Im an attractive woman and I can’t approach my gym crush. I was thinking of leaving a note on his car with my number. Is this weird?

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I’ve seen this guy at the gym on the regular basis. Seems like we have the same workout schedule. We do make eye contact here and there. Im so focused on my workout and when I look up he’s staring right at me. So I probably have this look like on my face like I’m mad. Because the workout was intense. We have locked eyes a lot lately, but he won’t come up to me. Not sure if I should do the first move or just leave it alone. I don’t want it to be awkward for either of us

myloveforuisinfinte · Accepted Answer

Just smile at him and say hi, if he is interested he will respond. Just keep the convo short and crisp. Day by day if it works , u both will gonna be friends 🤣and who knows u both will end up dating each other.
Take a baby step first. Confidence is the key and it's the most attractive thing ever. Guys/girl love confident person. but not a despo or idiot, so never ever try to give him your no , if he didn't ask for. be gym friends first , if he wants to continue he will definitely ask your no. first. one more thing , don't show him that u like him or have a crush on him. Just keep things cool as a friend first. All things will happen by itself.
Show your cool , friendly, chill and not give a damm attitude

Alwayreckles93 · Accepted Answer

Well let's see you can check and see you could say hebI like your shoes where did you get them and say oh I am look for the same shoes for my brother or cousin and you can keep on with the conversation Or maybe his gym bag or socks from then you can say hi again try to be friendly good conversation.

FunkyMonkee · Accepted Answer

About 20 years ago, I ran into this very sexy girl named, Maria. Apparently, she didn't like me and never spoke to me, even if we were on the same bus sitting near each other. (Turns out, she lives just over the hill from me, about a 8 minute walk from my house.) One day, I'm on a bus and she gets on and sits near me and then some other guy gets on and sits near her, whips out a book or newspaper and starts to read. He doesn't know her any better than you know me, probably less! As I'm sitting there, I watched her pull out a piece of paper and write her name and phone number on it and then tap him so she can give him her number and ask him to call her! She did the same thing a few months later with another guy.

Finchie40 · Accepted Answer

Just say Hi to him , if he likes you back he will say Hi back then make a joke saying I take it we are on the same work out schedule and more than likely he will respond , just keep the conversation going and eventually you will get
Your answer if he likes you back the same or not

HawkPerception · Answer

It's not weird as a few of these comments are saying. The people saying so probably have a lack of social skills.

Just approach and start talking to the guy. It'll be fine. Most men love being approached.

lorenzomichael · Answer

Listen just go up to him and give him a nice compliment. And then ask him would he like to join you at Starbucks. No pressure. He'll know exactly what your getting at. And if not brake his car window. 😁 Your a big girl don't be scared.

Amara_09 · Answer

Don’t leave a note. Smile at him and talk to him when you notice he is taking a break from the sets or leave the same time as him to talk to him when you’re both walking to your cars

theREELZNEEZZ · Answer

Don't worry, you're a woman. Nothing you can do will be seen as creepy or weird, but if you want to know OBJECTIVELY -- trust me, as someone who has received these random letters of 'interest,' --- just ask yourself...
... if a man did this to some random woman, would it be weeeeeird?
ya

Joshydavid25 · Answer

The next time you guys lock eyes, smile and wave at him, and maybe then he'll see that as an invitation.. If that doesn't work, you could just introduce yourself to him once and for all..

BoopBoopBeep · Answer

Toxic women on tiktok have made sure men never approach women at a gym. If you like him you'll have to be the one to initiate. If the best you can do is number on his car it beats nothing, or you could ask him if you can buy him a recovery drink or whatever after a hard workout.

DarkWinterNights · Answer

Leaving a note on his car makes it look like you’re stalking him. Just approach him for conversation, it’s the only way.
Start with some super casual stuff like the weather to gauge his reaction. Make sure he doesn’t have headphones in. Then graduate to something a little more substantive.
If he finds you attractive or if he’s interested he’ll make a move. If he doesn’t or you find out through conversation he’s seeing someone else you can bow out gracefully and save face.

MikeTheBartender · Answer

Definitely don't leave a note on his car, he might not know who it is, or it might just be weird. Try to hit him up on the way out, ask how the workout was, see if he starts a conversation. If he seems super shy you can be a little more forward, but if he is into you everything should be good. Then you can exchange phone numbers etc

Luckycharms12 · Answer

Ya very weird talk to person ask them if want grab coffee after the gym. Ask him to spot you for way to get talking.

Smashingdoozy · Answer

How do you expect to go on a date or anything with him if you can't even approach him?

ShadezMcgee · Answer

I think you should just go talk to the guy for a minute rather than leaving a note on his windshield. He probably won't know who left it or may see it as a prank.

Talk to him, get a feel and shoot your shot.

Ashley1993 · Answer

No that's fine, someway or the other do approach him

bradley142 · Answer

so everyone is different id much rather have a woman come up to me not leave a note not trying to sound mean but if i like her i want to feel like im talking to a real woman not a girl that can't talk to me like I don't know i feel as if she would need to grow up a lttle but good luck

DryGermanGuy · Answer

Do the famous bend-and-snap move from Legally Blonde.

Anonymous · Answer

I am a pretty girl and I would just go up and say hi and let him take it from there. He can make a move or not and no one is embarrassed.

Keith469 · Answer

It's so much hotter when a woman is direct with me. Take the risk.

Nikki1989 · Answer

Are you 36 or 16?  An adult person in their 30s talking about crushes is hard to take seriously.

exitseven · Answer

No, if you leave a note on his car it would be weird. Just ask him how his workouts are going. If he is interested he will carry on a conversation with you

PrincelyGlove · Answer

You can do that if you want, but I think you only really need to make yourself clearly available to him? Make it clear you are interested, and let him make the first move.

Billlewis · Answer

No, it's not weird, if that's the only way you can get in touch with him.

HouseMoat · Answer

Gotta come up with a good excuse to try and talk to him. But remember, a lot of the times, a "relationship" based on looks, generally doesn't work out

slatyb · Answer

It's not weird. Do it. If he's not interested, he won't respond.

Shy_Steve · Answer

That would probably work, But I think it would be better if you Approached him when he is alone and He doesn't look that bust and just introduce yourself.

justaskit24 · Answer

I would say get over that fear, women can approach a man and expect it to go better than if it were the other way around. Go for it

Krisastrapatel · Answer

I’m a guy who works out. To be honest, if I was approached by even a mid looking girl, I would be nice and say hi and maybe exchange numbers. Just go up to him.

Danny_dan92 · Answer

Sit on his lap when he’s bench pressing

Twalli · Answer

If you have the same workout schedule walk up and say hi to him.

laly520 · Answer

bit weird to do that just go n say hi

jaskin777 · Answer

Just go up to him and say hi

VictorMachiavelli · Answer

I'd find it weird.

Roudyrebel8 · Answer

Just talk to him I'm sure you'll do fine

dolemite58 · Answer

That would creep me out ngl lol

Anonymous · Answer

Weird? no. Creepy? Yes.

Anonymous · Answer

Very interesting question

Anonymous · Answer

Hey, that's not a bad idea.

ChicoFromThe305 · Answer

Leap of faith Lupe

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