Did I misread all these signals, how did this happen?

[Anonymous]

I was nearly 100 percent sure this girl liked me.. Here's a list of all the things she did:

1) Touch my hair

2) Our legs would touch and we'd sit close to each other.

3) She'd "accidentally" touch my hand with hers, and leave it there

4) She'd give me hugs and ask for hugs when saying goodbye

5) She'd touch my arm when I'd touch her knee or anything

6) She started acting differently around me (quieter, I've seen her be loud but she's more reserved around me)

7) She playfully punches me when I joke with her

8) She tries to tease me

9) She fidgets and gets clumsy (drops her pen) when I get real close to her

10) She sits up straight and sticks her chest out

11) She lets me touch her legs, hands, she doesn't tell me to stop when I'm sitting close to her and obviously checking her out and flirting with her

12) She's suggested spending time together, grabbing some food or going to visit her at work

And out of nowhere today, while being flirty texting her, she said that she just wants to be friends and to stop texting her things like that. WTF?

I've been trying to figure out why..there's no way I misread all that? She was giving me signals but what happened

[beautywithinthesoul]

There could be two reasons for this.

1. She's playing minds games and boosting her ego up

2. She scared and she doesn't want to rush anything.

So just keep being friends and see what happens. Just observe her actions and watch how she acts with other friends.

[Asker]

You wouldn't let someone you're not interested in touch your knee and keep your hands and legs touching his unless you were attracted right?

There's no way she can say she was just being friendly, a lot of those things friends just don't do.

[beautywithinthesoul]

Exactly unless she's a whOre.

Just be careful. She might be having some emotional issues in her life right now.

[anita0191]

maybe you waited too long to follow through on your actions and ask her out and she thought you were just using her or playing mind games with her or she's the one playing mind games.

[Asker]

You know I think it might be this one...maybe she thought I wasn't going to ask her out and was just trying to get in her pants.. after all if I'm confident enough to flirt like this I should have asked her out by now.

That makes sense if she thinks I'm just trying to fool around with her and she's not that kind of girl then she'll say she wants to just be friends and be the one to break things off before I hurt her. That make sense?

[anita0191]

Yeah it makes heaps of sense. Personally if you did this sort of stuff to me and didn't ask me out after mentioning spending time together/ getting some food I would definitely think that you just wanted to get into my pants. You should ask her to explain why she wants you to stop flirting. She still wants to be your friend so she still cares about you and probably has feelings for you, she doesn't think you feel the same.

[Keke-101]

I totally understand your situation. You see a lot of girls are causally flirty without knowing it. Once she realized once you were during on the phone she wanted to stop it before it got out of hand. And once it got out of hand and she knew she didn't want to be in a relationship one of you would have gotten hurt.

[Kattrain]

I'm guessing she got mad you didn't ask her out fast enough, and decided to get over you and has now labeled you a 'player'. She could've also moved on.