How do you know when someone in the gym has genuine romantic interest in you?

[Jammaa]

I feel like both guys and girls are more happy, friendly and open to talking in the gym, but it's harder to tell you if it's just because they're friendly or not.

[WhiteSteve]

Really? I’m a big gym guy, I go almost every day, for over twenty years now, and I’m pretty sure I’ve met ZERO women at the gym, lmao. Even in my 20s when I was single, I almost never saw anyone else approach someone either. I actually saw a younger kid ask one of the cute girls at my gym if she had a boyfriend, I was surprised to see such a direct approach in a gym. She said she did, it was a short conversation, haha. I’m usually just trying to keep my eyes averted, personally, I don’t want to be a gym creep, especially the older I get😂 If anything, I’ve gotten friendly with emails STAFF members at gyms who recognize me as a regular, and eventually we might start having some banter. I think I could’ve asked a few out and gotten a “yes” over the years, but I’ve just never viewed the gym as a pick-up spot, as much as I wish it was, because a hot chick in her gym clothes is about as good as it gets😝 But I think I’ve just been conditioned to believe that women want to be left the hell alone at the gym. Most of the hot girls at my gym, before long I’ll see them with some dude who’s clearly a boyfriend they just met in some other venue of life, like school, work, friends, etc. When it comes to top-shelf women, in my experience, I find that they’re almost always taken, and if they aren’t taken and are looking, they let you know they’re available pretty blatantly. Taking a chance on a girl dressed to the nines at a club is one thing. Some sweaty chick catchy her breath after a set of squats…not so much, haha.

[WhiteSteve]

*I’ve gotten friendly with female STAFF members at gyms

[Anonymous]

Funny when I’m at the gym I usually have tunnel vision to get things done. Also if I see a girl wearing a ball cap that’s a signal she doesn’t want to be approached.

With that said I have run into attractive women and I’ll usually say something innocuous about the surroundings if I like her. Depending how she responds I might introduce myself, smile and say good luck and go about my workout. If I see her again I’ll likely chat with her more but not too much or too long. Then if a third run in happens I might ask for her number. However I will never go out of my way to talk to her. Only if we cross paths walking around the gym.

There was an attractive girl I became good acquaintances with a few years ago at my gym. However I found out in conversation (like the 5th time we talked) she was taken. She was talking about moving her stuff to a new apartment and i said “well won’t your boyfriend help out with that” and she said “oh he’s not coming back from a trip until Monday”. She never mentioned him before that. I was going to ask for her number until I found that out. However I still said hello to her afterwards and wished her a nice day.

[howhigh420]

no really much but there's a guy in my gym i go to called chris a canny help it he's gorgeous av even told him he obv knows who iam cause am a member at the gym for years so knows me everyone that works there knows am into him i told him first time a met him am no shy a handsome man must always be told how beautiful he looks my saying anyway keep people happier way the truth a dont hide wit a wanty say a dont lie if i see a good looking guy awl tell him know him or dont its no a bad thing it just makes them feel good same when men do it to women as long as its not lies its wirth telling and saying but i think its all in eyes nd actions like if they are nervous around you or body laungage the way they say things and react towards you when they look at you

[zeitgeist057]

the way I read what you wrote it sounded Irish lol

[howhigh420]

how irish

[howhigh420]

a hope ure no slagging me a hate people that do this to each other on this site when all everyome on it is just giving there opinion nd giving help and asking for it

[zeitgeist057]

no, no disrespect intended at all just like how you wrote "a hope ure no slagging me a hate people that do this..." I do a lot of different accents as a voice actor and you wrote it very similarly to how I would speak it.

The same way if I were speaking with an Australian accent and wrote it out it would be like "G'darvo mate, howzabout we run down tha pub, grabba stubbie?"

Do you have an accent if you don't mind my asking?

[howhigh420]

English accent but why would i slag u some of my mothers side of the family starting speaking irish when they moved over there years ago when i was young so why would i affend irish people nd am aloud to talk wich way i like

[howhigh420]

no i know you werent slagging me so its klkl

[Cynicaldreamer]

Honestly I just assume everyone's friendly unless they point blank ask me out, lol

Most gym people are (relatively) friendly, at least in my area. Heck, if they see you working out, they will talk to you! But that doesn't mean they like you or want to date you : They could genuinely want to discuss fitness, your technique, muscles, etc...

Yes, I've even had guys like that, so don't assume just because a guy is being "friendly" that he's into you.

[muscularbumblebee]

See that’s a tough one.. can’t really speak of a ‘regular, conventional gym’ but would guess that simillar scenario apply just in a lesser degree as my gym is pretty independent- close knit community where everyone knows each other


But as for people actually hitting on me. Usually they would find my Instagram from the gym’s website where they repost when you tag and send a message like ‘hey I saw you today’ then ask questions about yourself then ask to hang out. Obviously I’m a regular gym it would be creepy if they found your IG lol but maybe ask for your number?


If a guy asks to workout with you 90% chance he’s flirting though and it’s a more ‘low-key’ date idea with no pressure especially if he loves the gym, saying hi each time is pretty normal so wouldn’t look into it much but actually stoping it have mini convos I’d take is a good sign…




I’d say develop some sort of base friendship first, don’t rush, then make a decision

[zeitgeist057]

I'm taking a tip from you. Maybe next time I have a gym crush I'll see if she wants to work out together :)

[muscularbumblebee]

Haha sure, good luck!

[Impalitteri]

I use to work in a gym and watching the behaviors was amusing. Men would peacock being loud and obnoxious to (and I'm assuming) draw the attention of beautiful women. I never saw any man get a number. I did however have to ask some men to tone it down or leave due to complaints. Women on the other hand were to the point. get in, work out, get out. However, if a woman did decide to approach a man, I'm certain she would get a number.

[libsaretards]

I have yet to get a woman this way, which sucks because women who are into fitness are the very women I like. I've been attracted to and even spoke with a few women in the gym. ALL the interactions were friendly and they are now some of my best friends. One is now the only personal trainer I will use. The rest have become good friends but none have made it to any date/romantic level.

[Whatever2929292]

Well if you are really interested in someone then ask the person out and if they say yes then it is a pretty good sign. No means... sorry not interested. Any other answer just leave it up to them if he or she really likes you then they will know you like them and the ball is in their court you already made your move

[Espresso-Grande]

I'm quite a perceptive and intuitive person, but I'm useless at determining if a guy has a romantic interest in me.

If he talks to me a lot, I assume he's just being friendly. If he is flirtacous, I assume he flirts with all woman.

I need to guy to be upfront and direct, or I'll never take the hint 😂

It's more difficult to see signs of interest in a gym setting.

[Guy__]

That's what everyone says.
But if you think about it, the difference is that friendly people don't check you out with every chance, attracted people can't help but look at you.

[Espresso-Grande]

@Guy__ that's true

[mobiusforniner]

I've never unserstood the who "be upfront" thing. It works when there's a reciprocated interest, but more often than not, a woman isn't going to appreciate a random guy going up to her and saying "I like you lets date"

[Espresso-Grande]

@mobiusforniner I'm talking about when we are talking. Not some random guy on the street.

[Anonymous]

There's always going to be some question (ie you never know 100% unless they say so), but if a guy approaches and tries to strike up a conversation with you, there's probably something there. Some kind of interest. While some people do strike up conversations with strangers, I'd say most people don't in general. And with guys, chance are it's attraction (either just physical or more).

[Opinion Owner]

Or if a guy keeps looking at you. This is tougher as everyone people watches at the gym usually, but if he seems to be focused on you, and often, he's at least physically attracted to you.

[Opinion Owner]

And I'm not sure about women? Many say the last place they want to be approached at is the gym?

[exitseven]

I suspect it is pretty much like everywhere else. Is she likes to hang out and talk to you and if she pays attention to you. Maybe she shows up at the gym at the same time you do.

[Nawlins34]

I'm there to workout, so I'm working out.

I have music in my ears and I'm getting it in. If she isn't bold enough to literally walk up to me and say something after a workout, I won't detect it.

[VanillaSalt]

I was told stay away at the gym because your busy… and at the market… and at school… work wouldn’t be an issue but if you have a bad breakup it royals your job so no there…

[TheLoneTerran]

I've always been told that you don't try and pick someone up at the gym. They are there for themselves; not for anyone else.

[wa1t1ngFuture]

in fact, you'll know eventually if someone likes you. your heart will know without having to ask someone...

[Guy13]

Nipples get hard, smiles until it hurts and looks down at lap when doing butterflies. And about the 🩳 gets butterflies 🦋 too.

[zagor]

I would be very reluctant to approach someone in the gym, as I feel that is their personal time and they're there to focus on their workout. I would be afraid of coming across as disrespectful of their space.

[RHK36]

You don't. Most of the people are there to actually workout, not pick someone up. Stop checking people out, finish your sets quickly and wipe down what you use.

[Andres77]

The gym is the equivalent of a bar in people looking for hook-ups.
Not the place to be seeking a meaningful relationship.

[FriendlyDrugDealer]

Besides eye contact , body language and conversation? I wouldn’t know, I usually keep to myself

[DavidRaul]

I mind my own business at the gym. Everyone's a distraction

[Crankor]

You don't. That's not what gyms are for ha. Any pursuit should obviously be done outside of the gym if you already have a guy in mind

[Gibbons44]

Any difficulty in figuring that out indicates you are transgender. Do your pubic hairs grow, or are thry missing/not growing?

[Creampiekarl420]

I hate gym people I exercise when I’m pissed and my pre work is “come at me bro” in a bottle I hate being bothered