Feminine nurturing instinct. It makes little difference to me how well you can get me to cum, if you're wholly unable / unwilling to comfort me when I'm sick or injured.
Sewing. Yes, some men are able to learn how to do it too, so it's not an exclusively female skill. But there's something about a woman who can fix any item of clothing I damage via basic wear and tear, who can do it in mere minutes like it's nothing.
Problem is, when she then screws up her own laptop catastrophically when I'm not around to witness what she typed or clicked, then expecting me to psychically know what mistake she made, and fix it with a single magic keystroke. Code doesn't work that way! And if it's a code language I don't know, I'll be just as lost as she is! Especially if it doesn't have an English language base! If it's a code language based on Russian, for example, I won't know how to decode or fix jack squat! It'd be even worse than her being asked to operate a sewing machine built on some framework that's totally foreign to her.
Also, I've noticed when preparing food: women can do it with a certain heart of care that's hard for men to replicate to the same standard. This is really obvious at Subway. You rarely ever see men work there. And the ones that do? Making a sandwich just isn't the same.
Modeling, likewise. The poses women can get away with that men can't...
I'm skewed heavily towards the arts and humanities types. I'm actually a STEM type as a software engineer and I've worked with my share of brilliant female mathematicians and engineers. Yet I always found most of them to be on the dry side in spite of their brilliance.
So I tend to favor women who excel in the arts and humanities: artists, archaeologists (I managed to meet one and while she might not have been the most glamorous, I could listen to her speak all day about her travels), actresses, musicians, dancers, writers (I married one), women of this nature.
In particular, I like women with a passion and a zest for life and adventure. I tend to find more of those in my limited experiences in the arts and humanities. I did meet an exception once. She was a medical researcher and, while being a STEM type, had this sort of passion and warmth to her that I usually find more in the arts and humanities types.
What sort of writing does your wife do? I'm suddenly curious. Writing for a graphic novel that's a crime drama set in a comic book world, I've found myself having to pretend to be a detective, just to establish a timeline that makes a lick of any sense, long before the book itself can even be written.
And timelines like that can be really freaking hard to do! Especially when certain characters have schedules in their lives, and i have to justify everything that they do, even when their schedules should theoretically interfere! (E. g., why was Monica constructing a makeshift crime lab in her basement, when she normally has class that day and time? Why isn't she in class? How might skipping class affect her, and why does this not matter to the plot? When police falsely arrest her, how does her being gone for three days affect her grades?)
It gets impossible to account for every detail, but the amount of details requiring attention to build a logical world framework can be quite fun yet also a daunting challenge.
Does your wife take on similar challenges in her writing? If so, her and I should compare notes. Learn a few new tricks along the way. And then she could tell you all about these tricks, so we all learn to be better-organized writers.
@ObscuredBeyond Her career now is as a book editor and publisher rather than a dedicated writer and I think it's been quite some time since she has written anything of her own, although I often try to encourage her dream of publishing a novel one day (she's interested most in reading and writing mysteries). When she was actively writing her own works, she focused on magazine articles in the non-fiction realm so I'm not sure she has the experience of juggling all these fictional characters, and I suspect her dreams of writing would probably be a sort of pseudo-fiction drawing very deeply from her life experiences.
She's also Japanese so her writing is in Japanese with a major in Japanese literature. It's kind of embarrassing but I actually can't read her writing or the manuscripts she edits very well since, while I'm from Japan, I missed my teenage schooling years here and know only a fraction of the kanji characters that Japanese do.
I could try to relay your questions though and hear her thoughts! Yet I don't think she has much experience writing in a way that involves developing a complex fictional world full of characters with a consistent internal logic. Her primary focus has been on non-fiction and writing stories about her personal life.
@ObscuredBeyond I might actually be able to share thoughts a bit more easily in this regard as I started as an indie game dev doing my own designs, writing, music, art, and programming. It's actually how I broke into my industry. So I have some experience in trying to juggle fictional worlds and characters and keeping the internal logic consistent, although the writing was always one of my weakest points besides music. I'm not sure I ever developed much skill at it, but I understand some of the struggles from the perspective of game design! :-D
Thanks for letting me know. "Blood Over Water" was supposed to be an adaptation of a student film from over a decade ago into a new medium. It has quickly mutated into something a lot more, as it has become part of an ever-expanding universe that is reaching near-MCU critical mass.
The original video involved a 1-week period that went from blazing hot summer to freezing winter in as little time without explanation, as it was shot over four months. Yet, expected the viewer to accept three seasons flying by in only a week. That's one of many issues the new version seeks to correct.
The original also involved only six actors, playing the parts of eight different characters. As basic as it could get, given the limited budget. Now that I'm adapting it to a new medium, I can do things with it that were impossible in 2009.
So what started out as "college student has missing twin brother, nearly gets killed by mobsters," has evolved into an intricate tale of multiple students trying to uncover a massive conspiracy that got their siblings and / or lovers killed, police corruption, an Epstein wannabe on the loose, a deranged Yuletide cult, water pollution cleanup fraud at a bottling plant, an illegal porn ring, a 911 dispatch center being destroyed by a small army of militarized thugs, space alien gangsters trying to headhunt a young family due to something that happened in 1990 in southern Indiana, and a slew of characters caught up in a web of endless sex, lies, and homicidal insanity.
It basically morphed into the X-Files meets Northern Michigan Hicktown Sin City! A soap opera, with the occasional fantastic characters butting in, as if the normies weren't capable of causing enough trouble on their own.
So yes, maintaining a consistent internal logic for that story alone, let alone making it fit as part of a bigger puzzle for a pending franchise that's going to be littered with pirates, mad scientists, space magic-enhanced beings impersonating Hawaiian gods and Yule demons, various other superheroes and villains, parkour ninja kids, megalomaniacal architects, time-traveling Pilgrims, space ruby evil wizards, crazy libertarian vigilantes, and psychic rock monsters that can warp reality to twist scumbags into human pretzels and then incinerate them if they sufficiently deserve it, is no simple task.
It's fun; but based on what you're saying; your wife might not have any use for my organization tactics for this.
Game design... that's a whole other level of challenge!
I've noticed in Far Cry 5, the writers and dev team bickered an awful lot. There are a lot of world-building exercises in that game that were half-baked, and subplots with threads that went nowhere, or were cut short. And where they ran out of time, they replaced entire storylines with someone randomly writing a letter for the player to read - the Ubisoft easy way out.
I totally get that trying to make it all fit inside a video game, with development schedules being what they are, only adds to the challenge. Which is why, when I heard of New Dawn's release date, I knew it was going to be half-baked. That team had nowhere near enough time to make a better game! (Which is why they lazily reduced Hope County to about a fifth of the original map, then blamed everything on the nuke from the previous game.)
@ObscuredBeyond That sounds like quite an epic challenge! One thing I always tended to exploit when I got overwhelmed is the limited perspective of the metaphorical camera. We can get away with a lot happening in the background provided the audience doesn't see it. Ideally, we'd work all of this out to create the most consistent designs for our worlds, but I find that at some point I'm unable to do it without being overwhelmed to the point of feeling like I'm trying to take on the responsibilities of an omnipotent, all-seeing being, and it's too much for my brain to handle.
True, very true. I have to use Word, Publisher, Notepad, and Plottr, and sometimes the Windows Calculator and Calendar, often all in unison, just to begin to map out what happens when and where. Especially if I'm trying to have two or three events happening at once! Event handling is definitely the hard part.
Since I can't collect royalties due to the classmates parting ways (and one is now a deranged criminal and the other hates me because of politics, and the other three almost never talk to me anymore), I have to make "Blood Over Water" as a free-for-download comic. Which means, since my drawing skills are limited, the panels are made with highly-Photoshop-edited screenshots from The Sims 4.
This helps somewhat, as story text in the captions no longer has to put as much effort in words toward describing the environment. The screenshots speak for themselves in that regard.
However, it also means that I have to know the game, know the cheats, experiment with the finest mods, have a machine that can handle all the resource demands, keep up with game patch and mod update schedules, know my way around Photoshop, maintain a numeric ordering system for file names to keep captions and pictures synchronized in the final text document, know enough about internal game lighting configurations to create decent stage lighting, know set design well enough to create believable environments, study real-world architecture enough to make the Sim building imitations recognizable as stand-ins for real buildings, and keep Google Maps at the ready to maintain a sense of direction at nearly all times - especially if characters have to do any outdoor travel!
That's to say nothing of knowing how to stage sex scenes to keep it PG-13 in spite installing an NC-17 mod (Wicked Whims), how to depict quasi-realistic violence while keeping the gore from exceeding a PG-13 / soft R range (Photoshop, because Extreme Violence doesn't get everything right), knowing how to depict vehicle and other property destruction in a believable way in a game that normally doesn't show a lot of destroyed objects, knowing how to manipulate poses and animations to maximize credible depictions of key emotions from whichever digital puppet I'm using, adding effects to vehicles the game normally doesn't give them (like making police car flashing lights more realistic glows), etc.
I may not be much of a developer; having only made two fan stuff packs. But I can say this: making the story look good often requires making the game look a dozen times better than it actually is!
OK, I know I'm young and, no, I haven't actually BEEN on a date but... I still have my opinions. So, what non-sexual skills would attract me? TBH, for the majority of guys I know, sexual skills may be all they have but, not interested! No, what would interest me would be that he is a Christian (that would mean we already have our direction in life in common). Next, eyes, smile, and butt (OK, those aren't skills but... yeah, they're important!). So, actual skills? Being a gentleman is a skill. Being a protector is a skill. Being a provider, no matter what he does, another skill. And being able to do stuff around the house like my dad and brothers do? Add that to my list.
I think I need to date a guy who's like 25 - HA! None of the guys I know (who're anywhere near my age) have more than one or two of those "skills" (although, TBH, most have at least two of the eyes, smile and butt "skills"). ;D
Below aren't necessarily "skills" per say but these are immediately obvious characteristics that count.
Not in any particular order: 1. humility 2. the gift of gab 3. courtesy/chivalry 4. intelligence/intellect 5. dapper dresser 6. humor 7. athleticism 8. health & fitness 9. good grooming/hygiene 10. confidently assertive but not aggressive
I like a guy who is expressive with his facial features and words and body language - it’s cool if he can dance to music - And I love guys who look good in black
• A Woman who is healthy and eats really nutritious food, they often have this glow about them that carries outward and is visible when you first lay eyes on them.
• A Woman who can clearly communicate how she is feeling.
• A woman who is a good listener.
• A woman who is decisive, who knows what she wants and makes her own choices and decisions.
• A Woman who has her own hobbies that she is passionate about and enjoys: Singing, music etc
• I also find a woman who can convey a message without using any words attractive like a wink, a particular facial expression, using her eyes, her body language and any other unique characteristics.
• I'm very attracted to women who are good with children, who enjoy being around them.
• Women who love pets
• A Women who is able to share your thoughts and finish your sentences.
Im attracted to intellectuals so I’d definitely say watching him in debate or listening to how he articulates himself succinctly. Educating yet allowing himself to be educated. A man who enjoys reading and analyzing things. And for some odd reason watching my fiancé play chess is extremely attractive 🥰
I like guys that can do guy things, hence wut attracted me to my now husband. Besides fixing cars he knows how to fix basically everything cept the HVAC. He put in our central air, but fixing the heater wasn't so good. I am not so into games, computer technology, or electronics. Physically? I liked his V-back and muscles. Guys shaped like a rectangle aren't attractive to me. He's happy I don't mind getting dirty bc I can't cook very well! 😄
I've learned that what turns me on is a woman who has a son take listening skills. I once was seeing a therapist who was overweight and ugly. But she had wonderful listening skills and she understood what I was saying. I soon found myself attracted to her. I know it's crazy but that's how I'm wired.
- The ability to have a conversation about different topics. - Saying funny things in a serious tone (women really light me up with that lol). - Being humble. I love a humble woman a lot. - Knowing hacks and having the brains to figure out what to do in an emergency or tough situation (when a woman has this intelligence it is truly sexy as fuck).
Experience with children is a huge boon, those little things can be terrifying if you're not ready for them (lots of experience with them myself, but both having the skills means no one panics!).
Other than that, what skills would I like to see in my child? Respect, decency, selflessness, endurance, a strong will, kindness.
These aren't personality traits, they are skills, they require discipline and training from a young age.
Basically everything that I'm not - programmer, being able to defend herself, being able to cook something without burning down the house... The only exception is religiousness - since I'm an atheist, I stay away from religious people, so if she's an atheist like me, I'll consider that as a pro. If she's a hardcore atheist like me - even better. :)
When a woman can be nice, caring, and empathetic to a man and his struggles. WHEN a woman can be nice, caring, and empathetic to a man and his struggles, that is. Or maybe I should say "If."
Planning skills are very attractive Cooking skills Cleaning skills... Being able to show high levels of hygiene and dress well Communication skills are sexy as F Polite and professional
The smile with just the corner of the mouth. When you know you’ve impressed them but they are still trying not to show it. Cracks in the cool-calm. Love that. I see that these days and it’s time to buckle my seatbelt. 😎
Nothing hahahaha Oh wait their emotional jealously Their poor way that they can’t drive They way they spend money carelessly The endless nagging us to death Their abilities to not to anything Wanting us to change while they do nothing to improve themselves
1. A cute smirk 2. Pinning the hair behind the ear 3. Knowing how to dress well. A skill that many women these days don't know how to do. 4. A girl that is knowledgeable in many topics and loves to read
Being a gentleman honestly... if a guy is gonna help me to unload my hip thrusts pole he's definitely ×5 more attractive in my eyes.. Also being humble.
I wouldn't call it exactly a skill but I love it when women push their hair back behind their ear, like on a windy day or after they've bent over. It's such a simple thing but I absolutely love it.
the ability to carry a conversation. i don't expect a girl to carry all the conversations. but it sure makes her interesting to talk with, which is the foundation to even build attraction on.
I don't know. If she could play drums or bass, if she was very funny and had a great sense of humour and was very outgoing and a lot of fun to be with.
One person disagreed? WHY? Was I supposed to say, "She's gotta have huge tits and likes to fuck A LOT!!"? what part of, "she's got to be a fun person with a nice personality" was offensive?
When you work whole day and specially your back hurts and she serves you food, i am not saying that she should serve me everyday but sometimes when i am really really tired.
Nice and pleasant sweet and kind. Also doesn't curse like a sailor. good cook. Family oriented. Has a college degree or a certificate. Also good hygiene. Church girls are a plus.
Being comfortable and confident, easy going and good at communication. Good body and great personality. I mean I want someone who can be with me outside the time we have sex too.
I love the wink as well. I'm also a big fan of when I have a lapse and a beautiful woman catches me looking, she gives you a wink or a smile rather than being upset.
I like love when a Win an loves to play with kids call the time or it really bother's her to not be cuddle up with me or in my lap or she is wanting my attention in some kind of a way. God Bless
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I like witty comebacks! I am attracted to well read, intelligent, spontaneous men - with a pinch of sarcasm!
Singing, but it's one of those things that are very attractive if they can do it, but isn't viewed as like an actively negative traits if she can't.
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Fashion sense, money spending, finance skill, respectful to older people, express himherself, walking straight, caring, chivalry, pull the chair, understanding, empathy, sympathy, well no wonder I am a single
there is a balance that some women naturally have of being sassy but not being bitchy or pushing their personality on others that can be so fun and cute.
When they do something different from their personalities like when a shy girl stands up for herself or when a brave girl gets scared or when a strong girl unintentionally do something cute.
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