Im an attractive woman and I can’t approach my gym crush. I was thinking of leaving a note on his car with my number. Is this weird?

[Lupe12345]

I’ve seen this guy at the gym on the regular basis. Seems like we have the same workout schedule. We do make eye contact here and there. Im so focused on my workout and when I look up he’s staring right at me. So I probably have this look like on my face like I’m mad. Because the workout was intense. We have locked eyes a lot lately, but he won’t come up to me. Not sure if I should do the first move or just leave it alone. I don’t want it to be awkward for either of us

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3 mo

Turns out we both wanted to come up to one another. But the awkwardness was keeping us from doing it. I just went up to him after he was done with his workout. I said ‘hey you look really familiar did we go to high school together?’ He said ‘no’ but said I looked familiar as well that’s why he was staring at me but didn’t want to come up to me. He did introduce himself and was super polite. He also gave me some pointers about upper body workouts. He’s my new gym buddy 😊

[Finchie40]

Just say Hi to him , if he likes you back he will say Hi back then make a joke saying I take it we are on the same work out schedule and more than likely he will respond , just keep the conversation going and eventually you will get
Your answer if he likes you back the same or not

[Lupe12345]

Ill use that , thanks

[Finchie40]

How did you make out? I am curious to know lol

[myloveforuisinfinte]

Just smile at him and say hi, if he is interested he will respond. Just keep the convo short and crisp. Day by day if it works , u both will gonna be friends 🤣and who knows u both will end up dating each other.
Take a baby step first. Confidence is the key and it's the most attractive thing ever. Guys/girl love confident person. but not a despo or idiot, so never ever try to give him your no , if he didn't ask for. be gym friends first , if he wants to continue he will definitely ask your no. first. one more thing , don't show him that u like him or have a crush on him. Just keep things cool as a friend first. All things will happen by itself.
Show your cool , friendly, chill and not give a damm attitude

[Alwayreckles93]

Well let's see you can check and see you could say hebI like your shoes where did you get them and say oh I am look for the same shoes for my brother or cousin and you can keep on with the conversation Or maybe his gym bag or socks from then you can say hi again try to be friendly good conversation.

[FunkyMonkee]

About 20 years ago, I ran into this very sexy girl named, Maria. Apparently, she didn't like me and never spoke to me, even if we were on the same bus sitting near each other. (Turns out, she lives just over the hill from me, about a 8 minute walk from my house.) One day, I'm on a bus and she gets on and sits near me and then some other guy gets on and sits near her, whips out a book or newspaper and starts to read. He doesn't know her any better than you know me, probably less! As I'm sitting there, I watched her pull out a piece of paper and write her name and phone number on it and then tap him so she can give him her number and ask him to call her! She did the same thing a few months later with another guy.

[Lupe12345]

No way! Woooooooow , sorry to hear.
I don’t give my number to anyone I’m very cautious when it comes to that

[FunkyMonkee]

I don't blame you! Apparently, she found him/them interesting and wanted to fuck him/them.

[FunkyMonkee]

Your recent success reminds me of a story about a couple guys hanging out at a bar and watching this other guy go from woman to woman. He appeared to be striking out with each one. Eventually, these guys stopped him and asked why he keeps doing it if he keeps striking out. He said, I didn't strike out EVERY time.. I got a couple of them to give me their number! Just because one turned me down, doesn't mean others will. You just have to keep trying and don't let the rejections bother you. Okay, you got rejected by that one, so what? Just shrug it off and go to the next one. You're NOT gonna be 100% successful so, why shoot for that? The point is, you TRIED!
It's kinda like going fishing; you toss your line in the water and hope that something will bite and you'll catch something. But, if you don't catch anything, you'll still keep trying, right?

[Amara_09]

Don’t leave a note. Smile at him and talk to him when you notice he is taking a break from the sets or leave the same time as him to talk to him when you’re both walking to your cars

[Lupe12345]

Leaving at the same time would work ,’mhhhh I didn’t think about that ‘ thanks

[HawkPerception]

It's not weird as a few of these comments are saying. The people saying so probably have a lack of social skills.

Just approach and start talking to the guy. It'll be fine. Most men love being approached.

[Lupe12345]

I have never approached a man before , but this time I can. Thanks

[HawkPerception]

Wish you luck 😊

[HawkPerception]

See? That wasn't so bad

[theREELZNEEZZ]

Don't worry, you're a woman. Nothing you can do will be seen as creepy or weird, but if you want to know OBJECTIVELY -- trust me, as someone who has received these random letters of 'interest,' --- just ask yourself...
... if a man did this to some random woman, would it be weeeeeird?
ya

[BoopBoopBeep]

Toxic women on tiktok have made sure men never approach women at a gym. If you like him you'll have to be the one to initiate. If the best you can do is number on his car it beats nothing, or you could ask him if you can buy him a recovery drink or whatever after a hard workout.

[lorenzomichael]

Listen just go up to him and give him a nice compliment. And then ask him would he like to join you at Starbucks. No pressure. He'll know exactly what your getting at. And if not brake his car window. 😁 Your a big girl don't be scared.

[Lupe12345]

😆 no breaking car windows

[lorenzomichael]

I was kidding.

[Joshydavid25]

The next time you guys lock eyes, smile and wave at him, and maybe then he'll see that as an invitation.. If that doesn't work, you could just introduce yourself to him once and for all..

[Lupe12345]

We have locked eyes a few times , but we are both really into our workout. But yes I’ll take that advice thanks

[Joshydavid25]

Aw that's nice that it worked out!.. Looks like a relationship in the making..

[MikeTheBartender]

Definitely don't leave a note on his car, he might not know who it is, or it might just be weird. Try to hit him up on the way out, ask how the workout was, see if he starts a conversation. If he seems super shy you can be a little more forward, but if he is into you everything should be good. Then you can exchange phone numbers etc

[DarkWinterNights]

Leaving a note on his car makes it look like you’re stalking him. Just approach him for conversation, it’s the only way.
Start with some super casual stuff like the weather to gauge his reaction. Make sure he doesn’t have headphones in. Then graduate to something a little more substantive.
If he finds you attractive or if he’s interested he’ll make a move. If he doesn’t or you find out through conversation he’s seeing someone else you can bow out gracefully and save face.

[Luckycharms12]

Ya very weird talk to person ask them if want grab coffee after the gym. Ask him to spot you for way to get talking.

[Lupe12345]

Yeah , I’d definitely will do that. If he says ‘no’ thats okay too. Thanks for your feedback

[Luckycharms12]

No problem

[ShadezMcgee]

I think you should just go talk to the guy for a minute rather than leaving a note on his windshield. He probably won't know who left it or may see it as a prank.

Talk to him, get a feel and shoot your shot.

[Ashley1993]

No that's fine, someway or the other do approach him

[bradley142]

so everyone is different id much rather have a woman come up to me not leave a note not trying to sound mean but if i like her i want to feel like im talking to a real woman not a girl that can't talk to me like I don't know i feel as if she would need to grow up a lttle but good luck

[DryGermanGuy]

Do the famous bend-and-snap move from Legally Blonde.

[Anonymous]

I am a pretty girl and I would just go up and say hi and let him take it from there. He can make a move or not and no one is embarrassed.

[Smashingdoozy]

How do you expect to go on a date or anything with him if you can't even approach him?

[Lupe12345]

Very true , thanks for your feedback

[exitseven]

No, if you leave a note on his car it would be weird. Just ask him how his workouts are going. If he is interested he will carry on a conversation with you

[Keith469]

It's so much hotter when a woman is direct with me.

Take the risk.

[PrincelyGlove]

You can do that if you want, but I think you only really need to make yourself clearly available to him? Make it clear you are interested, and let him make the first move.

[Nikki1989]

Are you 36 or 16?

An adult person in their 30s talking about crushes is hard to take seriously.

[Lupe12345]

Hahaha I agree !
I think that’s what the kids call it nowadays. I should have said I’m attracted to someone at the gym.

[MikeTheBartender]

No way! It's cute and gives us all hope!

[Lupe12345]

@MikeTheBartender hahaha I’ll do it next time I see him.

[Billlewis]

No, it's not weird, if that's the only way you can get in touch with him.