the last couple summers i always see this girl at the place where she works in my hometown but i like literally never actually seen her anywhere else in this area. other than once on a long weekend i saw her at a bar in another nearby town.
and this town isn't like that big around 20,000 so is like 1 wal mart , 1 mcdonalds , a couple grocery stores , 1 high school , 1 hospital , a downtown area where her job is located
what does she just order things online and use drive through's? i know that she has a car , her family is from this area but think her sister has moved away , she has girlfriend's who live her too. i've never seen her at the gym and is only 1 main one that is popular with people our age but have seen some of her girlfriend's there.
i'm perplexed is typically in this town i always run into the same people in different places , i go to the gym and see people who work at a local chain restaurant.
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It is possible for two people to live in the same area and only see each other in one particular place. There could be a variety of reasons why this is the case, such as different schedules or interests that don't overlap, or simply not crossing paths by chance.
It's also possible that the girl you're interested in prefers to shop online or use drive-thrus, or that she has a different social circle than you do. Just because you haven't seen her in other places doesn't necessarily mean she's actively avoiding you or trying to hide.
If you're interested in getting to know her better, it might be worth striking up a conversation the next time you see her at her job. You could ask her about her interests or hobbies outside of work, or suggest meeting up for coffee or a drink sometime. However, it's important to respect her boundaries and not be too pushy or aggressive in your approach.
we know some of the same people here through the bar scene , she's pretty well known here and has over 1000 followers on her instagram so she's not someone who does nothing or sits around the house on the weekend.
but even if she shopped online wouldn't she have to go to the post office to pick things up? i'm there all the time as i sell books online and have to mail things every week. some girls tend to avoid some of the places i like to eat like kfc or wendys , there more into healthier foods or foreign options like thai or sushi but still everyone goes to mcdonalds the odd time or subway
i also don't know what her car looks like so i wouldn't know if it was her or not if i saw it or it was parked somewhere in our town , so she could go through a drive through and i wouldn't know it was her or be parked somewhere and i would think anything of it
It's possible that this girl is simply very private and keeps to herself outside of her workplace and close circle of friends. It's also possible that she has a busy or unconventional schedule that doesn't allow for a lot of free time or socializing in public places.
It's not necessarily unusual for someone to avoid certain restaurants or fast food places due to personal preferences or dietary restrictions. As for online shopping, some people may opt for home delivery or have packages delivered to their workplaces instead of picking them up from a post office.
If you're interested in getting to know her better, it may be worth striking up a conversation with her at her workplace or through social media. However, it's important to respect her boundaries and privacy, and not to make assumptions about her life based on limited information.
when she worked at the restaurant downtown during the summer her hours would of been 10 am > 5pm or 5 pm > close which could be 10 pm or 1 am if on a Friday night , she also sometimes worked a full day so 10 am till close which wouldn't of allowed much time to do anything else
but on the half days she had a lot of free time before or after work based on those hours , if she didn't have to be there till 5 pm , what did she do all day?
i don't think she would of been allowed to have packages delivered to the restaurant , never seen anyone do that who works there so going somewhere else
thinking there is a number of restaurants and fast food places she never ever goes to which would explain why i've never seen her at them. but still find it hard to believe there isn't any in our town she's been to at some point , even if she didn't like the fast food at dairy queen , a lot of people go there for the ice cream , who doesn't like that
It may be possible that this girl spent her free time before or after work doing things that did not involve leaving her home or the immediate area around her home. For example, she may have spent time reading, watching TV, or doing other indoor activities. Alternatively, she may have had other obligations or responsibilities, such as caring for family members or pets, which kept her busy during her free time.
It is also possible that this girl has visited other restaurants or fast food places in your town, but you simply have not seen her there. As I mentioned earlier, people have different schedules and routines, and they may go to different places at different times. Additionally, people may have different preferences for food and dining experiences, which could explain why she has not visited certain places.
It is difficult to say why this girl has not been seen in other places around town. However, it is important to respect her privacy and avoid making assumptions or judgments based on her patterns of activity.
i do recall seeing her read a book once but never seen her anywhere in town where books are sold like thrift stores , yard sales or new book stores. i believe her family had a dog athough not entirely sure if she had any involvement with it or not i don't recall her ever mentioning it or posting about it online.
she does spend some time outside this area , i know she's been to country music concerts and festivals in other places but that is only like 1 weekend of the entire summer and doesn't account for every other day she was here. i also know she's been to mexico a couple times. so travels a bit
i've seen her best friend who also works at the same restaurant around town a couple times never with her , either by self or with her boyfriend. saw her 1 at dollar store , 1 at chain restaurant , 1 time at gym ( she's wasn't a member but her boyfriend was and she was there with him one day during holiday break ) 1 time at an arena during a sporting event , also saw her with her dog once at a park dt near the restaurant at lunch and once at a country bar in another city an hour away at Halloween
It sounds like the girl you are referring to has a diverse range of interests and activities, and may spend some of her free time outside of the local area. It's possible that she prefers to spend her time reading at home or ordering books online rather than visiting bookstores in person.
She just has a private life that she prefers to keep separate from her work or social activities. Everyone has different levels of comfort with sharing personal information or posting on social media, and it's important to respect others' boundaries and privacy.
If you are interested in getting to know her better, it's best to approach her respectfully and see if she is open to building a friendship or relationship. However, it's important to be prepared for the possibility that she may not be interested or may have her own reasons for keeping to herself in certain social settings. Regardless of her interests or activities, it's important to respect her boundaries and privacy.
when i saw her social media was a couple other things she had done as well , recall she had been golfing , although not sure if she liked the sport or just the bev cart. also a post about going snowboarding with her girlfriend's at a local ski hill a year ago and a post about boating with them last summer.
her schedule last summer involved her being at that restaurant a lot , hard to envision she had a lot of time to leave the area. i know she went to a couple concerts but that only accounts for 2 or 3 nights and she was here most of the other time.
i'm not sure if she's really that private , when people talked to her at work last summer she was generally pretty open about her life and seemed to share a lot. she was a bit different with me though despite the fact we knew each other. i'm pretty sure she's worked there since 2018 so 5 summers in a row
once i can also recall seeing her at a job fair but must of been in April 2018 just before she started to work at that restaurant , can also recall seeing her at a pizza place downtown but its like rate beside the restaurant. i've likely seen her 100's of times at that restaurant but barely ever seen her anywhere else in this area
It sounds like this girl has a variety of interests and activities, including golfing, snowboarding, and boating, as well as attending concerts and events. It's possible that she enjoys these activities and makes them a priority in her free time.
Regarding her level of privacy, it's possible that she may have different levels of comfort with sharing personal information with different people. It's also possible that she may have become more guarded or reserved over time, or that she simply prefers to keep her personal life separate from her work life.
Once again, If you are interested in getting to know her better, it may be helpful to approach her respectfully and see if she is open to building a friendship or relationship. However, it's important to respect her boundaries and privacy, and to be prepared for the possibility that she may not be interested or may have her own reasons for keeping to herself in certain social settings.
Everyone has their own preferences and needs when it comes to socializing and sharing personal information. It's important to respect and honor those preferences, and to focus on building relationships with people who share similar values and interests.
to be entirely honest not sure if this person will ever make sense to me. if i get the chance to talk to her again this summer , will try and create a conversation with her that answers some of these questions but not sure i will ever get the answers i want or that would make sense of this.
i've wondered too if she's done other things to avoid being seen around town , i notice a lot of cars have tinted windows , never seen her car so i don't know if it does or not but if it did make sense why i wouldn't know it was her if it drove by or was parked in a lot near the restaurant. she could also wear sun glasses or a hat when out in public maybe?
but think more than likely she is using drive through's or home delivery of food , and at gas stations you can pay at the pump so she wouldn't have to go in the store , i go in those stores a lot to buy lottery tickets
It's understandable that you have questions and uncertainties about this person and their behavior. If you do have the opportunity to talk to her again, it might be helpful to approach the conversation with an open mind and a willingness to listen and understand her perspective.
As for her potential efforts to avoid being seen around town, you make some valid points. Tinted windows and sunglasses could certainly help conceal her identity, and using drive-throughs or home delivery for food could also be a way to limit her public exposure. Paying at the pump is another good option for avoiding going into stores.
Ultimately, it's up to this person to decide how much they want to be seen in public, and for what reasons. It's important to respect their privacy and boundaries, while also seeking to better understand their perspective and behavior.
its just a theory that she is doing this stuff around town to avoid being seen by people or by me specifically. i don't know what her car looks like as i've never seen it or even seen a picture of it. it seems highly likely she is using drive through's or some option which reduces her physical presence in these places.
i'm not entirely sure why she wouldn't want to be seen in public here , she seemed pretty open and talkative when she worked as a server. she didn't seem like the type of person who would want this kind of secrecy and to be hidden from view.
i don't know if she is coming back to that restaurant or not , i'm guessing our first conversation will be pretty awkard as i haven't seen her for some time and rather annoyed by her. but i just want some answers even if there not what i want to hear at least it might provide some closure and allow me to move on.
It's understandable that you want to find closure and get answers about the situation with this person. However, it's important to approach the situation with empathy and respect for her privacy.
If you do happen to run into her again, it may be helpful to have an open and honest conversation about your feelings and concerns, while also respecting her boundaries and privacy. It's possible that there may be reasons why she is avoiding public places or certain people, and it's important to approach the situation with understanding and compassion.
Like I been saying, it is up to you to decide how to handle the situation, but it's important to prioritize your own well-being and to make decisions that align with your values and goals.
had some more thoughs do you think its possible she's had the same thoughts i've had? wondering why she's never seen me anywhere else in town during the time she's worked there? maybe she wonders why she's never seen me anywhere else too?
i'm sort of a gambler and feel its going against the odds to have not run into her anywhere else all this time , you think there'd have at least been a run in somewhere even if it was just brief or accidental by now. as i have seen other girls who work there in various other places the odd time ,
don't really know of her having any other jobs in this area other than one short temporary one at a liquor store during the first year of covid so 2020 , she mentioned once that she worked there briefly when restaurant closed for dining but once it re opened she must of quit , but i don't recall ever seeing her there and likely only in 1 or 2 times during that time . considering i know she drinks and with our liquor laws only allowed 1 store in town to sell liquor like vodka/tequila you think that be a pretty highly likely place to see her. is other spots that sell beer but its the only place that sells actual liquor
i don't want to be seen an invading her privacy by talking to her about things. but at the same time i don't think pointing out the obvious is something that should bother her in anyway. simply mentioning to her that i find it odd that we've never run into each other anywhere else when we live in a small town isn't really something that should bother her and i'm not suggesting we meet up after work. just wondering how we've managed to never cross paths outside of the restaurant all this time
i wouldn't find it odd if a girl from there mentioned to me that she had never seen me anywhere else in town and wondered what my interests were or what other places i went to in town. but i'm a guy and obviously view things much differently than she does
i've asked other people on here about this before too , some of the ideas they had as to what she might be doing before work to possibly explain why i've never seen her around the downtown area near the restaurant
one was she's hanging out in a nearby coffee shop but feel thats less likely as i've been in them before or drive by and never seen her
or stays in her car and using her cell phone to text or internet etc , seems possible as she has a cell phone and seems to use it a lot and on a number of different social media sites
or hides out in a public washroom , was one near the parking lot as the restaurant is downtown and a lot of tourists during the summer. and its locked so i'd never know she was in there , i believe it and 3 different washrooms all gender neutral so she could use any of the 3
It's understandable that you may be curious about why this girl seems to only frequent one specific place in your town. However, it's important to remember that everyone has the right to privacy and to choose how and where they spend their time.
It's possible that she has her own reasons for avoiding certain places or reducing her physical presence in public, and it's important to respect these choices. It's also possible that there may be other factors at play that you're not aware of, such as work or family obligations, personal preferences, or health concerns.
If you're interested in getting answers or closure, it's important to approach the situation with openness and respect. You can try reaching out to her and asking if she would be willing to talk about why she only frequents certain places or if there is a reason why you haven't seen her around town. However, it's important to respect her boundaries and choices if she declines or isn't interested in talking about it.
You may have questions and curiosity about why you've never seen this girl anywhere else in town. However, it's important to respect her boundaries and privacy, and to approach the situation with sensitivity and respect.
If you do decide to bring up the topic with her, it may be helpful to frame it in a non-judgmental and curious way, rather than making assumptions or accusations. You can try saying something like, "Hey, I've noticed that we only seem to run into each other at your workplace. I was just curious if there's a reason why we haven't run into each other elsewhere in town."
It's also important to respect her response, even if it's not what you were hoping to hear. She may have her own reasons for why she chooses to frequent certain places or avoid others, and it's important to respect her choices and boundaries.
It's possible that the girl you're referring to may be spending her time before or after work in a variety of different ways that you're not aware of. It's important to remember that everyone has different preferences and routines, and it's not necessarily unusual for someone to have a specific routine or set of habits.
While it's natural to be curious about why you've never seen her around town aside from her workplace, it's important to respect her privacy and not make assumptions or judgments based on limited information. It may be helpful to focus on building a positive and respectful relationship with her based on open communication and mutual respect, rather than focusing on the mystery of why you've never seen her elsewhere in town.
It is important to prioritize respect, empathy, and open communication in any interaction with others, and to avoid making assumptions or judgments based on limited information. If you're feeling frustrated or unsure about the situation, it may be helpful to seek support from a therapist or counselor who can help you process your emotions and develop healthy coping strategies.
its been a tough situation to digest since things with her got weird last year , when we first meet we got along a lot better but i still never saw her anywhere else but that restaurant.
i have different therories a to what she does before or after work. its possible she likes to drink or smoke marijuana after work. that would explain why she stayed in one place and wasn't around town if she was drunk or high. a lot of women like to drink coolers or wine. and the demographics of pot smokers here is not what you'd think it was , i see a lot of rather normal looking older people walking out of the cannabis shop when i drive by , don't smoke myself so never been inside. so who knows what she does after work
if i do get a chance to talk to her , going to not try and dig too deep or ask anything too private , but i don't think point out that i never see her anywhere else is unreasonable as it must be obvious to her too that we don't see each other anywhere else despite living in the same town and perhaps she wonders too as we seem to have similar interests and know same people
what if i went fishing is they say If i get a chance to talk to her again?
instead of asking her directly what she does around town when not at work , say just ask if she's ever been to say the bowling alley before? recall one of her girlfriend's mentioning it but i don't recall her but is a popular hang out so do wonder if she's been there. its not invading her privacy to ask if she's been there as its a common place to go here
so yeah just ask if she's been to a few of the most obvious and common places here and see if i get a hit as they say. it seems impossible that she could of lived here for this long and not been to at least the most common places to go in town. if she says no to all of them obviously not telling me the truth
update she's re appeared at the restaurant , saw her there last Saturday , she worked an afternoon shift then disappeared wasn't there for Saturday night. so would appear she's back for the summer , last year she worked there full time not just weekends. i feel like the max anyone would drive to work at a restaurant is 30 minutes so she has to be staying somewhere in this area during the summer months May - Aug.
i talked to her briefly but not about anything intense , mentioned i hadn't seen her there in a while , she seemed like her usually self.
one of her girlfriend's asked where she was staying Saturday night and asked if it was the condo or home? not sure what the condo is or where home is exactly is a mystery too? she said home cause condo was boring?
so if the place where she is staying is so boring why doesn't she get out and do something like go to the gym or go to another restaurant
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