In your opinion, is it ok for your partner to flirt with their/your friends in a joking manner?

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OlderAndWiser · Accepted Answer

There are some things that should NEVER be the subject of a joke and anything suggesting that my partner has any interest in another guy is one of those things. If somebody makes that the subject of a joke, I will definitely NOT be laughing!

Logorithim · Accepted Answer

Depends on how comfortable the SO is with that.

laurenok · Accepted Answer

There’s nothing wrong with that lol people need to chill. It’s just fun and flirts. If you have a problem you clearly have an inferiority complex which you need to address.

LenaMunter · Accepted Answer

I think it’s OK if you trust each other. There’s nothing wrong with a little playful banter. I like having my fun sometimes, as well.

Pinay_ako · Answer

The question is how comfortable is he going to be when I jokingly flirt with HIS friends?

InTimoreDei · Answer

My partner doesn't have male friends and doesn't believe that women who are taken should have opposite sex friends. So, it would never happen in my case.

The only female friends that I have, I met through my partner but I only see them when I am with her. I don't meet with them alone. I would never flirt with them in front of her nor ever, really. That is inappropriate.

Tuomaaash · Answer

I mean if it´s obvious that they don´t like each other in that way and I´m right there with them, I don´t mind. Sometimes I say a perverted joke to my friend´s girlfriend too so it´s all fine. My friends are already married/engaged and we know we would never even think about doing anything stupid with another girl so I´d just laugh about it. The question itself, however, was pretty vague and there would be flirting that I wouldn´t approve too.

Under_Maps_OF_twigs · Answer

Yes. Male and female flirtations should be allowed. We have that perfect ying/yang combo to us.

If people get so flaky that it bothers them, then their self confidence is damaged. Males and females relate to each other in ways that shows our appreciation for each others‘ beauty.

beebella · Answer

If they feel the need to "joke" like that, then maybe I need to consider the kind of person that I'm with.

Danielthestig3 · Answer

Nope! It can start out innocent but it’s really setting up for your partner to be able to cheat on u and not even start out really intending to cheat on u with some person.

Prankster13 · Answer

I don't like that, no. I understand if it's just a joke, but one of my friends, not to mention me sometimes, uses jokes to flirt. So it would be like the same thing and it could be really confusing.. I don't want that.

VaIiant · Answer

I would never be okay with my partner flirting with anyone else, period. Flirting is a way to show sexual attraction towards someone- why would I be okay with that?
That being said- my boyfriend knows all of my friends and is friendly/friends with them- I like that he has a good natured, teasing relationship with them. But NEVER flirting.

Baew93 · Answer

Unless they’ve previously given you a valid reason to be jealous or insecure about that, then I would say that it’s probably harmless. But if it actually becomes blatant and over the top or it starts to really bother you or the SO, then say something. Talk about it. Don’t avoid it

princessfromjupiter · Answer

I would not appreciate that at all.
I have guy friends who keep making sexual jokes with me despite being in a relationship and that already bugs me (coz like where’s your loyalty bronski), so who knows how I’d react if my partner did that with random guys or girls.

LingyRolls · Answer

I'm kinda iffy about it for him flirting with other girls. But my husband is fine if I'm really flirty with his friends.

winterfox10 · Answer

I am in a situation like this. The big question is whether or not it is a secret. Are the flirtations behind kept a secret? If yes, then no, it isn't appropriate.

JDavid25 · Answer

Naw, cause then I would feel like there's some truth in those jokes...

CoffeeWC · Answer

As long as it's okay with you. If you feel uncomfortable by that you should tell him, and he will probably stop. If you have a problem with his behavior he won't know until you tell him to. Be direct. We can't read minds.

TheWormGuy · Answer

i'm okay with it if i know they're only joking. a jokes a joke.

smg99 · Answer

Yes it’s fine we are all known to each other and it just makes it merry whatever it be

hahahmm · Answer

Zero flirting. Back when I let women walk all over me I thought it was OK. Now I don’t play.

Vanillachoc88 · Answer

Nope not ok for me! If I’m there you’re not doing that shit! It’s a lack of respect!

THenny · Answer

No. There are literally millions of other things to joke about lol

Randomawkwardness · Answer

I mean if it's an actual joke and not him trying to flirt with then

liburnia · Answer

Who is to tell it's only joking? I can always tell it's a joke and it really isn't. My partner has no way of knowing it, so it definitely isn't ok to flirt in joking manner with anybody that isn't your partner.

Dillan04 · Answer

As long as they know it's a joke, and I know it's a joke, and of course she knows it's a joke, then I see nothing wrong with that.

StingRayxoxo · Answer

Nope, dont like that.

scr333 · Answer

I would say no but I am kind old fashioned. I’m sure it happens all the time. I guess as long as it’s in humor it’s ok

DakotaNorth · Answer

No. Well, she can have him if her affections are that high. I already played that stupid game.

Anonymous · Answer

If I trust my partner and friends, sure! If I don’t, then obviously not.

CassityGigi · Answer

No, its not okay. I had a friend who flirted with both me and my boyfriend, but cause I didn't say anything she got more flirty and touchy, so I broke ties with her.

inmensus · Answer

That's a tricky question. Where do we set the line between what is a joke and what isn't?

Dsg1193 · Answer

If they’re friends and it’s just a joke (no feelings) then thats fine.

SnickerBars69 · Answer

I'm secure so I dnt see any harm done now if it goes past that complement then yea it might be sum smoke in the city

hhues · Answer

Yeah I'd be a little fine with it, but only if my friends jokingly does it to him first. And then after the one joke is over, don't keep doing it.

LazyMan · Answer

Nope. It's a matter of respect. Even if it's not serious.

DanOh2018 · Answer

Yes, how else is a bro going to make that threesome happen?

CarpetDenim · Answer

Hell no. They should have a little more respect for me and for our relationship.

Lightning8 · Answer

I don't think it's okay. But it still affects me that I had brought up my discomfort about this in a joking manner to my ex, and she basically threw "you're just insecure" in my face.

PapaSlade · Answer

Fine if they mean nothing by it, if you have a problem with it nothing wrong with letting them know

Anonymous · Answer

Flirting isn't always sexual. I like to think of it as harmless banter. Nothing too far of course but just teasing (like if I tease my gay friend , it isn't like I'm actually flirting with him it's just a joke).

Timelesswisdom · Answer

No way. Absolutely not.

Anonymous · Answer

Sure, if the relationship's solid, we trust each other and it's just some friendly banter then cool.

TheFlak38 · Answer

She can do that if she wants to. Just don't expect me to be faithful to her or take her seriously.

Anonymous · Answer

Yeah I guess it’s acceptable I’m in the friendzone anyways

SarahsSummer · Answer

I do it, my boyfriend does it. harmless.

MatinBrumeux · Answer

It's best not to do that.

bananathunder · Answer

depends... if it's a general funny comment then it's cool. but if personal and not funny then no

BronzedAdonis · Answer

cut the shit and grow up

ColeSharp · Answer

I would not like for friends to joking flirt

LuvAsh · Answer

It's not okay with me

AynonOMouse · Answer

Not okay. I wouldn't do it either.

Wowgirl30q · Answer

If he wants put out or kicked out it would be fine

TonyBologna25 · Answer

No that’s disrespectful

honestopinions1oo · Answer

yes but only if i know it’s a joke

Eleni91 · Answer

Flirty jokes are ok but never over the top though.

Iron_Man · Answer

No ma'am that's not cool

Maninderdeepsharma · Answer

Depends upon the person. I

Andremoso · Answer

Its not ok. Early signs of cheaters

Dinklex3 · Answer

No. :)

BeMuse · Answer

Nope.

fauchelevent · Answer

Yeah, that's fine.

Ankitasingh466 · Answer

Yes , but only in my presence.

MyExperience · Answer

Sure. Unless your mate is insecure.

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