Do you get more attention from the opposite sex online or irl?

[Anonymous]

Do you wish it was the opposite?

I get the most attention on social media

I get the most attention on dating apps

I get the most attention elsewhere online

I get the most attention in real life

[Cynicaldreamer]

No where if I'm being completely honest : Especially not on dating apps! I gave up on those years ago.

If I had to pick? Probably other (video games) as most of the guys I've met over the years are gamers like myself.

Though on a friendship level, I do tend to have better luck meeting and befriending guys online than in person, mostly because most men my age in real life that live in my area are married, taken, or we don't have much in common. So outside of work, I don't talk to many guys in real life. Whereas online, I visit chat rooms, play video games, and use messenger apps, so it's easier for me to find like minded people my age range.

[ArrowheadSW]

Where on the internet do they have chat rooms now a days? I used to like the old days of AOL. There was a chatroom for every thing back then.

[Cynicaldreamer]

Oh gosh, you remember that too @ArrowheadSW?
I used to use the yahoo chat rooms before they got rid of them.

Nowadays the closest thing to a "chatroom" would probably be discord servers. They have groups for everything: art, gaming, pets, fitness, etc..
Good way to mingle and meet like minded people

[ArrowheadSW]

@Cynicaldreamer LOL I "cut my teeth" on AOL chatrooms way back when the internet was new to the public. It was cool back then and people were thrilled to meet people online from ALL OVER. That was 25 years ago and to this day I'm still in touch with some of those people. Later on I picked up Yahoo Messenger also and it had audio function before AOL did, and people were amazed that you could talk to people voice to voice without using a telephone... LOL

Never heard of discord servers. I'll have to look into that.

[ArrowheadSW]

@Cynicaldreamer OK I briefly looked at the description of Discord servers. I'd like to talk to people say, 30 year old plus. Is it mostly younger people or are there chatrooms available for us older users?

[Cynicaldreamer]

@ArrowheadSW It's people all over! And I'm sure you know how "honest" some people are online about their ages.

I'm personally not in any, but they definitely exist. Try googling, "Discord servers for 30+ year olds."
I did just to test it and one immediately popped up called "Over 30s" specifically for adults 30 and older

[Potteplante]

I don't really do social media, I do have a Facebook & a Instagram but I'm not active there except from following family members since I live abroad. & Never been on a dating app.

Online, I get to much attention and not always one that I like. I'm a gamer, I refuse to speak in games now - I've a set group of people I do game with, some I know IRL and the rest has joined through them.

As a kid & a teen I did get a LOT of attention IRL - the older I got, the less it happened. Now that I've lost a bunch of weight I'm starting to get attention IRL again & would honestly rather be without it again.

I guess - I wish I got less attention online & IRL because it's rarely the kind of attention I appreciate.

[BeMuse]

In real life girls drool over me and trip over themselves to get to know me. They treat me very well pretty much all the time, they are flexible and compromising, and will put up with all sorts of conversation and often find it interesting. Online, most girls are mentally ill narcissistic psychopaths that bring out all their crazy all day long. But then again I don't have picture up. I'm typing not talking in my deep sexy voice. They don't know anything about me. They make up their own delusion of who I am and what I look like, most likely based on their own ex boyfriend or something because they all seem to be filled with hate and evil and suffering from depression. lol

[Capricorn92]

I hope this is sarcasm.

[BeMuse]

@Capricorn92 Nope. In real life I get a lot of positive attention. Too much... On sites like this I get a lot of negative attention. Either way there is a provocative response. I don't care though. I don't know any of these pink users in real life. They don't have any significance to me. It doesn't bother me. It is interesting to see the contrast of how people behave when they don't know much about you though.

[Capricorn92]

Oh well good for you. Don't know why you get a lot of negative attention on sites like this unless you just come off as a narcissist which to be honest your first comment kind of came off as.

[BeMuse]

@Capricorn92 That's called honesty. I know, you might not be familiar with it.

[BeMuse]

Obviously I don’t seek attention for my looks because I don’t take selfies and post them. Obviously I don’t care if people admire me if I’m willing to put up with a bunch of random hate and vitriol and still be around after years. I don’t follow anyone on here, so obviously am not self promoting or openly seeking to have people follow me… Obviously I can see people respond to me in different ways based on what they know, so I don’t have some delusional self image of grandeur. I’m able to exist in a world were there are positive views of me and negative views of me. None of that lines up with narcissism.

[Capricorn92]

Most people wouldn't say "drooling over me and trip over themselves to get to know me" unless they have a very high self esteem that may equate to narcissm. But if this is your truth, then who am I to judge?

[BeMuse]

@Capricorn92 Most people are average. Normal distribution...

[Capricorn92]

You do know there's charm in humility? I hope you aren't like this irl because if you are these girls that fawn over you must have low self esteem.

[BeMuse]

@Capricorn92 Or you're just bad at reading people and like to try to find fault in people that have healthy self esteem. Misery loves company. Nice projection on the low self esteem.

[Capricorn92]

I have quite high self esteem and have turned heads but I am not going to gloat about it like you have. Like I said before there is charm and attraction in humility. There is nothing healthy about narcissism. Not saying you're a narcissist but your comment just came off like one. I'm not going to say men drool over me because my parents taught me how to be humble. It's not misery just honesty.

[BeMuse]

@Capricorn92 You just did gloat about it.

[BeMuse]

You constantly contradict yourself like a person that says, I'm not a racist, but...

[BeMuse]

In general you're very disingenuous. Like I said, you're probably not familiar with honesty. You kind of wear it on your shoulder...

[BeMuse]

What you fail to calculate is that you're the one that asked the question. I just gave you an honest answer... It's something you wanted to know. I tried to give you honest information, not bullshit. I'm not a big fan of lies... A narcissist would make questions daily if not hourly to talk about themselves, their photos, their car, or whatever. But they wouldn't stop there, they'd want to become an influencer or a moderator or an admin because it would give them a sense of superiority or power over others around them. These are narcissistic behaviors. Some one giving you an honest answer to a question that came out of your own head is not narcissism.

[Capricorn92]

Okay whatever you say 🙄 if you don't see that your "honest" comment came off a certain way then I have nothing more to say.

[BeMuse]

@Capricorn92 Now you're going to get passive aggressive on top of it... That's funny.

[oliver4love]

Today's modern world look loyal and attractive only in online world, I mean online other person behave that you are most beautiful person in the world I mean more attraction online than personal may be it's for sexting chat or for normal chat... but in real world people not attract like online..

[melanieeeB]

Irl but I don't use dating apps and my instagram is private since I think 3 years and I also kicked out the thirsty unknown followers, ain't nobody texting me there and I ignore every follow request🙏🏼

[Guy13]

I get more attention in person than the other two combined.

[Asker]

Do you wish you got the most attention online?

[Guy13]

No I do not. Online is not real. Never look the same. Never act the same as online.

[msmissydc]

The most attention is on social media but its also the easiest to ignore. I am not on any dating app so I have that going for me. In real life while its not as much as online its the hardest to ignore and the most intrusive because I can't just block people.

[Assi2k]

Everywhere. My favorite has to be between when I was 15, a lady said in shock "Wow what a beautiful smile!" or last year when I was out, a little kid stopped his bike in shock and said "pretty girl!😯" and then biked off a little embarrassed. I did say thanks tho.

[sheenagwapa]

irl... i don't really i teract with males because i have a boyfriend before and he is the jealous kind just like me. but i think wuite a few had crushes on me way back in college. i'm
also my ex crush when i was in high school. online some guys are following me but it's because i have the potential. but the latter are rich, smart people and they spend so much to help me with my ocd which i'm extremely thankful for. i felt God never abqndon me all alonh because of them.

[TheSpaceGnome]

Online, I'm not that often around women offline anymore because I spend my free time at home gaming, drawwing, etc, and the internet is the entire world and lets you instantly interact with people almost anywhere, so its never going to be less than in person.

[Echosoul]

What do you draw? ✏

[TheSpaceGnome]

@Echosoul Nearly everything.

[Anonymous]

Both. It’s soo much in fact. That I resorted to having only 50 friends on FB & INSTA. only family members and closest friends.
And in real live I restored to wearing more conservative clothes, and not going out as much. I stopped going to the gym, cause I don’t need to workout in front of anyone.

Men are annoying, gross and pathetic. Not all, but on a mass scale. They are.

[Asker]

Did you get hit on a lot at the gym?

[Opinion Owner]

Yes, some of the oldest dudes would get on the machines next to me. One time some black skinny dude, unappealing af would even follow me around every day using machines around me.
I switched to another gym because of that.

This year I have as able to find time to walk 8 MILES next to my house and even at work. So I completely quit the gym. Best decision I’ve ever made… I also bought a set of 5 pound dumbbells & 10 pound.. I take those to work too.
Best decision ever.
The gyms suck your money out. I was able to loose around 50 pounds with OMAD and my 8 Daily Miles. No gym, not specific diet, no spending. Nothing but myself.

If you can’t find a track near your home you can do indoor walking exercises, it’ll be the same as walking.
https://youtu.be/Uom0p9Bx13U

[Anonymous]

Both, in real life I work most of the time, but when I go out for having fun I get a a lot of attention.

I started using dating APPs just one month ago and there as well, the numbers are really high and seems like all the men that I liked, like me back.

[analgesicgal]

on social media

i dont use dating apps.

part of the reason could be i only put up polished pictures of myself, in real life i look... like normal average, even below average and depending on stress level quite ugly most of the days lol

[MartaSi]

In real life or on dating apps if happen to use them at the moment. I don't use Instagram etc very often so that way isn't very likely for me.

I work at quite a large company. That's where I get most of my attention.

[Stressyalaire]

It's about the same but here it's the hi how are you let's have sex and irl I mostly just get the looks and the ones who do approach are usually nice and polite.

[samuluaa]

I don’t have a profile picture because I’m not interested in getting attention online. I much prefer to meet and socialise with people face to face.

[Breanna_nonbinary]

I get more attention online than in real life and I do wish it was more irl. And I wish that it was more women than men too.

[Ligerzzero]

Neither, the only thing I get is women saying I’m ugly in real life and online dating. Never been attractive enough

[sarahsmile8839]

For me it's about equal. IRL I am sometimes very shy and sometimes not shy at all. Depends on my mood. I like keeping people guessing.

[genericname85]

as a man, you don't get attention from women. unless you're insanely attractive or going out of your way to get it.

[Asker]

It’s more, as a man you get attention unless you’re super unattractive lol

[genericname85]

nope. that's what being a woman is like. except even the super unattractive ones get lots of dick.

[Asker]

Maybe you’re just unattractive

[genericname85]

naw that's not it. look at my profile picture. i know it's not my entire face but i'm good looking.

[Asker]

I don’t need to and I’m not just talking about looks

[genericname85]

yeah of course you're not just talking about that, cause you're quickly losing grip on your position and desparately need something to hold on to :D

[genericname85]

so tellme, what exactly does matter besides looks for that initial spark of attention when you litterally know nothing about the person yet? cause it can't be social status and personal life achievements at that point.

[PBandJ_Nerd]

I'd say online more. In RL most people mistake me for a kid.

[serious]

I would say online but I don't really care and I don't wish for anything.

[Sixgunsound]

I'm not on here every day, but I see my wife and daughters every day.

[Razp_Sorbet]

Online because they think they're invincible behind a keyboard. I wish it would all stop

[HighValue]

I get more attention from women in real life by far.

[rabbitzzz]

I talked and made friends with more girls IRL than in FB. Fuck zuckerburg he is a confidence killing bastard.

[Tomisworthless]

Uhm neither option? Lol unless it’s negative attention then irl occasionally.

I’m a walking “hey bully me publicly” target

[Asker]

Why?

[Boredaf99]

Online, I never really have anyone approach me Irl.

[nobodyknowswho]

Bummer ☹️

[Boredaf99]

@nobodyknowswho true

[nobodyknowswho]

🤷‍♂️🤷‍♂️🤷‍♂️ they should 😎

[Boredaf99]

@nobodyknowswho thanks 😊

[nobodyknowswho]

YW 👍

[Anonymous]

Cam sites are a thing lol. Fortunately or not, I'm endowed with assets that works just right online.

[NostalgiaSenpi]

I don't get any attention. Women are not interested in me in the slightest. I gave up on my dream of having a family. Its not realistic.

[kellytheman]

I get more attention in real life but that's probably because I don't really use social media, dating apps or anything online.

[Jerre]

I get lots of attention from girls in real life. They like my looks, Eve n though I’m 51, my being fit, and the bulge in my pants.

[boobliker]

we don't know what sex we are talking to? it's the web and all lies

[TheFlak38]

In real life. And it's always at the wrong place, wrong time.

[SpokenTruth]

I wouldn't say I get attention at all online or in real life.

[Anonymous]

Irl. I’m not on any dating apps and I really don’t do social media that much.

[Avicenna]

Definitely IRL

[Anonymous]

In real life. I think its because of the ring on my finger.. Girls tend to want what they cannot have.

[driven159]

I don't look for attention online Nore do I want it.

[LimitedBenefits101]

Men get more attention in real life

Women get more attention online.

[SenkuIshigami]

It will always depend on the girl but IRL gets to know the other ways that can't be possible Online.

[Femalefashionadmirer]

I get no attention at all I must be doing something wrong.

[Anonymous]

The only reason I have female friends is because they are mutual to my male friends.

[7Phoenix7]

Both about the same

[MrCommodore]

Definitely in real life

[abbyjgriffin98]

In real life. I work at a Casino...

[mobiusforniner]

Real life. Never got any attention online.

[PinkRose24]

I get more attention in person.

[poneglyphs]

I get no attention from anyone really

[MadAndBankrupt]

I never got any Attention.

[MeSultanMm]

Will you like to be my friend missss

[Echosoul]

I don't get attention in either really.

[Luckycharms12]

Both real life and online

[Anonymous]

I get no attention anywhere, thankfully

[Anonymous]

I get no attention from the opposite sex period

[Anonymous]

About the same.

[strateguy632]

,4th

[Boavista]

I don't draw attention

[Jaylenn]

In real life

[Nikki1989]

Real life.

[Anonymous]

I’ve been pretty popular

[Anonymous]

I get attention easily both online & rl

[exitseven]

in real life

[KostasKouvalis]

Onlline