In your opinion, is it ok for your partner to flirt with their/your friends in a joking manner?

[ItzLaura]

Is it ok for your partner to flirt with friends jokingly?

[OlderAndWiser]

There are some things that should NEVER be the subject of a joke and anything suggesting that my partner has any interest in another guy is one of those things. If somebody makes that the subject of a joke, I will definitely NOT be laughing!

[PapaSlade]

Nothing's immune from being the subject of a joke, if you're scared to joke about something it shows you're scared it might not be a joke

[OlderAndWiser]

@PapaSlade "if you're scared to joke about something it shows you're scared it might not be a joke" So that's the only reason which occurs to you. This may be a big surprise to you but everyone else does not think and feel the way you do. If you care about other people's feelings whatsoever. then there are some things which simply should not be the subject of a joke. Would you tease a guy about his mother if she died two weeks ago? Would you "joke" with a girl about "I'm going to rape you tonight!"? When you get older, hopefully you will be more sensitive to the feelings of others. Until then, your attitude may lead into problems in your relationships.

People who like to make insensitive "jokes" are usually filled with suppressed hostility which needs an outlet. Ponder that point.

[OlderAndWiser]

Thanks for MHO!

[Logorithim]

Depends on how comfortable the SO is with that.

[Pennypolish]

What if he said the following via text to a close female friend?

Her- That salesman brought me donuts again. Chocolate ones.
Him- That dude really wants it
Her- I’m about to let him have it if he brings those chocolate ones lol
Him- damn. about to go buy some chocolate donuts!

[theHalflife]

Yeah thats flirting

[Pennypolish]

@theHalflife I don't know if it’s a funny banter joke. Or he was hitting on her. They’ve been close friends a while and she got a man. I’m confussed.

[theHalflife]

All i know if i were to type and send that it wouldn't be much of banter

[Pennypolish]

@theHalflife but she’s not available and just last week he was saying she’s marrying the dude. Lol. Maybe he’s just messing around and stuff.

[theHalflife]

Okay could be messing around then but i would still say the joke behind the message is "i also want to fuck you", she made a joke about fucking some guy even though she's taken. Maybe i dont understand sexual jokes well

[Pennypolish]

@theHalflife trueeee. I know they have a special bond or whatever. I’ll leave it as them messing around to be funny.

[Logorithim]

Thanks for the MHO

[Wowgirl30q]

@Logorithim
Everyone above 30 said not really.
Youth😀

[Wowgirl30q]

I don't care if joking it's inappropriate to me and can be misread. I hit on all guys except,,,,, no way

[Logorithim]

@Wowgirl30q: Well, I wouldn't be OK with it, nor would my girlfriend; however, rule of thumb is that the couple needs to define for themselves what is OK for them.

Thanks for the MHO

[Wowgirl30q]

Your a good guy and your girlfriend sounds like she agrees which is good 😏 people learn by trial and error you mean? I want my friends to get along with him but like a buddy. I don't think a good friend would be okay with it either

[laurenok]

There’s nothing wrong with that lol people need to chill. It’s just fun and flirts. If you have a problem you clearly have an inferiority complex which you need to address.

[LenaMunter]

I think it’s OK if you trust each other. There’s nothing wrong with a little playful banter. I like having my fun sometimes, as well.

[Pinay_ako]

The question is how comfortable is he going to be when I jokingly flirt with HIS friends?

[InTimoreDei]

My partner doesn't have male friends and doesn't believe that women who are taken should have opposite sex friends. So, it would never happen in my case.

The only female friends that I have, I met through my partner but I only see them when I am with her. I don't meet with them alone. I would never flirt with them in front of her nor ever, really. That is inappropriate.

[Tuomaaash]

I mean if it´s obvious that they don´t like each other in that way and I´m right there with them, I don´t mind. Sometimes I say a perverted joke to my friend´s girlfriend too so it´s all fine. My friends are already married/engaged and we know we would never even think about doing anything stupid with another girl so I´d just laugh about it. The question itself, however, was pretty vague and there would be flirting that I wouldn´t approve too.

[Under_Maps_OF_twigs]

Yes. Male and female flirtations should be allowed. We have that perfect ying/yang combo to us.

If people get so flaky that it bothers them, then their self confidence is damaged. Males and females relate to each other in ways that shows our appreciation for each others‘ beauty.

[Danielthestig3]

Nope! It can start out innocent but it’s really setting up for your partner to be able to cheat on u and not even start out really intending to cheat on u with some person.

[Prankster13]

I don't like that, no. I understand if it's just a joke, but one of my friends, not to mention me sometimes, uses jokes to flirt. So it would be like the same thing and it could be really confusing.. I don't want that.

[beebella]

If they feel the need to "joke" like that, then maybe I need to consider the kind of person that I'm with.

[VaIiant]

I would never be okay with my partner flirting with anyone else, period. Flirting is a way to show sexual attraction towards someone- why would I be okay with that?
That being said- my boyfriend knows all of my friends and is friendly/friends with them- I like that he has a good natured, teasing relationship with them. But NEVER flirting.

[Baew93]

Unless they’ve previously given you a valid reason to be jealous or insecure about that, then I would say that it’s probably harmless. But if it actually becomes blatant and over the top or it starts to really bother you or the SO, then say something. Talk about it. Don’t avoid it

[princessfromjupiter]

I would not appreciate that at all.
I have guy friends who keep making sexual jokes with me despite being in a relationship and that already bugs me (coz like where’s your loyalty bronski), so who knows how I’d react if my partner did that with random guys or girls.

[Pennypolish]

You said your guy friends make those jokes with you- but do they mean it? Cause the guy I like he said the following via text to a close female friend

Her- That salesman brought me donuts again. Chocolate ones.
Him- That dude really wants it
Her- I’m about to let him have it if he brings those chocolate ones lol
Him- damn. about to go buy some chocolate donuts!

[princessfromjupiter]

@Pennypolish no way to know for sure unless she’d respond positively to his jokes. Like I had a “guy friend” text me shit like “send nudes” and I’m like “oh do you want them of me in bed or in the bathtub?” and he responded “BOTH 😍” so I’m honestly confused 😂 I ended up sending on that’s completely pixelated and he went “haha damn”

[Pennypolish]

Lmao see that’s how they act with one another. Maybe it’s just their banter?

[princessfromjupiter]

@Pennypolish yeah you really can’t tell unless you’re the guy himself but I still feel like it’s unusual or strange to make comments like that especially when messaging or talking in private if you have no hidden agenda at all

[LingyRolls]

I'm kinda iffy about it for him flirting with other girls. But my husband is fine if I'm really flirty with his friends.

[winterfox10]

I am in a situation like this. The big question is whether or not it is a secret. Are the flirtations behind kept a secret? If yes, then no, it isn't appropriate.

[JDavid25]

Naw, cause then I would feel like there's some truth in those jokes...

[CoffeeWC]

As long as it's okay with you. If you feel uncomfortable by that you should tell him, and he will probably stop. If you have a problem with his behavior he won't know until you tell him to. Be direct. We can't read minds.

[Pennypolish]

What if he said the following via text to a close female friend?

Her- That salesman brought me donuts again. Chocolate ones.
Him- That dude really wants it
Her- I’m about to let him have it if he brings those chocolate ones lol
Him- damn. about to go buy some chocolate donuts!

[CoffeeWC]

@Pennypolish That could be taken literally or figuratively. But you won't know for sure until you talk to him about it.

[Pennypolish]

Yeh I don't know what to do. He’s not my boyfriend or anything. But I’m scared that means he’s into her

[CoffeeWC]

@Pennypolish If he's not your partner, then he's is doing nothing wrong.

[Pennypolish]

But do you think he was picking with her. Or he likes her? What’s crazy is she has a man. And I know him and her are close friends.

[CoffeeWC]

Let him make his choice. If he doesn't choose you, it doesn't make you less of a woman.

[TheWormGuy]

i'm okay with it if i know they're only joking. a jokes a joke.

[smg99]

Yes it’s fine we are all known to each other and it just makes it merry whatever it be

[hahahmm]

Zero flirting. Back when I let women walk all over me I thought it was OK. Now I don’t play.

[Wowgirl30q]

I agree

[Vanillachoc88]

Nope not ok for me! If I’m there you’re not doing that shit! It’s a lack of respect!

[THenny]

No. There are literally millions of other things to joke about lol

[Randomawkwardness]

I mean if it's an actual joke and not him trying to flirt with then