Ever since I got interested in girls/women I have never had to do any effort to get a girlfriend. Not that I think I'm handsome myself, but all my life girls/women have shown quite expressively they like me, are attracted to me. You could say I'm lucky but apart from the women I have had a relationship with, most of them seem to think of me as a fantasy because most of them already have a boyfriend. Some of them go quite far to let me know and feel they are interested. The past few years I have had a couple of female co-workers who have shown quite expressively they like me. This year it is the same old story but now I really like her, but she has a boyfriend already. Another colleague of mine talked with her and to him she said her current boyfriend does not meet all her expectations. The first time she saw me she immediately touched my arm when passing by and looked me straight in the eyes. Sometimes she sees me and goes sit somewhere else to make me notice her. Later she comes and sits close to me. She wants my attention, talks to me, laughs with all my jokes, teases me a lot. Should I wait and let her come to me or try to win her over? On the other hand I really dislike women who are already in a relationship and flirt so overtly and expressively with me. I don't know what to do anymore...
My first thought is that you shouldn't pursue her. All the intro about how successful you are with women doesn't matter anything about the real issue which is a coworker is in a relationship and is willing to cheat (is already cheating with her mind) on her boyfriend to pursue something with you. And the problem is there already: if you date her, you are dating someone who is already proving by facts to be a cheater. For me this would be a deal breaker already. Why starting anything with someone who is already presenting herself as someone who can't be trusted? Someone who, when attracted to someone else, would indulge with then rather than sorting out the problems she has in her relationship, either trying to fix it or to end it before? That is the picture of someone egocentric who bears no minimum level of responsibility. Don't think that if you meet her requirements she won't cheat: cheating is not about the partner, it's about the cheater and the rational choices she takes, plus her moral level, that also depend in smaller part on how the relationship goes but given all the relationships have problems, especially long term ones where if you don't have relationship/communication skills those problems will just cumulate, then your dear cheater will anyway have, at some point, an occasion to cheat.
I would also advise against having any one-night-stand with her "casually", because I'm pretty sure the fact you are forced to see her every day in office will make her more and more interested in you and girls who can have sex without feelings for real are just an incredible rarity. If you get a hookup with her, you are starting something with her and it would be really hard to not (or to not argue with her when her hopes aren't met).
I would say pursue only single girls, and instead of waiting for them to be interested in you, you still have the option to pursue girls by yourself, so you are not "cursed" about this anyway.
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