How to get her to like me when I’m shy?

[KyleC19]

So I like this girl but I have a really hard time talking to girls. I used to work with this girl and sometimes would get really nervous and couldn’t get the words out of my mouth. I was the same way with my ex but she engaged most of the conversations. What can I do to be less nervous and? So maybe she will like me?

[Anonymous]

It's completely normal to feel nervous or shy around someone you like, but there are some things you can do to help build your confidence and improve your communication skills:

1. Practice talking to women in non-romantic situations, such as striking up a conversation with a female coworker or asking a female friend about her interests.

2. Focus on active listening, which involves paying attention to what the other person is saying and responding thoughtfully. This can help you feel more comfortable in conversations and can make the other person feel valued and heard.

3. Take deep breaths and try to relax your body when you feel nervous. This can help you feel more calm and confident.

4. Focus on building a connection based on shared interests and values, rather than just trying to impress the other person. This can help you feel more authentic and confident in your interactions.

5. Remember that rejection is a normal part of dating and relationships, and that it's okay if someone isn't interested in you romantically. Focus on building positive and healthy relationships, even if they don't turn into romantic connections.

Remember that building confidence and improving communication skills takes time and practice, and that it's okay to make mistakes or feel nervous at first. Be kind and patient with yourself, and focus on building positive and healthy connections with others.

[WanderingLoveWizard]

It's ok to be nervous.
You don't have to be James Bond with women to get them to like you.
Just be friendly and polite and realize that's a human being you're talking to.

She's not some divine, perfect entity. She's a walking bag of bones and guts with a brain that spits and shits just like everyone else.

She's probably more focused on nervous she is anyway.


If you really need a way to give yourself a little boost in confidence, you can try the split personality trick:
Make up a personality in your mind, like you're two different people, but this one is super cool and badass and gets women easy, and he doesn't give a fuck.
Really make this person a reality in your head and let him take over while the shy, quiet, pussy version of you sits back and watches the show

[Dіldophobe]

That's something more powerful than "split personality", phrasing it as such doesn't stress how powerful it is. Changing your beliefs/memories of yourself will change your subconscious mind and the real personality does forever change.

[WanderingLoveWizard]

Even better

[Anonymous]

If you have a hard time talking to girls, you should talk to girls more. You could start off just chatting with them online or in video games and build your way up to talking to girls in person. Doesn't have to be anyone in particular, just girls around you. Coworkers, people at school, people in stores, etc. Practice with strangers will definitely help when the time comes to talk to girls who aren't strangers.

Some girls find it cute when guys are shy or nervous so you could totally use that to your advantage. You could also just be more vocal about it like if you start to clam up or things get weird because you lose yourself, just say something like "sorry, I'm just really nervous/anxious right now" or "sorry, you make me really nervous" and you could follow it up with a reason "because you're really pretty" or "because I really like you". It's simple, honest, cute.

Randomly complimenting her would be a great start. Joining in group conversations could help. Asking questions or bringing up random things you saw on social media, current events, new movies/songs/shows. Just the same things you'd talk about to a friend.

[Static_In_The_Attic]

Dude GROW A SET, walk up to her & say the following.

If Covid doesn’t take you out can I?

[WanderingLoveWizard]

🤣 nice