Absolutely, I'd message him. Why not?
I've never played games or tested guys.
There are, however, some reasons I might not reach out. And they are:
If most of the effort has been on my part and I don't actually know how he feels about me. Then I might wait and see if he comes to me without me initiating or prompting. (Same thing can be said for all relationships - friendships, a client/business, etc.)
If I'm legit busy, or my mind is scattered, or I am in my typical pattern of wanting to clear the decks, get my ducks in a row, before I reach out/reply. I like a clear head. Once people have my attention, they have it.
Or I'm giving him space because I think or know he is busy, or stressed or tired, or doesn't like as much social contact. All of those are fine. I'd just prefer to know if it is one of those things.
According to your description, yes I would.
But, I will tell you of a time I didn't understand healthy relationships at all. I did all this research and found myself following stupid rules (haha, now i follow smart rules), for example, ''never text a guy first'' is advice people give.. it's really terrible advice.
There is a chance that the girl you know is following that but, if you have known her for a long enough time to consider that she is definitely a girl you want, you could be upfront in asking how she feels.
u There are all thes silly rules about who should text first and not sending a second text if someone does not reply to your first text, etc. and, to me, it all just seems like silly junior high school games.
This is a good way to test whether a girl really values you. Let her text you once by herself to see if she's worth keeping up with. Do not reward lazy girls.
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If I don’t text and it’s been more than 4 weeks, I’m not interested
I had initiated after he messaged me first and without him asking would message him good morning and how has he been that day, after a couple weeks being that we messaged on and off and getting to know him a bit more I realized he was not for me. I let him know and told him I did not want to continue chatting that he is a sweet guy and it was nice getting to know him but I was longer interested and won't be messaging him anymore. He didn't take it easy but IDC to lead anyone on when I know that I know I do not want to continue or feel things will progress with us.
So if I'm interested I view it as building up to a possible relationship, so yes I would always initiate or else I would of let you know I do not want to continue further.
s I would definitely text him. If we're interested in each other why not talking to him? Maybe he's dealing with some issue and perhaps I can help him or making him feel better.
If we want to date we both need to make small efforts and care for each other.
I mean yeah, I would text him back, asking what's been going on and why he had stopped texting me. I'm the kind of girl to wonder about what happened to the people I was chatting with, let alone associated with years back. If I don't like them, then I wouldn't care what they were currently up to or if they're alive or not.
Everyone is different and everyone will have different reaction. For me yes I will try texting back than thinking that he isn't interested because I haven't seen the other side and maybe he is having a bad time. I will understand him unless it is too long for like 4 months and after that I will assume that he really died or is ignoring me.
Thing is, I'm usually bad at writing to people first because I overthink and worry I'm a bother to others.
So depending on whether I KNOW I'm not, and that they actually want to talk with me, I might just wait.
And if I write first and he doesn't seem interested or answer me, I will stop writing to the person... Because that's how my mind and insecurity work.
Super confusing question tbh,
but yes, if i am interested in that guy I would take an effort to text him first too sometimes.
waiting days would tbh scare me of losing him (if i love him) so id text him
If I was interested then ya I would text him. Or even better wait in person to talk to him more. But if I feel he is trying to ghost me or has lost interest I might just move on
yes I’m sick and tired of being single and it would be a miracle if I found a guy I actually liked. so HELL yeah I would jump on that opportunity straight away 😆
Gotta be careful to not come off as desperate though lol
I used to do this all the time but now I’ve just given up on love - I’m really protective over myself. So nope.
Lol yes. That's how I ended up with the love of my life, I messaged him first.
I would definitely respond first if im interested in him. If im not, i just stop replying
Life's too short, message them and if they don't message back there's plenty of fish in the sea
Depends on exactly what happened and how much I liked him
I have tried talking to guys that I like, but I have only been in bad relationships with guys I have dated.
I would probably wait. I hate texting first most of the time but if I am like super into him and he makes me feel loved then I can be really affectionate.
Yeah I did that's actually how my husband and I started dating
Yes, I have and would. I can tell a guy I like them etc. but I don’t expect nothing from it.
Yeah I do that. He was usually tge one to initiate conversations irl but when it came to texting I was literally always the one to start conversations
its still very rare for a woman to approach a guy or make the first move, be the initiator in starting a relationship
