I’m always friendly first; what are some good transitions into flirting?

[Mr_Hyde]

I always lead with being friendly, to where I almost forgot how to be flirty and put out feelers. Any suggestions how to segue from friendly to flirty?

For instance, last night while waiting to get in a club a friend and I started talking to some girls in line behind us, later on they start dancing next to us. They were cute but wasn’t sure how to make a move.

To probably make things more complicated majority of my friends there were women. So not sure if these girl’s thought I could have been in a relationship or what.

[dynamicyandere]

You just decide to. But you can start with small, more ambiguous signs of interest and see how they react.


If they like where things are going, they will welcome it. If they don’t like where things are going, they will feel uncomfortable.


The important key is reading them, to be able to sense whether or not they like the attention you’re giving them, or they are trying to discourage it. (i. e. Them not flirting back at all or becoming less engaged are signs for you to put on the breaks and take a few steps back.)


It takes a lot of intuition to flirt seamlessly and fluidly. It’s like a dance, and energetic dance that happening between you two, but it’s all unspoken.


The key to flirting in general is being able to read non-verbal signals and send non-verbal signals. It’s not what they say, it’s the WAY they say something to you. It’s not that they’re looking at you, it’s the WAY they’re looking at you.


Even if you’re not in person. If you're texting, it’s not the words themselves. It’s the energy they feel that’s BEHIND those words.


Flirting is very intuitive and has a lot of nuance. But, with this understanding, you can get better with experience.

[dynamicyandere]

put on the brakes*

[WilmaReportu]

Yeah say some trash like this to me and I will take it upon myself to report you to the proper authorities. So, if you wish to stay out of trouble, think twice before you speak.

[dynamicyandere]

@WilmaReportu I’m literally talking about respecting people’s boundaries when initiating conversations and being considerate of how they feel.

If you report people for trying to be courteous and respectful with the way they communicate, then it sounds like you’re just looking to create drama out of thin air.

[Akam93]

Eye contact, smiling a lot, be vocal, just show interest.