Do you and your close opposite gender friends flirt casually?

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CaptainOverthink · Accepted Answer

Yes.. well. Not sure it's very casually, actually, I'm trying.
Currently treading the edge of chaos trying not to create a drama-triangle.

I'm trying to be friends with everyone in class and on campus while being supportive, inclusive, funny, up-beat, a party-animal, proactively managing a gym-squad and still prioritizing school.
Let just say that my social recognition is driving the women up the walls and I'm just trying to apply restraint in order to not hurt anymore than can't be avoided.

I am clowning a lot and I don't avoid eye-contact (it's important to get the point across and to read off expressions, why would I not), so I guess it becomes a bit intense naturally. Not my meaning, but it happens. I try to not think too much on it but.. ye my name on GaG say it all. It's a working in progress.

Flirting I think is a bit unavoidable and I think it's supposed to be viewed causually outside of a persistant context. It happens naturally without intention and if I had a girlfriend I would try to see it like that and that whatever she's thinking is a test on her restraint and ability to mark out a clear boundry.
Meanwhile a test on me to maintain my line of thinking and trust in her to keep me and what we've got in perspective to what she is feeling.

Hell, if I insert myself, it continues on down inappropriate roads and I find him charming and with good vibe, I might suggest to her an experimental road ahead.

DaveJord · Accepted Answer

So, you say "close opposite gender Friends." or did you me opposite gender close friends? Because I have no close opposite gender freinds... I mean they either straight woman or men.

I do have opposite gender close freinds... sort of. I say sort of, because I would date any of them and they know it. But I would not say they are close freinds, because because I keep them at a distance on purpose.

I just call them woman, because I am a man... so my close WOMEN freinds, I flirt constantly with them, and they make it fun to do so. And if they didn't have fun with it, then they would not be my close woman freind.

Why that is simple, men and woman love to get that playful banter from the opposite sex. Yes, we would like it to be from a boyfriend and girlfriend... but it's better to get from a freind then not at all. Here is the issue though with this type of thing... the more playful it gets the more you start thinking as a man it is or could be something more than just freinds.

Cynicaldreamer · Accepted Answer

No, not at all! People seriously do that with their friends? Weird.

The majority of my guy friends are married or taken, and even the ones that are single don't flirt with me. I guess I'm either very lucky to have decent friends, or very unattractive 🤷‍♀️

xKayTea · Accepted Answer

No, even when I am single, there is nothing more that I hate then people who cannot keep a platonic friendship platonic, and if given the opportunity would take it further. I want real friendships, not friendships with ulterior motives.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

I am in a committed relationship. I wouldn't want my fiancée flirting with anyone and I don't want to do that to her, either.

AviatorTom · Answer

Sometimes I flirt with a woman friend, she knows I'm only kidding. It's good practice for when I'm really trying to flirt.

Nxtawm · Answer

Not rlly, like maybe once or twice but I feel weird about it. I flirt a lot with my girl friends tho, just cause I’m confident in my own sexuality (being straight) so I don’t mind appearing fruity, plus I feel more comfortable knowing they won’t misunderstand me

Anonymous · Answer

I think I (jokingly) "flirt" with some of my male friends more, than genuinely flirting with my close female friends. I'm pretty straight forward with female friends so there's NO question on where we stand.

I had a friend who called her family honey and darling, so she accidentally did this with me. "Awww, you want me! You just called me "babe." You want to kiiiiiiss me, you want to cuuuuuuddle me. Get in line, lady!"

If anything, unintentional or misread is probably what happens more with close platonic girl friends than anything.

I generally flirt with girls I'm friendly with and (sort of) know, but might be more interested in dating them... either that, or as a joke.

MysticDevice · Answer

In a way yes. Me and one friend flirted outrageously for years till she got married.

Another one, the "flirting" consists of she- said jokes and thats it.

And the last one she flirts with me and I get annoyed by it cause she's actually in to me but I don't feel the same.

boggboss · Answer

Nope don't try to mix friends and sexual attraction

LittleSally · Answer

Never. For those who do, they don't respect their partners nor their friends. And I see there are at least 38% people on here who do that, apparently... Sad.

serious · Answer

I never had a friend of opposite gender and even if I did I would never flirt or do anything that I consider as cheap and inappropriate. I would always know my boundaries and maintain them also.

provokeesmokee · Answer

Some of us do, sometimes. But we have that sort of relationship that we've built over years, and it comes with constant checking in about whether lines have been crossed.

haiuyu · Answer

Sometimes, although most of the time he will be the one to initiate the flirting. And I flirt back. Coz I see the guy as a friend, but if he flirts with me casually, I'll take it as a compliment.

Meropatrick · Answer

Come on y'all pretending not to flirt with your friends. I bet you they do. even in a playful way. If they dont flirt its either their friend is ugly af or they are boring af. Its really fun to act playful around your friend especially if they have a sense of humor

BigDog1989 · Answer

Then they wouldn't be "just friends" There's NEVER such thing as "just friends" I GUARAN FUCKING TEE IT

Sasha0426 · Answer

I can’t even flirt to begin with. If a guy friend is flirting with me, I don’t know how to react.

Anemone978 · Answer

No.. close male friends are just that.. friends.. that is why we are close.. As for acquaintances yeah I will usually flirt with them..

Smashingdoozy · Answer

God no. There's no such thing as casual flirting.  I might compliment them but it's not in a flirtatious way at all.

Nikki1989 · Answer

Sometimes depending on what you call flirting.

mandyfire98 · Answer

Sometimes. It just depends. I've always been very playful with all of my friends.

petitedollbabee · Answer

Definitely not. They’re a friend. Not someone that I’m interested in romantically.

BunBun369 · Answer

I flirt with male or female I don't descriminate. Anyone can get it. 🤦🏽‍♀️😂👀🤣😭😆😋

DeeDeeDeVour · Answer

Some of the guys playfully flirt with me but I simply don't reciprocate.

ArrowheadSW · Answer

I have a lot of friends of the opposite gender but I really don't flirt with them.

Anonymous · Answer

Flirting is fun, nothing has to come of it, sometimes it's just my way of joking around. Some friends I flirt with cause I find it funny that they're repulsed by the idea and some other friends I'd actually consider dating but it's not something I try not to take too seriously.

sheenagwapa · Answer

i don't flirt irl 😂😂😂idk how. i jusr trear them loke my female friends

ItsMykolaJenkins · Answer

I never flirt if a person if not of my sexual or romantic interest

I ha e my boyfriend to flirt with and its not nornal to flirt if you have no romantic or sex interest, just be nice polite and friendly

SolitarySolace · Answer

I don’t have any friends of the opposite gender. None I do anything with anyway. I have female coworkers though but they’re just that, coworkers.

Anonymous · Answer

Depends on the friend. Some girls are OK with it. Some are not. Like telling a dark joke, know your audience.

DarkWinterNights · Answer

I haven’t had close friends of the opposite gender since high school.

KrakenAttackin · Answer

Your "close opposite gender" (guy friends) all want to bang you,. otherwise they wouldn't be your "friend".

clampfan101 · Answer

If I’m not considering going further than friendship I see no point.

genericname85 · Answer

for me personally: only if i hope to be more than friends.

worldscolide · Answer

No, it's inappropriate as I am married. I would never want to give them or my wife the incorrect impression.

Al_Musafir · Answer

No. I am not close friends with any female. The boundaries and limits need to stay in place.

WhitneySnow · Answer

Not typically no. It would catch me off guard if a guy friend did that to me.

dolemite58 · Answer

i have female acquaintances, i don’t have female friends

Anonymous · Answer

No. I only flirt with guy im into or a guy i wanna fuck

Anonymous · Answer

Yes we do and there are times when we talk dirty to one another when feeling horny 😉😈

exitseven · Answer

We used to back in yhe day.

Guido · Answer

I used to do thst a lot.

Spongebobssocks · Answer

Never!

LavLavLuv · Answer

Nope

Kelly6 · Answer

mostly

Wise4myage · Answer

Sure, occasionally.

strateguy632 · Answer

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