I work as an accountant at an accounting office. We were a franchise until the owner just recently sold to the corporation. There’s a new lady that was sent here to be in charge, she’s running multiple offices, but is based out of the one I’m at.
Thing is, at my office I’m the only man there, and I believe all the other offices have only women there. This new boss I know is single and I can’t help but feel attracted to her. Besides being physically attractive, she laughs at my jokes and comments I make. Then there’s ways she does things when she talks to me that she does differently than when she talks to the girls, almost in a shy, cute way.
At the same time, she’s my boss, so I keep things professional, knowing that it can affect my career. At the same time, I’d be interested in getting to know her outside of work, but if I did try and she wasn’t interested, it could make things awkward. Then there’s the potential of if something did happen and ended up in a failed relationship, it could be a problem at work. But I haven’t met someone I was interested in since a breakup 2 years ago and don’t get much of a chance to meet anyone
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The extraordinarily wise @WhitneySnow knows exactly what I'm going to say and I thank her for the tag.
Please please please don't pursue or engage anything with this woman.
Sure, be attracted to her if you want. Even crush. But don't do anything outside your mind.
Why?
Simply put, workplace relationships almost never work out--they crash and burn. With a boss it's worse.
Add to this, you said your workplace is not part of a corporation. That adds several layers of HR policy to this.
Bad idea.
As you said you're already doing, stay professional, do your job, keep your distance.
I completely agree. Workplace relationships can be a disaster. At the same time I’ve had workplace relationships that didn’t crash and burn. But never with a boss
I think you should approach her and be honest about it. Say “let me know if I’m crossing a line” then proceed to mention how you know she’s your boss and you want to keep things professional, but at the same time you would be interested in getting to know her outside of work, because she seems really nice and you enjoy talking to her. Say you don’t want to make things awkward between you, so you would totally understand if she’s not interested.
I have some ideas, but I’ve never actually had a job, so I’m going to defer to @SnowedIn rather than risk giving you bad advice.