarantees. And what humans tend to do is try and apply things to a new situation, another context, and that is not always the right thing to do. We can also limit ourselves by too closely associating one event to another. (Similar to 'correlation does not equal causation.') Fear is THE most powerful influencer of behaviour. The plain centre is more sensitive than pleasure. And lord knows if you look at Mr. Pumpkinhead as an example, you can more easily rally people in hate, and fear, than in happiness and the idea of a unified whole. Cults also use tactics like this to emotionally manipulate people. As do sociopaths. I just heard about a woman who was so manipulated by her then-bf, he made her believe that she did something very vindictive to destroy his career, when she did no such thing.
Knowing you made a mistake doesn't necessarily fix the behaviour and then it's all done and nicely tied up, no problems from that point on. If a person overreacts to what they believe was a mistake, they can become paralyzed in indecision, which is its own sort of problem. Actually, it is said that no making decisions is a huge problem, and those people tend to suffer economically, career-wise, and even in relationships (often by not having one; or not ending one that is going nowhere.)
I skimmed down the list of responses and pretty much everyone is saying 'yes.' But I think by you asking the question, you are looking for something more, some other analysis or angle here. And that's how I see a lot of things.
First, I'll assume that a 'mistake' is something that did not turn out well, and that a person regrets. But there's also such a thing as not being able to move on, and couching some action as a mistake, when in fact, the mind does all sorts of mental gymnastics - both good and bad, intentionally and not, to change how we feel, how we assess, the things we (and others) have done.
But to answer your question, for me, I know intellectually know that I fucked up, and I certainly have no intention of doing that thing again. But sometimes I am also aware of the distortion, or that my objectivity is obliterated (for whatever reason) and I tend to berate myself for what I can only remember as the negative in something I did. Even stack on a whole bunch of great, happy, positive, experiences, and they fade away in my mind and memory, and I feel the sting of the negative, and so strong are these feelings, and assocations, I want nothing more to do with that thing. Whatever it is/was. I learn to avoid it because it makes me feel like shit (or bad, to put it softer), yet I'm not even sure that it is, objectively, the right conclusion.
Hopefully some of this makes sense. I think there's a lot of directions this topic can go in.
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Completely according to what kind of person you are. If you're a narcissist, you never make mistakes, so there's no learning. If you're depressive, you're so down when you make your mistakes you can't frame them in any logical fashion to address them. If you're manic, you don't remember them.
I'm sort of kidding, but also half serious. Let's use marriage or longterm relationships as examples. The studies show that few people do better in second marriages than in firsts. Likely because they're younger and more tolerant of bullshit in the first marriages and more hopeful. By the time the second ones happen, later in life, people won't stand for the waste of time they experienced in the first bad relationship.
However, there's this caveat. Did the person choose better the second time around, or pick another inappropriate partner or remarry too soon? Did they learn from the first mistake, or choose a different kind of mistake the second time around? 50 percent of first marriages end in divorce. 67 percent of second marriages. 74 percent of third marriages. So, not so sure there's much learning from earlier mistakes going on in marriage.
Why would it be any different in other aspects of life, unless a person is committed to deep thought, counseling and change.
Yes it's the hallmark of BEING AN ADULT. If you screwed up you need to learn from it and check yourself and not repeat the mistake. You can't be forgiven if you haven't put in the effort and show the willingness to change. This is why despite a partner cheating if it's a single f up there's POTENTIAL to work through that. Not say I would take her back but I'd be more likely to at least consider it if she was honest, opened, and she never did that again. And YES despite what some people say a woman can fix that mistake and never do it again.
As a fellow numbness in current student of the school hard knocks I can honestly say I am learning a lot from my mistakes including the value of friends and family too can trust.
I, for one, do not consider anyone that I cannot trust, too be friends, family, or welcome in my presence.
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Tbh ermmmm lol. Takes a long time at least for me to stop repeating the same mistake. I often do not realize im doing it. Once I catch on I imidiately often harshly end it. Its a huge step forward for me, no one said its going to be elegant or pleasant. It will take many tries, but eventually it will become a second nature or a habit.
If you want too! You can make a mistake know itās wrong but do it againā¦. Perhaps because you need to learn more from the mistake? Iāve made mistakes that are similar many times overā¦ and finally at 40 see what I should have learnt but still canāt do it right
Yes I do learn from my mistakes. I was in 5th grade when ones I was doing some maths questions for revision of exam but I didn't knew the answers. I didn't even touched the book. So I copied down the answers from the back of the book and saved myself by cheating the revision sheet. The next day at exam the same type of questions came and I just got very bad grades as I didn't knew the method of solving the problem.
Personally I would like to think I do but sadly I have repeated some. Our society and goverment seem even worse at this. Maybe its like evolution it takes many times and many years to get a small amount of change. This would be sad and sad we dont learn faster!
Yes. Absolutely.
I punched a kid in elementary school, and I was suspended.
And I shall do it again.
I definitely learned from my mistake of letting the authorities know about that.
Never again.I do. I never make the same mistake twice. I really work through my mistakes internally/psychologically and work through the lesson. So, I never have the same mental structure as I had previous to the mistake so the mistake isnāt made again.
Never used to but now I do. Iāve stayed off serious dating for about 15 months now. Iām not rebounding. Iām not messing with nobodyās son. Iām taking care of myself until I meet someone worth dating.
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Yes I truly do. Sometimes I get traumatized after making a mistake so I really don't want to repeat it.
Depends how hot he was, if he was cute enough I'd make it three times at least before I learnt 🤣🤣🤣
Yes we do and if we don't then we will create a pattern of attracting the same situation again and again in life unless we learn the lesson
if you work hard enough there is almost certainty that you can learn and change. it is best to stay away from what drives you to your mistakes
It's normal to make mistakes as we all blunder at some point. I have and having learned from them; hopefully I won't make them again.
Yes 100%. Itās that or learn from the mistakes of other peopleā¦ which is always the better way to go!
I think so. You might make the same mistake a couple of times first but I think you will learn from it eventually
Nope. I must experience them at least 6 times to maximize the learning process.
Yeah I write it down and what I learned from it too
Do I learn yes, do I learn the moment I made the mistake probably not
I do. My father always says that its only a mistake if you DON'T learn from it.
Of course I do. Iāve improved so much over the last 30 years and also in the last 10.
If the mistake is 'Sleep with guy on first date', then no. No, I have not learned XS
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